Phoenix Nesties
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: DD?
Why do you care so much, to the point you have to belittle someone!? It is not the end of the world....cyber world will go on! Everyone take a chill pill.....
Ditto this. I missed the OP, but after reading this thread I was really kind of turned off by how some of you are responding. This board has been free of drama for a long time now and I was really suprised to see all of you attacking someone that has become a regular here. If she feels a certain way about the tattoos then that's her problem, not yours. So she DD'ed, big F*ing deal-- I've been around the nest long enough to know that it is frowned upon, but you guys are acting like she did the ultimate sin. Get over it.
I don't think anyone was attacking her. And DDing is pretty much the ultimate sin of a message board. Like you said, you didn't read the OP and since she trashed it, you never will. So yes, her issue with her SIL seemed petty (to me) and by deleting the post it has simply compounded that impression.
I appreciate the "drama free'' attitude, but people are entitled to their opinions, and are not required to agree on everything. Yes, her issue with tats certianly is her problem, but she asked for validation of her feeling ("please tell me I'm not crazy") on a public message board, and didn't like the answers she received. And she was VERY snippy in response to Jaye's post. I'm pretty sure that the post was pretty split on whether she was crazy or not, but since the thread has been deleted, we'll never know for sure.
I always love how these things play out.
Someone DDs a post
Someone calls out DDer for the DDd post
Arguing ensues
At about the full page marker, someone posts a WHITE flag - Can't we all just be friends?! response.
It's ridiciulous.
The last part that is.
If you don't like whats happening in this post, then don't respond. As far as I see it, you're just fueling fire.
Yes - DDing is hugely rude in the message board world. This is because not only is that person deleting their own post, but everyone who responded. It's like saying out comments don't matter and therefore shouldn't exist. So it IS the ultimate sin. HERE.
Aside from that, I honestly don't care that she DDd. I think it was stupid, but I don't care. I do care though that there are people out there who agreed with the "you are crazy" stand on the post yesterday. I feel that those people should be heard and thus think that their comments in this thread are totally justified.
You may all own your own thread, but you don't own the discussions that occur on this board.
It's almost as if you all think that because this thread is here, that everyone is going to start creating the dramaz 24/7. Reality is, though, this board will remain exactly the way it did before. So why do you even care that this thread is here? Ignore it if you'd like. Get over it YOUR high horse because this lame post is the only thing that is getting me through a hugely boring day. (well that and the promise of cupcakes in an hour)
Message boards are for discussion, and part of what makes them so great is debating a topic where people have varying standpoints.
I appreciate that this board is full of people I know will always give me their honest opinions- whether we agree or disagree. To me- that's not drama.
The day that people are no longer comfortable or feel that they can give their honest opinion, is the day that I will be "turned off" by this board and some of its posters.
This.
I know, right? Cupcakes make my world go round.
Plus, I made them myself, so I since I had one for breakfast this AM, I know they're good!
girlfriends, you are crazy......Its so comical
There's a huge difference between giving an honest opinion and telling someone they are shallow and immature. If a coworker asked for your opinion on the same subject, would you tell them to thier face that thier shallow and immature? To me, that was completely uncalled for.
She apologized for DD-ing. I frequent many other boards and have never seen a DD blown so out of proportion- whether you believe she did it so no one would see it or because she didn't like the opinions, she apologized for her actions so get over it. It's not the end of the world.
This and mmmm cupcakes...yum
Click Me
Umm. I believe i said that if someone thought that way then they would be shallow. Not that she WAS shallow.
But yes, if someone was acting that way and asking for an HONEST response - I would tell them what I thought.
I'm amazed you've never seen a full DD blow out. Man, the old TK boards used to get crazy with them. This is nothing.
Agreed: Mmmmm, cupcakes...
:::mind wanders off to a drama-free place where pretty cupcakes are singing and dancing:::
Great. Now I'm going to be thinking about cupcakes all day. Thanks, Jaye.
LOL I have to pick up cupcakes today to take in tomorrow- but I can't bake...mine are from Sprinkles...
Haha! I'll send you a mental cupcake.
People will get into disagreements on message boards. It will happen. There is no such thing as a drama-free board. At least not if it has any substance. I don't like drama either, but it is bound to happen as people get to know each other better, and to me, it is an indication of people being real for once, instead of treading around topics being nice, and never really getting any depth to their discussion.
I see here disagreements, but not nastiness. People explaining why they were annoyed by the DD, and also their opinions on the issue that started this. I did not see the OP, and won't comment on that issue, but as far as this whole thread, I just finally see this as people finally saying some things.
I know I'm not on a lot, and I know I am one of the lone survivors from when the board was supposedly full of drama, but I just don't see how you can have a message board full of people participating every day, and not get into disagreements or debates over things. It is just bound to happen. People will speak their piece, get over it, and then move on. That's how it goes.
Anyway, I know I'm not here a lot, and I don't know a lot of you very well, so take what I say with a grain of salt.