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Re: let's hear something we didn't know about you.
I will say this -- going to the clinic was not a good time. There were picketers with signs, and they had their children with them, shoving flyers in my face.
I was 18. I studied while I sat in the waiting room.
H could have had an 8 yr old kid too while it took me awhile to get over it after I heard, he hardly thinks about it because it was the right decision for both parties involved at the time. I agree most people arent forthcoming about it probably because there is so much controversy around the issue still.
MH could have had a 5 yr old as well. he didn't encourage her to do what she did, but he obviously didn't stop her either.
There shouldn't be any controversy.
What business is it of anyone else?
none of this would have been a good time for me, and the picketers would have been the least of it.
Even at 18? Of course it's not a good time, but, while it sounds callous, this was pretty much a no-brainer for me.
I agree completely but tell that to the picketers =/
I did.
I agree.
I know you are typically not a crier, but did you cry?
yes, even at 18. i could easily have been in a similar situation, and i don't honestly know what i would have done. it would have been heart-wrenching and tormenting to me to make such a decision, at any age.
No. I don't mean to sound detached, but I wasn't very far along at all, and it just wasn't a person to me.
And this is going to sound crazy and awful to some of you (and to all the lurkers who are currently gasping), but I had finals coming up, and those were weighing more on my mind than this was.
I don't want to say it was easy, but it wasn't really that hard. I wasn't about to drop out of college.
Altough I havent been through this personally, I can understand this thought process completely.
ditto.
Well, to my then-boyfriend's credit, I had a hand to hold while walking in and braving the shouting picketers.
To make things more scandalous, he was Mormon.
I was studying One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, and he was reading a chemistry book in the waiting room.
We weren't bad kids, and it was an informed decision.
For me, the last thing I think when I hear this is "Oh, they must be bad kids." *** happens. And it doesn't just happen to screw-ups who are barely scraping by. I'm glad he was there for you, definitely kudos to him.
ditto jonesy.
obviously, a lot of us could have easily been in the same situation. i'm just glad you had his support during that time - regardless of your attitude on the topic, no one should have to deal with that alone.
I've been there too. I was 16 and my Mom kind of forced it on me, at the time I did not want to make that decision. In hindsight, it was the right one. Although I moved out of my parents house right after because I hated my Mom.
Life is complex. The decisions you make can be life-altering. This was one of those decisions.
And I made the right one for me.
If I hadn't, I'd probably be living in Utah now with seven children.
LMAO! Now THAT is something I could not pictures!
( sorry GC dosent let me make icons! )
Same here. Wow. Although he fled once I told him.
nothing to add, as it's all been said. i'm surprised weemo but not because of what you said about a lot of people being the same boat but not being quite as forthcoming. it's not something that just comes up in conversation usually. and really, despite controversy or whatever, it's not really anyone's business.
i'm like ssinca. boring book you don't even wanna pick up. i'm pretty open anyway even if people don't wanan know. ha.
Something you don't know about me:
I made hubs wait 4 years before giving it up when we were dating.
Why well... here's the next thing you don't know about me.
I was a church youth group leader when I was 16-20 yrs old. Guess how old I was when I finally gave it up? lol.