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Re: In support of 2bBush!!
Am I corrrect in saying that she used to be a reporter/writer for a local paper?
I was soooo not going to get involved in this "discussion" until I read her last post. I guess my DH is not a good man either! I am the sole breadwinner in our family. DH is a filmmaker and has now opened a restaurant so he has not brought in an income in a few years. Sure, I could have said I was staying home but we would then have basically eaten away all our savings and if DH did finally get a job, we'd basically have to sell our house and move to a small apt because he would never make the salary I'm making. My salary allows us to live in a nice neighborhood and provide very nicely for our daughter.
And yes, no caregiver is going to love our daughter the way we do but I have to say, our nanny comes pretty close! Jemma is practically flying into her arms when she arrives in the morning. Of course that makes me sad but at the same time, I'm thrilled someone so loving and caring is watching my daughter.
And as Alisa said, I want to be a good role model for her! I enjoy my job and am a respected woman in my industry. I want her to be strong woman with goals and dreams. Yes, I can help her be that from home too but I'm not home and very happy to be setting this example.
That's all I have to say.
I guess h and I are craptastic parents too since I bring home 60% of our income and all of our insurance since his 2 layoffs in less than a year. It's depressing enough for him to know that not only did he make 30k less last year than he did in 2007 and almost 50k less than he did in 06, but now he's not a good man or trying hard enough to boot.
Hell, I'd still work even if h made a million a year. After having struggled as a single mom for 7 years, I would never again leave myself in the position of one day waking up and having nothing after leaving myself and my children dependant upon someone else's income.
So what will you tell your daughter when she's growing up? "You can be anything you want to be when you grow up, as long as it's a stay at home mom, or you can do it in the evenings when your husband gets home from work!" What a fantastic role model you are. No wonder we haven't gotten a woman in the white house yet.
You better start teaching your daughter early how to meet a "good man" to support her while she stays home with her children. Otherwise she might be forced to have a career - gasp!
Tom Leykis would love to tear you up!! Dr. Laura isn't even a Dr. now is she?
Your thinking is really distorted and sad! I wonder where you were raised? I too am sorry I came back here to read this garbage!!
yes Mia she was!!
Wow, I'm just getting back into checking out the boards and usually don't get involved in stuff like this, but I'm dealing with this exact same issue right now. ?I recently became a stay at home mom and am really struggling with it. ?Don't get me wrong, I adore my baby, but for someone who's always worked, enjoyed working, and felt a huge sense of accomplishment from my work the past few months have been difficult. What makes it worse is the guilt I feel from people like Dr. Laura. ?Which pisses me off, especially considering the fact that she DIDN'T give up her career. ?She was just really fortunate to have a job that enabled her to do both. ?Yes, during the day she may have been home changing diapers and doing laundry but in the evening she had an outlet and accomplishments that were hers. ? ?
I've cried so many times feeling like I'm selfish and the world's worst mother for not feeling 100% fulfilled by being at home. ?Or for even considering going back to work part-time. ?Or feeling like there's something wrong with me for not having the "desire" to stay at home. But I'm starting to realize that in order to best be there for my son and his needs, I have to make sure I'm not neglecting my needs. ?Which is worse, him spending a few hours a week with a nanny who's going to hold him, play with him, and pay attention to him, or him going for yet another walk around the neighborhood while mommy cries because she feels overwhelmed and alone.
Oh, and my husband is one of those "good men" that goes to work to support us -- which means that during the week he gets to spend a whole one hour a day with his son. ?It sucks. ?Plus, with the economy the way it is, we're both constantly worried about what would happen if he ever got laid off. ?
Sorry this is so long, it's just an issue that I've been wrestling with every day right now.
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Why don't we put "reporter/writer" in quotes? Because I am certain that if she had any real journalistic skills or any sort of meaningful/successful career as a journalist, she wouldn't be so giddy about her stupid letter being posted on Dr. Laura's website.
I'm not. Mucho entertainment. AlisaS is in primo form. lol
Ok so I was trying to be open minded about your 1st post, but this really just PISSES ME OFF!!! ?My Dh is a very good man, and I have enjoyed the past almost 3 years of staying home with my son. ?The fact is I do want to work! ?Why should he have to put himself out over and over again, come home so tired that he can't even enjoy time with our son, and take the brunt of our financial burden when he doesn't need to? Just because he is a man??
Without getting into too much personal info, I feel that I need to assist him. ?As for Dr. Laura?pursuing?her career in the evening, that is a choice that she made. ?We are very?comfortable?with our choice of day care, which is Me, DH, or my sis. ?I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. ?
Tell me are you going to home school your child so society can not teach her bad things?
I am just so mad and offended by your good men line! I need to stop so I can go and have an enjoyable evening with my guys, the best guys in the world!