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Re: [Ever] since they made their own board
I miss people and hoped we could move past things and have this board be what it used to be and I still miss people regardless if there is "another board" or not. I really hoped people who have only been lurking or took a break would come back.
I guess I just can't put into word what I want to say or how I feel...
Ditto... much less intimidating with less people, I don't think it's better or worse. Just different. And as a sidenote to a previous poster: I don't think the remaining group is all about drama. Up until this post with people coming out of the woodwork, there's been NO drama at all for the past few weeks.
Honestly, Britni THIS POST is why I don't post anymore. Way to start more drama and make people feel bad!
LOL I'm OBNOXIOUS?
All I've done is mention something fairly obvious (it was the subject of 2 whole posts here previously) and make a comment that recognizes that more people seem to be coming out of their shells and participating and that I appreciated that.
In response, you've received a bunch of people who said they feel better about posting all of the sudden. I'm not causing drama, I'm having a discussion and I'm glad that people feel welcome about coming.
I don't think anyone's been shoved out, a number of people have said they were leaving for events that took place before I even came back. If you don't want to post here, don't? Why keep saying you don't want to post, then coming back to say you don't want to post and attack me?
I don't even know what to say if this is true...I hope the new board is everything they hoped it would be...I have a very sour taste in my mouth over this. Those that wanted people to be "bigger" and leave the drama have successfully created more.
"HI POT, I'M KETTLE & YOU ARE BLACK!"
I really wish I knew what I ever did to be discluded.
Now I am off my soapbox!
miss people and hoped we could move past things and have this board be what it used to be and I still miss people regardless if there is "another board" or not. I really hoped people who have only been lurking or took a break would come back.
I guess I just can't put into word what I want to say or how I feel...
Lisa, I agree w/ you!
Amen!
You are my new hero and I love you. Pink puffy hearts.
DITTO! im still hurt but DITTO!
I complete agree with LilBlueBoat here.
For me, it started to feel like there was an obligation to reply to so much when there is no obligation at all to be here. Right now I'm not posting as often as I used to for a few reasons. I have other things going on that take my time away from the internet in general (and ask my DH, I'm an internet junkie!). I also have made friends here over the several years I've been on the Knot/Nest and have been communicating with them outside of this board for some time now so of course that continues. Add to the mix all the stuff that went on...
It became unappealing to me to invest so much time here right now when I feel like I'm not able to take away from the board what I might need from it at this time.
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I wasn't trying to contribute to the drama for the record...those are my feelings I am entitled to be hurt by people I thought were my friends. I have stayed out of every argument on purpose b/c I just think it's rediculous. Dunno why i feel like I have to make sure you all "know" why I made my response...guess I just worry too much what people think of me. Those that discluded me and you all.
To quote my mother "I don't care who started it, I'm ending it!".
I don't really care how or why this all started. I just know that is isn't something I want to be a part of. I have too much drama & stress IRL to want to be a part of it here. I still check in almost daily & like to see what everyone is up to. But, I don't feel the need to post here often anymore. I'm spending a lot of time on food allergy forums trying to figure out WTF is going on w/ my baby! I'm looking for jobs & daycare & prepping O for surgery. I still care about many people here & will always be interested in them & their lives & therefor always stay around. But, I don't have the time, energy or desire to be an active member anymore.
Perhaps it is for the best, it seems like more & more new nesties have made the move over & are coming out of the word work. It is nice that they finally feel comfortable here. I didn't realize that I was so intimading :-)
I find this post interesting.
I'm def. a lurker but have been paying more attention over the last few months. I've felt that some people on the board were very cliquey prior to the last few weeks, which I honestly didn't care about.
It does seem that others have stepped out to talk more and I will say that I feel more comfortable to do so at this point mostly because I don't "know" anyone and have felt odd or even intrusive for stepping in. This has sort of allowed me to feel I can participate more comfortably.
I certainly feel this post was actually constructive and helpful for a while and when people who'd supposedly left came back, it turned to drama.
Well, I think that's sort of a bitchy attack. I wasn't intending to start drama. I was intending to give my post an eye-grabbing title...as I always try to do. And the posts reflected a discussion (you'll note that many people said that those absent were missed) until you said "way to start drama".
I think we should be able to talk about the changes we've experienced to the board recently.
I for one haven't left, and I have seen many others who supposedly have "left" on here posting occasionally. I went through a long time where I didn't post much, then made an effort to get more involved again, only to learn that things just weren't the same- I could agree with many of the things posted on here by many girls. For many years, this board barely had any drama and it was confined to the few people involved, rather than others jumping on one person when it had nothing to do with them.
I will continue to come back and visit many of the ladies that are still here who I love and would miss if I didn't come back at all.
This post is exactly why I decided my time was better spent elsewhere. There are many girls on here who I think are great, and if you search for my posts recently, you will see that I have been posting here and there. I shouldnt' feel the need to defend how I spend my time, for doing something that many of you (lurkers) have been doing and are now coming out to claim it was "our" meaning the long time Nesties, fault that you didn't post. I think leaving a board you are not happy with is actually the MATURE thing to do- I think it would be much more highschoolish to hang around and cause trouble or drama because you are unhappy.
I was not going to respond but I will because there is a point of view that no one has shared yet.
