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Does anyone really like their inlaws?
I don't... and see many "sister/mother in law is crazy" posts. Wondering if anyone is fortunate to really like or um...love their in laws???
Post here....let us live through you for a moment. LOL
Why ask why, when you know you're going to get a smart-ass answer
Re: Does anyone really like their inlaws?
I absolutely adore my inlaws. My ILs are amazing people who raised six intelligent, articulate, funny and kind children. I'm especially close to my mom in law. When we brought our daughter home, she came once or twice a week to help. She'd take us to lunch, clean my kitchen, grub in my flowerbeds or just hold DD so I could take a nice hot bath. She is a wonderful mom to me and I love her to pieces.
I like my inlaws 90% of the time, His dad and stepmom, and stepsister are fantastic, I love his grandpa, and I like his mom, uncle, and grandma as long as they don't bring up things that happened 15 years ago.
On the other hand, he loves both my parents, but can't stand my sister and BIL.
Yes, I love my inlaws. My FIL told me they loved me the day we got married
My DH has 3 brothers, 2 older ones who were married before we even met. The youngest brother is now married as well. I love all my SIL's, but one has really turned into one of my best friends. They've lived in Dallas the last 2 years because of my BIL's job (but they're moving back in a few months!!) and we talk multiple times a day. I've been down to visit on my own, and with the whole family and she's visited on her own as well.
I really, really lucked out.
I liked both of my in laws until I got pg. I still adore my FIL. But my relationship with MIL became irreparably broken shortly after the birth of my son. I have since seen in retrospect that over the past 14 years, I had let go of far too many transgressions.
I now have no respect for her whatsoever and can barely be in the same room. I will be civil for the sake of my child(ren)'s relationship with grandmother. I am not going to let my feelings for her hinder the granmother/grandchild relationship.
But that is where it ends.
It is sad because before I bacame pg., I used to brag that I must be the only woman in America that actually loves her IL's. But those days are gone.
Awesome, LOL Mine too!
Same here. My in-laws (MIL, FIL, SIL and her husband) are all wonderful, and I wish they lived closer so we could see them more often. My parents are a little more difficult, but I complain about them far more than my husband does.
My DH's parents are wonderful amazing people. They are so thoughtful and so selfless, they are an inspiration. We are very blessed to have them in our lives. My mother is also wonderful, a bit overbearing at times telling you how things "should" be done. But she has a good heart and is always there for us when we need her. After hearing all the "horror" stories on here about IL's I know how lucky I am.
And DH's extended family is equally awesome, they are all so loving and supportive, it's just a big hug fest when we all get together. It is perfectly normal for his mother's side and father's side of the family to all get together for holidays. Which is great because A) we get to see them all at once and
we don't have to travel as much.
So we love our families!
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I love the word kooky. We need to use that more often.
My husband loves my family. He goes over to my parents house without me. He calls them and my brother. My SIL get along with my family great. I think it took her a little while to get used to us, though.
I love my sisters in law and my brothers in law.
My father-in-law is amazing! He sends me cards calling me his daughter, tells DH he lucked out with me, makes sure all my favorite foods are at his house when I come over. I love him.
My mother-in-law is very protective of her sons. When she went over to BIL and SIL's house for the first time, she brought her only cleaning supplies because "SIL doesn't clean well enough for BIL." She will make little comments like, "I hope Jojo is taking good care of you, she never cooks." or if I make fun of DH for being silly she will get "offended" because her son is "perfect." None of it matters, though. DH shuts her down each time and she gets less and less obnoxious each time I see her.
My IL's are pretty good most of the time. They have a few boundaries that they like to cross, but they are usually not worth an argument.
I love my in-laws! My FIL and I are pretty close, MIL and I have a good relationship and I love my BIL, but he lives so far away, I haven't had any trouble with him. DH's little brother is out of the picture completely and isn't really considered family by anyone, so I don't have that issue anymore either.
There have been some boundary issues, but other than that, I can't complain too much. I know others that have it WAY worse.
DH LOVES my parents. He and my dad talk more than I talk to my own dad, andhe and my mother talk often as well. It's nice!
I love my inlaws, but sometimes their behavior drives DH and I absolutely nuts.
SIL is out of state now, which helps - except she always wants to do something extravagant when she comes home (however, she doesn't plan in advance when she is coming home and seems to forget that we both work).
FIL is pretty great, we're having lunch this week when he happens to be in my neck-of-the-woods for a conference. MIL is.....unique. She has problems with boundaries and creates a lot of issues, but we're dealing.
Does anyone really like their inlaws?
Ummmm..... NO!!!!!! I despise MIL and could write a book on mine and xSIL's experiences with her. I do like FIL and find myself disappointed they are still married and have to see her most of the times we see him. Funny thing is FIL doesnt really like her either and when she really gets out of hand we can count on him to intervene. Guess he stays with her out of obligation?? Whats really funny is to watch her facial expressions when FIL raves about me, or say things like he finally has a daughter. Seriously Priceless!!!
I love my husband's family and he loves mine! I enjoy spending time with his parents, sister, her hubby and their children. I also adore his extended family (which is much bigger than mine) and I feel so fortunate to be part of such a wonderful group of people.
He thoroughly enjoys spending time with my family too - especially my dad. I knew he was the one when my daddy truly liked him, because he's super protective of me and never liked anyone I dated. Plus, my mom, brother & grandparents all love him too and our families "mesh well." I know I'm extremely blessed because 90% of people I know have in-law issues of some sort and it can cause major stress on a marriage....