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Why is it so dead here?!
I feel like everyone disappeared from this board!
What can we do to get it moving again? Questions/topics of the day? Theme days? Any ideas?!
Re: Why is it so dead here?!
I think because it's gotten clicky and people just stopped coming.
Sad....I know! :-(
How are you doing, Deanna?
lolz that was my private message... I also said it has been like that since right before Cheesecake Factory GTG =( It makes me sad to not see certain people around here anymore...
i agree with the clicky part...
maybe we could bring back polls hahah everyone loves polls, random questions, and the famous whats for lunch/dinner questions hahaha
I lurk once in awhile but nothing to exciting to post on so I don?t say anything. Plus life has just taking over. Work at this time of year is busy and with this new system we all have to learn it?s been super busy. But really nothing worth commenting on IMO.
I should add too that I want to comment but then I get busy at work and I forget and then I just forget to come back and comment.
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I also lurk, but post very little these days. For a couple reasons. First and foremost, being I have little time to post at work these days. However, the few times that I have posted something, it gets very little response, so what's the point?
Which, I tend to think that is due to a lot of "clickiness" that has formed on the board. I think it all kind of came to a head after the Cheesecake Factory gtg. There was a huge division of people at the tables, and it's carried on through to the board.
It is what it is. Different personalities, people, whatever. The board has changed a lot over the year and a half I've posted on it, and it's just not the same. I honestly don't know what can be done to make it feel less "clickish".
Just my honest 2 cents.
Can you clarify this for me, either there is stuff you want to comment to or there is nothing worth commenting to... that is kind of a contradiction yea?
I'm doing ok. Working a lot and just joined the Y by our house so I'm distracting myself with those things! I've been a negative Nancy lately about the whole "woe is me I'm still not pregnant after so long" stuff. I need to get it together! But really, it sucks, and I'm tired of everyone saying "oh its ok, it'll happen when its supposed to" and crap like that, why can't anyone just acknowledge that yes, it is crappy to see everyone else get pregnant and still be waiting?! Ugh sorry that turned into a little rant! But otherwise everything around here is same ol' same ol!
I'm going to go out on a limb, and guess it's both. As I know is often the case with me.... In my case,
Whern there is something that I would like to comment on, I get busy at work, forget to come back and comment.
However oftentimes there isn't anything that I feel I have anything to add to the thread/discussion.
I know, I hear you and understand. I hated when people told me to just relax and that it would happen when the time was right. I knew that would be the case, about it happening when it was meant to, but that doesnt' make it any easier than it's proving harder than we all thought! :-(
I really hope you get your BFP soon!! Did you end up buying those pills?? What do you think of them??
Also, I can give you the name of the Naturopathic Dr. I went to if you'd like. He took blood samples and found I was VERY low in iron, almost anemic, and low in Vitamin D, both very important in TTC. Just a thought if you're interested!
YGPM back
It's both. Like Lindsey?s new job post. I wanted to post but got interrupted at work and I came back later in the day or the next to say my Congrats to her. And then some that I just don?t feel like commenting or feel like if I say something people get their panties in a bunch, so I don?t say anything. But for the most part work is very busy and now for this moment it?s not, thank goodness.
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Deanna...I should have said this in my last post about the Naturopathic Dr. When I started taking more vitamin D and iron, I got pregnant within 3 months of doing that. I don't know if it was ironic or what but I'm pretty sure it played a part in it.
Also, chiropractic care can help a HUGE amount too. Shoot, maybe I should just send you a message. haha But anyways, I started going to the Chiro in July after almost a year of not going and got pregnant in August!
Just food for thought. I was willing to try anything! haha
right back at ya!
right back at ya!
Did you do any acupuncture? A girl on my month board did and got pregnant that month after doing this. Or did you just do the chiro?
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LOL yes send me the name of your naturapathic dr!
I didn't get the chinese herb pills...I did start taking Vitex and FertilCM though so we'll see if that does anything?! I am going to look into accupuncture and chiropractic too..
have you gone on the p&ce board?? i personally love it!! they are pretty mature about ppls different views and not too sharky...
No, I didn't. That was goign to be my next step after having my 3 months follow up appt. with my Naturopathic Dr if I wasn't pregnant but I was so I didn't follow up with him. I've heard good things about it too though.
Here are my thoughts, people can sit there and act like they weren?t B!tchs that is all fine and good because you know what ever helps you sleep at night, But I think sitting there and thinking you are all tough and big and bad and almighty powerful or the innocent ones is complete and utter bullsh!t.
