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DD?
I was looking for a post from last night, to respond too, but I'm not seeing it?
Was it deleted?
Re: DD?
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Yep... it was... *lame*
Yeah, me neither! We're not 12.. We're adults.. It's kind of annoying!
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Same. I had really wanted to chime in on it, as I had two BM's with shoulder pieces.
I wish I could have read where it went, the last post I saw was Jaye's, so I dont even know why it would have been DD'd....
Probably because I said she shouldn't get snippy on Jaye when she is the one who asked for opinions on the matter. And that if she knew what the final answer was going to be then she shouldn't have asked for opinions?
I wasn't being rude, but did not appreciate the snippyness in her response to Jaye. Was kind of uncalled for!
THIS!
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OP responded after me. Then there was another response from peasout. That's all I saw...
I really don't understand why someone would ask for opinions and get upset when you give them. I don't think I was being mean...When I was planning my wedding I found it helpful when someone would smack some sense into me if I was paying too much attention to something that didn't really matter.
Damnit, I wish I would have seem this! Thank you for saying what I didn't get a chance to!
I agree- I thought your post was VERY tactful- and it's true, we've all had those moments in wedding planning... and you build it up in your mind, when really no one even notices.
I agree, why ask for feedback, if you're going to get snippy and dirty delete?
No problem! It was just a bit stupid really.. I said that she chose her bridesmaid for who she is, not what she looks like.. and i also told her that really.. that makeup isnt all that great and could end up looking WORSE then the tattoo itself... I guess I am a b!tch though for calling it like I see it!
ok so i am going to set the record straight i was not getting snippy with anyone i was just saying in my opinion and that a tattoo on the back of someones neck is different that one on a shoulder. And as me deleteing it, yes i did deleted it and the reason for that is not because i am 12 but because i got the answers i was looking for good and bad and I didn't want to take the chance that my FSIL were to locate the post since i am always talking about how nice everyone is on here and she should check it out.
I know that to some i am being selfish but i was not asking if i should tell her to wait until after the wedding to get it done i was trying to see what would be a nice way to ask her to cover that one up since it is mine and CJ's wedding day. Thank you to all who gave me advice much apperciated, sorry to upset those that thought i was snippy. Have a great day.
This, helped me too. I need that, I know it's about "Me" that day but all that little stuff stresses you out and it's nice to get hit with reality that YOU are the only one that is going to see that.
I had a BM wear her hair down and I wanted it up, did it matter to me when I was walking down the aisle, NO because they were looking at ME and not her. Did they mention in our pictures? No. So I don't know why it is a big deal. And what you ladies said was not mean at all, just being honest
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Just some advice for the future.. if you are going to DD a post then you should tell people that AHEAD of time. Since it seems like you only DD'd because you didn't like the responses you were getting. It LOOKED like you were just mad because not everyone was agreeing with you after YOU asked for opinions so you got mad and took your toys home....
I wasn't trying to compare the two saying that they were the same thing. The point I was trying to make was that it doesn't matter. It could be an entire sleeve for all I care. A series of lip rings. A massive, earth shattering pimple in the middle of her nose.
What someone looks like should not have an effect on how they stand up for you at your wedding. If it does, then you are shallow - plain as day.
I am actually not shallow at all, i was again trying to see what other people would do if it was something that was bothering you. That's all, so i would just like to thank you again for your advice sorry if i misunderstood it.
To be honest, I had two BM's who had shoulder pieces- with sleeveless dresses that everyone saw, and no one cared. I agree with Jaye, who you chose to have stand up for you, is about that PERSON not their looks. If that's what you're looking for, like Jaye said, it's shallow.
DD on any of the boards (Knot, Nest, or Bump) are not taken well. And honestly, if your concerned about someone reading it- then maybe it's not something you should post to begin with?
well i am pretty new to the world of message boards still and i didn't know to put that i would be deleting the post, thanks for the advice.
I wanted to get advice some people that i thought would give their honest opinions about this which you guys have and are. My family would probably just tell me what i wanted to hear, thats all... sorry to have upset people by deleting not my intentions at all.
I think your post made you seem (to me anyway) a little selfish and maybe a little immature. The fact that you deleted it makes that 1000x worse. DDing is just rude to the people who actually bothered to think about your situation, and give you an honest answer. Whether you liked it or not...
FWIW, I don't believe that you dd'd so your FSIL wouldn't see..
I agree with all of this! Especially the bolded part!
Obviously.
Ladies, can we all play nice? I'll probably get flamed for playing devil's advocate, but here goes...
OP owned up to the DD, explained, and apologized. I don't think it's really necessary to keep beating a dead horse and telling her what a selfish, immature, and all-round horrible person she is for her DD faux pas.
Unfortunately, there is not some sort of universal user's manual for message board etiquette that would tell one how DD can and should be done. Until this post, I never knew what DD stood for. I knew "delete" was one of the D's, but didn't know what the other D was for and I sure as heck didn't know you were supposed to announce it when you might delete it. I have seen people announce it in the original post, but I never really thougth anything of it other than, "Oh wow, this could be juicy--I need to read it before it gets deleted!"
ITA....some of you need to get off your high horse
She deleted because she did not like some of the answers she was given when she asked for an opinion. I mean seriously, like Jenn had said, if you dont want someone to "read" what you say, then you should probably not be posting it in the first place. I dont think anyone is on a "high horse". People are just being honest here...