People have the right to communicate with whoever they want, however they want. Just b/c certian people met on this board, does not mean they have to soley communicate on the freakin nest. They can email each other, call each other, post to each other on a different board and that is their preogative. They do not have to invite every single person they ever met on the nest to be involved with them in everything they do. I have a big group of friends but that doesn't mean that every time I do something with 1 or 2 of them, I invite every single other mutual person we know together (I am not talking about the nest, I am talking IRL). Same goes for the nest. People can break off, from their own friendships and communicate with the people they feel comfortable with and they really don't have to make any excuses for what they do, and they certainyl do not need to invite everyone on here to do what they do. If I decided to go up there to NH and have lunch with one person I had become friends with on the nest, do I have to invite all of you - no! It doens't mean I am excluding anyone or being "high school" - it means I choose to spend time with my friends and the people I am comfortable with.
Let's go back to Beckie's post. Because I almost peed my pants!
Beckie, I am on day two of barely any work, which is giving me more time to Nest again - as some have seen yesterday and today! Let's keep this postive, what do you all say?!
And Crissy - please never worry what I think about you. Way back when I was included in your NSS surprise, I have thought you were one of the sweetest, non-drama(ish) people on here. I think you're great.
And how come no one pink puffy hearts me?!
I big pink puffy squishy fluffy heart you!!!!!!!!
I agree with you fully lldags.
I could care less if people did make their own board. My friends and I have our own "board" in the form of an e-mail that we respond to all day.
First off Kristin you know I HOT pink puffy heart you! I think you are one of the sweetest most real people on here! I love how you genuinely care for people on here!!
Secondly Lauri you know I love ya too, but can't help but feel your post was directed toward me(call me hormonal, whiny, annoying whatever you want) I want to clearify why I feel the way I do, just a bit further...
When I was in my darkest times coming home from my second stay in the hospital, raging infection in my body, gaping wound to deal with, new baby to take care of...my FRIENDS on the Nest made me feel so LOVED! I received a huge bouquet of flowers that touched my heart and made me feel so part of this wonderful group of women! I have no way of knowing who decided to do it, nor who contributed, so I can only assume that ALL of the ladies on this board considered me a friend and worthy of such a nice gesture!
So when there were talks of a new board being made, then many women subsequently start "taking a break" I can only assume that another board was in fact created, though I still hope it was not the case. After hearing from someone that I feel I can trust would be truthful that there IS in fact another board, I feel incredibly sad! It would be the same if a group of my IRL friends went in on a bouquet(or any other show of support for that matter) and then decided to disclude me in something. It would STILL be hurtful and I DO have a right to feel hurt! I just so want to believe it's not true!
I don't live close by either so I don't get to mee these girls IRL so thus not much opportunity to develop relationships outside of the board...
Basically I do feel IF there really is another board, it was hurtful to only invite certain friends, b/c I guess I am not really one after all! And no matter what my point of view sounds like...it is what it is...maybe I was mistakenly left off the master list.
I personally feel LESS comfortable posting here now. Maybe it's because the familiar "friends" are few and I just don't know many people anymore, nor do they know me. I don't think it's more laid back, so much as it's got a "new" feel to it. I post about as often as I have since the format change. It's just too much of a PITA to keep up with. So, I got more involved with my other toddler and food allergy boards. But, I still check in here from time to time, sometimes I just read, other times I have something to contribute. I've never been a huge post starter myself anyway.
I'm glad this was turned back into a discussion. I don't think it was something that had to be "dropped". I appreciate hearing from peoples opinion on this.
I think it's interesting that for the reasons I feel more comfortable posting, others feel less comfortable. I hope that the mix of newer members and previous members can be a good blend. I'm optimistic.
You know what Britni - I'm actually kinda glad that you posted this and it seems to depend who people are emailing back and forth with how they feel.
All I know is that I've been put between a rock and a hard place for the last few weeks and I haven't liked it much at all. I've been on these boards for so long and the divide that so much recent drama has created has been particularly difficult on me because I've always considered so many people to be friends of mine on both sides of it! What do you even do when that happens???? I'm saddened that the board and group of women that I've always cared about so much is falling apart yet I don't know what to do about it.
My decision has been that I will go where I need to go to keep in touch with old and new friends alike and if my prescence here is unwanted because of that or if speaking for myself about the fact that I do, in fact, still post here is a problem for anyone - it's yours to deal with. I do not have time in my life to account for my whereabouts every second of the day to everyone here nor should I have to. If you expect me to do that and can't just communicate HONESTLY in friendship, then please feel free not to talk to me as others on this board have chosen not to. I say what is on my mind and what I think and the worst I will ever say about anyone is to their face.
I feel the EXACT same way...there have been days when I've lurked on here at night wondering how to "make it all better" and how to bring what used to be such a close knit group of women back together. I'm sad hurtful things were said to each other. I'm sad that people can't move on. I'm sad that certain people were hurt.
I'm just sad about it all...
Laura, I've always loved the fact that you have been straight forward...
Kristin, I pink puffy heart you!
And Lisa, I pink puffy heart you too (but you already knew that!)
Beckie, I loved your post!
I haven't been posting much, but I still do check in. First we had our anniversary trip, and I was busy with that, and then one of Chris' Aunts died very unexpectedly and quite frankly, tragically. Honestly, I've been so sad, and exhausted, that part of me just doesn't have the energy and the other part of me just doesn't know what to say.
My real life stresses have just started to take a toll on me, and I need to take some time for myself. I hope that the friends I have here understand and are okay with that. They're great people, so I think they will be.