I think whatever happened before Cheesecake factory carried over and I think people need to own up to what they did and said? not acknowledging people making comments ?I am not going over to that table because I don?t like people at that table?. Umm? what? Then these same people are the ones to call others immature? uh ok? here is the reason for the clickyness? I will just lay it on the table because honestly some of you hated me before you even meet me and that?s cool and I don?t see that changing anytime soon... nor do I really care because some of you never tried to get to know me.
There was a post about TTTC and Vanessa you went off about how Stacy (sorry to bring you up Stac) shouldn?t be drinking and should take prenatal?s and it hasn?t been that long and she doesn?t even have a real problem and blah blah blah? then other people joined on that ban wagon? well I got defensive because Stacy is a good person and didn?t deserve to be knocked down when she was already feel blue about a very sensitive subject to a lot of people all for very different and VALID reasons! Just saying
Then I post something on Facebook about protestors and Vanessa, Jess and Jennifer got their ?panties in a twist? because comments they had posted were not there? oh and then started talking about it on their boards but then called me immature? uh ok! And for the record on this one, I saw the emails of what you guys had posted it and if they had been their I would have deleted them because they were insanely offensive!
I have no problems with anyone on this board; I don?t know most of you to have a problem with you, or to dislike you or to ignore you or anything like that? This is the internet and I think people like to act one way online and another in person. But I am not that way. Sorry I am just not.
I deleted a few people off Facebook frankly because I was tired of see things that were obviously talking sh!t about me or others? so I deleted it so I wouldn?t have to see it. Simple as that?.
I think if people really want to figure out why it got ?clicky? and move on then there you go, this is a public board we can all get along. We don?t need to be ignoring people?s post for being fearful of people getting their panties in a twist or whatever! It doesn?t matter we are all grown adults and maybe we should all just start acting like it instead of all this bullsh!t drama because honestly there are much bigger problems in the world.
Flame away!
I haven't been around for varying reasons.
I've been trying to focus on my studying - not really working out though.
I haven't had much to talk about - err actually, I have, but I haven't wanted to talk about it openly on the message boards, hence why my blog has been silent also. I'm bursting to talk, but have the whole "fear" of people at my work seeing my posts
Not to speak for her, but I took that to mean that she is busy in her life, but nothing really big worth posting about.
And that she wants to respond (comment) on other people's threads sometimes, but gets busy and doesn't have time and/or forgets to come back to say what she was going to say.
And I know I'm an infrequent poster anyway, but I do think it's kind of ironic to say how much you miss people posting, and then say something that sounds a little snarky when they try to explain why they aren't posting as much...
And also, if you are wondering why things might seem cliquy, then you might want to think about how it might look when someone posts a question about why it's dead in here, and you immediately respond with "you got a private message"
Because that doesn't seem cliquy at all...
I feel like announcing P.M.'s (especially regarding a question like she just asked) only perpetuates the cliquiness of this board.
I am not trying to be snarky here or there but I was asking for clarification because I interpreted it different I guess? and I don?t remember saying that I missed people posting I said it was sad to not see certain people around anymore because they don?t feel like posting since they feel they will be ignored?
I see your point, but honestly I think everyone should take responsibility for their part in the cliquiness of this board? and it is not just me but I own up to what I do, I don?t try to hide it?
Ok, well, I didn't realize that missing people posting and being sad that they aren't posting were two different things.
And whether you meant to be snarky in the original part of this message or not, I wouldn't know since I'm not in your head. I was just pointing out that it sounded pretty snarky. Saying how contradictory she sounded seemed kind of snarky to me. But you know your intention, so if you say you weren't being snarky, then you would know better than me.
Well, like I said before, I'm an infrequent poster over here. I come on here because I used to spend a lot of time over here a few years ago, and started posting again because
A) my cousin was here
and
I also live in Tucson. So, I don't feel like I'm part of any cliquiness, except maybe to my cousin since she's one of my best friends, and has been my whole life, but I don't see that as a clique.
I wasn't at the Cheesecake Factory, and can't speak of any cliques that did or did not exist.
I just wanted to point out that if you really do feel like it's sad that there are cliques on here (and I'm paraphrasing again since I don't have your original post right in front of my eyes), but that doing things like that might continue to perpetuate the idea of one group of people vs. another.
So, that's my somewhat outsider two cents.