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I have sat back and kept quiet...

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Re: I have sat back and kept quiet...

  • I usually do not get involved in these posts, either. I don't really like the confrontation. But since I was involved in that confessions post, I feel like I should say something. I have to agree with Kat - my comment was not directed at anyone in particular. Since I was TTC at that time, I had been on the TTC/Baby boards and saw many posters who boggled my mind. It is my opinion that some of them shouldn't have been TTC. Again, MY opinion.

    That being said, I do sympathize with everyone TTC on this board since I was in the same boat. I know I didn't have problems, but that doesn't mean I didn't go thru the fear of losing my baby and I still do have MANY fears. I have always respected everyone's advice on this board and I hope I never offended anyone.

    I am really sad to see Cyndi go - I think she is a kind person and I admire her attitude. I apologize if I ever said anything to offend anyone on this board. And I think it's a shame that people are leaving.

  • Yes, Anna...you are ancient. We should throw you off the cliff.
  • Seriously...I am pretty old, right?  I am totally not offended that I am so old either and so many of you are so much younger.
  • Ladies this has gotten completely out of hand. If we keep posting 5 month old conversations the drama will only continue. As a "newbie" I like this board for the humor and intelligent conversations everyone has to offer and the insight some of the older married women have to offer. Jin'swife you of all people don't deserve to be attack, I can't imagine what it's like to be in your situatuion. That being said unfortunately not everyone sees it my way and the only way to get past it is to not give it the time of day. There's also a lot of tension due to Mo's post from earlier this week. I think it came off as an "us" v. "them" and while I'm not a mind reader I don't think that was the intention. We're all adults here it's time we stop this nonsense, quit the trash talk, quit pulling up old drama and get back to the point of being on here...support, insight and fun. I'd hate to see people leave over this stupid sh!t.
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  • Smileysunshine....I am cracking up over the commentary on J&K+8 and the crazy woman with 14 kids.   Thanks!
  • We know it isn't all the Newbies and that some of you are completely innocent, honestly we do, but it's hard to separate without calling out specific individuals. I'm sorry to those of you who HAVEN'T been snarky that you're all getting lumped together.

    I think the thing that's being overlooked by the posters stating that this was just one post 4 months ago and we should move on, is that the post Cyndi linked is not the problem in and of itself, it's just a symptom if the bigger issue. It's just one example of the general attitude we're talking about. This is the first time I've read that post (or any posts from The Knot, for that matter), but I truly wasn't surprised to see some of the names whose comments were the worst, because in general, those people comment the same way on a pretty consistent basis. Of course you're all entitled to your opinions, but posts like that, and the general pessimism, negativity, and pugilistic attitude that they convey, just demonstrate poor judgment for posting that on a public board to begin with and a personality that I can't feel warm & fuzzy for. Sorry.

    That said, as unsurprised as I was to see some names, I was really disappointed to see a few of the replies in the linked post, because I DON'T think of those girls in that way usually.

    I really don?t know what else to say.

  • In regard to the "gtg poll"....that was initiated because it was meant to offer anyone on the board who wanted to have a meet and greet type of deal to be included.  I agree that if I wanted to hang out with my girlfriends I probably wouldn't necessarily post it on a public forum and open it up to a bunch of people I don't know.  I think Natalie understood that though along with everyone else.
  • Wow, I actually could only get through page 1 of this...

    First I'd like to say that *blushing* you need to stay out of this since your clueless and most of us know who you really are...does your name start with an S and end in a Y?  I think so.  Oh, and the poll was for EVERYONE that's why it was posted but thanks for your advice on using a phone;)

    I also will not comment on what Lilly said but I will agree with someone else's post that said we were all JUST kinda married then and were stuck b/t TN and TK.

    I remember back in May after my wedding I came over on this board and introduced myself..everyone was really nice but I honestly couldn't relate to really none of the posts..I went back to TN.  Then after about 2 months I finally made the switch.  I actually never felt that is was "us" and "them" I just thought is was a new group of girls talking about new topics.

    I'm sorry if anyone's feelings were ever hurt.  I really do like this board!  And even though I love my group of knotties I really like all the other girls too...6ft. cracks me up!!  LOL..and I'm old too!  (like Anna:)) I'm just not ready for babies..

  • I am starting to feel like a lurker, because I am reading and just don't know quite what to say.

    Anna's last comment was on my mind too. :)

    I do think that people who are friends IRL do call and e-mail each other personally, because they really are friends. I think when things are posted on here it's an attempt to include others and be inviting.

    I know that the girls from here that I am friends with IRL will call/text/email me with things, just as any of my non-nest friends would. When I just want to tell them something I contact them directly. When I post something it's because I'm opening it for everyone to contribute to.

  • I already said my feelings on the whole situation yesterday.  I just wanted to add that I'm old, too.

  • imageizzy_n_jersey:

    I said that I wasn't interested in the topics on this board.  Wasn't as in past tense.  That's why we all came over at the same time.  I know how to make a new post, but the problem is that only select people respond, which just fuels the 'us' and 'them' mentality. 

     

    That goes both ways.  Which is why I stopped posting (as often) a while ago.  

    MC #1 12/06 MC #2 10/07 MC#3 10/08 *Forever Missed* Diagnosed with MTHFR 10/09 but was told it is not the reason for my "unexplained IF"
    Diagnosed with High FSH, low folical count, and absent anti mullerian count 08/11
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