Family Matters
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Bridezilla Sister and the wedding from hell
@TarponMonoxide We had a funny issue with that! H is from Long Island where weddings are a bid deal (as you say) and when I told him mom we wanted a small wedding she said she was fine with it. When we told her we meant 20-30 people at a great restaurant she almost fainted!
I have some social anxiety issues and we were hoping to keep it intimate, We compromised on a nice Sunday afternoon lunch wedding (with a full bar) for a little less than 100 people. And it was still 35K, but our parents paid for it so we wanted to make sure they enjoyed it. It ended up being bigger than I wanted but it felt more reasonable than the 250 people that is apparently common in her area!
I should hope not! That sounds perfectly lovely and very properly hosted. If any of your guests thought you were cheap, they are the ones with a problem.
I actually prefer more casual receptions for weddings. I had a fairly small wedding myself, with just 35 people. We had it at my mom/stepdad's house, though they do have a nicely landscaped good sized patio and deck area. We did have a professional photographer and florist. We had the food and two sig. cocktails catered by a local restaurant, but it was buffet style so no servers or a bartender. We had other drinks in coolers for people to grab.
Nothing too fancy, but I absolutely loved it. We had a beautiful day with our closest family and friends...who I actually had time to talk to...and it was less than $5K.
The only people who think this way are the Judgy McJudgersons of the world. You do what you can afford and what you want from your day. If that means a casual afternoon backyard catered affair, that's perfectly fine. I've been to 2 weddings like this and they were both lovely
The only people who think this way are the Judgy McJudgersons of the world. You do what you can afford and what you want from your day. If that means a casual afternoon backyard catered affair, that's perfectly fine. I've been to 2 weddings like this and they were both lovely
What I DO judge is the kind of budget wedding where there are only enough chairs for the elderly and the cheapest drinks are $7. I speak from experience!I hate musical chairs at weddings! Especially wearing heels. And I'd personally rather have no bar than cash bar, but that might be cultural.
@Disneygeek77's wedding sounds nice to me! As long as your guests are accommodated with enough food/drink/chairs/BATHROOMS (I once went to a wedding with two toilets for over 100 guests!) then you are being a good host. The fun of a wedding comes from the couple you are celebrating and the people you are with!
Although people can sometimes be funny about alcohol...it's always appropriate to have a dry reception and especially when it is at 1:00 in the afternoon. And it especially makes sense since you would have had to spend even more money to go to a different venue. I grew up in a pretty laidback church. Hardly teetotaling kind of people. But alcohol was not allowed at any events in my church either.
I organized my work's (previous employer) Christmas party a few years ago. There was some discussion at the corporate level if they were going to make it a dry party so as to avoid liability issues. One of our project managers absolutely flipped out. He is an excitable person anyway who can be pretty blunt. He started ranting about how he wasn't going to go if they didn't provide alcohol. How those blankety-blank people just don't know how it is in New Orleans (corporate was in a totally different part of the country). As an aside, (sigh) I miss working with him! Not in this specific example, but at other times he could always be counted on to blurt out what everyone else was thinking, even if it ruffled feathers, lol.
However, I don't think even he would balk at a dry afternoon wedding.
I agree with @housewifehobbyist. The most important things for me at a wedding are celebrating the marriage with the happy couple and having fun with the other guests there. Other than that...I want a chair to sit in, food to eat if it is at a mealtime (anything is fine), and free drinks (no cash bar). Alcohol is nice and do enjoy a glass or two at an event, but non-alcoholic is just fine also.