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Re: Kid help
We started evaluations for DS around age 4, at the urging of his daycare teachers. His behaviors are mostly present at school but definitely carry over into the home environment as well. The difference in ALL of our lives since he started regular services a year ago is remarkable. We are all happier and less stressed, including DS. DH and I feel like much more effective parents - and we have great professionals we can turn to or bounce ideas off whenever needed. I feel much less guilty about the stress he's putting on his teachers and how much of a disturbance he creates in the learning environment. Staying on top of meetings, insurance, etc to coordinate his services isn't always easy but I know it's worth it.
While we had a great weekend and mostly good Monday, yesterday morning and this morning were difficult and dd missed the bus today. She had some sort of annoyance with her clothes and just couldn't snap out of it.
I called the pedi's office and a nurse is supposed to call me back to discuss and go from there.
Thanks everyone!
But a lot of this kind of stuff feel like band aids to me rather than really fixing the issues
I thought she was hearing me that really did does not care about consequences and that I feel hopeless because she just doesn't care so I can't get her to do anything.
But her suggestion ended up being for us to change things up and try something different for the next couple weeks. If I had ideas on different things I could try I would not be here. I have been trying different things for years!! She suggested 123 magic which made me want to scream. That book is a joke for dd. she suggested trying again and another one. Sigh! I didn't expect concrete advice but was hoping if she didn't think it was normal that she would refer us to somebody else!
I think I'm going to call the office and ask for the psychologist recommendations anyways. I need somebody to give me somewhere specific to go with. Obviously what we try does not work for dd I have no idea what will. And I worry that things we do try just make things worse.
To top it off she screamed at me the entire way to daycare because she forgot her backpack. I had no time to get it and she needs some consequences. Daycare was having special lunch today so she really just was going to miss out on a few packed extras and ketchup. But it was like the world had ended. She said mean thing after mean thing to me then refused to go in the building. Had to call Dh to talk to her. Then I physically had to drag her in her room. I'm sure the teachers think I'm terrible. And her teacher totally coddles her and tells her they will get her ketchup. So much for natural consequences! So sick of this.
I'm not sure where you're located exactly, April - but you might want to give one of these places a call:
http://www.cham.org/programs/behavior/
http://nyp.org/komansky/patient_care/medical_services/child_development/index.html
http://ccmc.northshorelij.com/content/developmental-and-behavioral-pediatrics
http://www.westchestermedicalcenter.com/DevelopmentalPediatrics
http://www.mountsinai.org/patient-care/service-areas/children/areas-of-care/developmental-behavioral-pediatrics
http://www.stonybrookchildrens.org/specialties-services/pediatric-specialties/development-behavioral-pediatrics