Trouble in Paradise
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His friends are really disrespectful
Re: His friends are really disrespectful
My head hurts. That's all I can say.
If you stay with him:
You will come in last. His friends will be the ones who take precedence. He will let them defame you, mistreat you, verbally abuse you, interfere with you at work and treat you like a common criminal.
Does this kind of life sound like a good one to you?
He will lie to you constantly about where he goes and what he does and all you will be is his doormat.
Get out now before a child accidentally or purposely makes its way into this hell you are in.
And for the last time:
THIS WILL BE AN ANNULMENT.
NOT a divorce.
They are 2 different things. Don't you even understand that much???
OP:
You are even more deluded about what is right than HE is. Step up, really?
WHY are you in such a damn dreamland over this little creep?
She will be at home, writing a Hallmark Channel screenplay based on the wonderful guy she married. It'll be something for her to do.
I was not being funny.:(
This is sad? Yes it is. But this is sad because it is the OP's choice to be sad. And her choice to choose a sad way to live and be married to the saddest and sorriest creep of them all.
Nobody likes a martyr. And nobody likes a person who refuses to be self aware. This is a "fool me once" thing --- the first time his friends did this, it was on his group of friends. The second time and other times this happened and her then-bf didn't make sure the buck stopped there, it was on HER.
I ams tarting to think she is the larger problem in this picture. She is the one who has the ultimate of choices and the ultimate in workable solutions:
Dump this bastard and get the marriage annulled. And do so from a locale where he does not know where you are nor can he reach you.
Why are so many women SO desperate that they have to delude themselves into believing "but no, despite ALLLLL the evidence to the contrary, my guy is a GOOD guy!!!".
OP - I'm not saying your DH is a horrible person across the board, but he is NOT this "loving", non-fighter of a person you say he is. He just isn't. He has poor character. This is who he is. He'll lie to you, hang out w/ people who are rude to you, etc. Basically- he'll fight YOU over them, but he won't fight them over you.
Do you really not see this???
This is NOT a "good" person that you so desperately try to make him out to be.
http://markmanson.net/love
5 seconds should have elapsed and then she should have run like hell, not stick around for 5 years and be a happy recipient of this abuse.
And you sure as all heck don't marry a loser like that! She married him!!!.
And ideally that should have happened when she met this funky bunch.
OP: If you dated guys before you met this wunnerful man you married, what where they like? I guarantee you that maybe one or 2 of the BF's friends might have been a pain in the ass or a guy you were not really crazy about -- that is no big deal ---- but I will bet they were nobody who would do anything to hurt you.
And come again on this, if you can:
Anyways, yes... I have looked at both anullment and divorce documents already and had a chat with him about signing these in lieu of a worse breakup down the road and he wants to work it out like usual.
A chat about signing what??? Do you understand what happens during the process of dissolving a marriage?
My head is spinning from that statement. What you said makes no sense at all.
I have deleted my facebook account completely to clear my head and changed my name back to maiden name and am being pretty hardcore with him about resolving this for good before the move.
lThere is no way you could have “just” changed your name back to your maiden name. You are not divorced or annulled and your spouse is not deceased--- you would provide proof of divorce or annulment or death of a spouse and then you’d have your name changed to its original state.
In your case, you’d have to petition a judge to request your name be changed back to your maiden name and I believe you’d have to provide very good reason for the name change. I am pretty sure that is how it works.
Say, what do you know, anyway? It doesn’t sound like you know anything much at all.
If you mean that you simply decided to call yourself Mary Smith instead of Mary Loser, and legally your name is his last name, I do not think that's legal at all. Legally your name is Mary Loser. You have attained your husband's last name.