Trouble in Paradise
cmcar
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Trouble in Paradise
My fiancee and I have been arguing nonstop since we got engaged. We have argued before but not to this extent. We have been at each other throats. He has been sleeping in the living room or the other bedroom for a bit. I'm not sure if it is just the wedding stress or if there is a deeper root to these issues. Has anyone else been having a less than bliss engagement?
Re: Trouble in Paradise
What I suggest:
1-Put the wedding on hold; if you have set a date, put it on hold indefinitely
2-Get counseling; both jointly and separately; see a regular marriage counselor and consult your officiant, if you are having a wedding in a house of worship.
3-DO NOT get married unless the fighting has been resolved. If it continues despite the counseling or he refuses to go, don't marry him at all.
I don't know how long you have been engaged; that is key information, too; for all we know the wedding is in very short time.
You cannot marry a guy you argue with constantly.
Moreover, what are the fights about? Please give us more backstory
Put the wedding on hold, scrap your plans and sit down and discuss together what kind of wedding is feasible and acceptable to the both of you.
If you can't afford what you have planned, PLAN what you can afford --- no borrowing money no asking parents for cash.
It is not quantity: it is quality.
There is somebody I know who scrapped the traditional wedding and took perhaps 30 people into New York City for a very small and intimate wedding. They had the ceremony outside in Central Park and afterwards, everyone went to a hotel in the city for a party and reception.
Until then, it's anyone's guess what the arguments are about.