Does anyone really like their inlaws?

MarynJoe

LOVE my ILs.  His parents, sisters, extended family, all of them.  I hit the lottery when it comes to ILs.  He gets along with mine as well, and our families get along great.  Hooray!

Mrs.Elsie

Nope, I'm civil to them but I don't trust a single one of them. They're the type of family that gossips really meanly about you the minute you leave the room but once you're face to face with them they act like you're their best friend. MIL is a guilt tripper who is extremely passive-aggressive. She raised her 2 daughters to be just like her. DH's brother's wife fits in nicely with them as well.

FIL uses jokes to say cruel things so if someone gets offended or calls him out he can hide behind it, saying it was only a joke and to lighten up. Plus he's cheated on MIL for years on and off...the last time he got caught and she threw him out for a while he cornered me and told me I better watch my DH closely because cheating runs in his blood. Real stand up guy.

ecleptic

My inlaws are awesome. I love my family but DH describes my relationship with my family and his family (his words from an email)

"So, the ugly duckling story? Your parents couldn't understand why they had an ugly duckling. And once they realized they had an ugly duckling they couldn't figure out why the ugly duckling never turned into a swan. They're still waiting for you to turn into a swan.

My family met you and say Oh! I see you have brought a dragon home. How strange that she was raised by ducks. She even quacks! How... odd. Well at least she stumbled into a clutch of dragons so we can teach her the proper way to be a dragon and love her for what she is.

You talk to your mom and she's always expecting you to say duck things or if not duck things- to say swan things. And, love, you're no duck."

My inlaws are wonderful people- people that I'm proud to call family. My family is great and I don't love them any less (they are quite simply the best ducks in the world). But I lucked into awesome inlaws.

J+R

NOT.AT.ALL... I absolutely cannot stand them or my SIL. I do like the other SIL but still, she tries to always get money from us, etc.

I wish that I had nice inlaws... I would love it, but unfortunately - I got crappy ones.

alithebride

i really really love my inlaws. they've been nothing but sweet to me. mil is awesome, fil is super sweet, sil is now one of my best friends.

dh's grandma on the other hand can be very difficuly but has never done anything to me.

emilyann21

I'm not a fan of my MIL. She's a drama queen and wants all of the attention. She's also 45 going on 16. She lives with her mother or her son, BIL or her granny. Basically whoever is willing to take her. All she talks about is money and fabricates anything and everything. She told all of DH's family I made $60/hour (ha I wish!!) so then I had to set the record straight and let everyone I did not make that.

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE DH's grandparents (his mother's mom and step-dad). I don't really know the rest of them that well. I can tolerate his dad although he never comes to visit and we only see him if we go there (he's told us he won't come to visit until we have a kids and then he might).

I put up with my BIL. I don't think either of us really like the other but we play it off. His FI never stands up to him and I actually speak my mind around him and I don't think he likes that. Oh well.

DH loves my parents. They get along great together and he just fits in perfectly with the family. He's not a big fan of my older sister but can tolerate the younger sis in small doses.

kt012885

I love mine!  His sister and I grew up as bff's and then parted in high school but we've gotten close again.  His brother is dating one of my best friends now, so that is fun!  His parents are amazing...ask me about my week always and really seem to care about me as much as their son.  They have a close family so that's nice.  We have lunch with them on Sundays or every other.  However, I pretty much grew up with their family so that might help the situation.  But they are very welcoming and kind bunch of people!  Also are great with boundries, which is amazing!

SnackBot

c4162:

I liked both of my in laws until I got pg. I still adore my FIL. But my relationship with MIL became irreparably broken shortly after the birth of my son. I have since seen in retrospect that over the past 14 years, I had let go of far too many transgressions.

I now have no respect for her whatsoever and can barely be in the same room. I will be civil for the sake of my child(ren)'s relationship with grandmother. I am not going to let my feelings for her hinder the granmother/grandchild relationship.

But that is where it ends.

It is sad because before I bacame pg., I used to brag that I must be the only woman in America that actually loves her IL's. But those days are gone. 

I could have written this word for word.  Now I'm curious what your MIL did.  My MIL's actions are jaw-dropping.

mlee116

katarczyna:

DH's parents are kooky and I can only tolerate them in small doses.

This.  We get along fine, but I try to avoid spending long periods of time with them. 

AmThomps85

I absolutely love my mother-in-law! She is a wonderful woman and someone I can talk to whenever I need to. I moved to AZ four years ago and everyone from my side of the family is in WA and CA so it's nice to have a maternal figure to talk to about things.

My father-in-law has a debilitating disease and is in constant pain because of it so he can be a little needy, he also can be a bit of a space case and seems like he is stoned much of the time becasue of his medication. (Which because of recent laws changing my actually include him getting stoned as part of his treatment) He tends to get on my hubby's nerves quite often so I wind up being the middle man with him as I have a little more patience when it comes to him. He means well, he just has issues stemming from his disability and treatment thereof.

wittyschaffy

I enjoy my ILs for what they are.  They aren't people I would probably be friends with outside of my relationship with their son though so it is tough to want to spend time with them because we just really don't have much in common other than DH.  They  are perfectly nice - sometimes misguided and oversteppy - but nothing unmanageable. 

rochella

bostonjen:

I like my in-laws just fine.  FIL is cool.  MIL is a bit of a loon, but she's nice enough.  They aren't overbearing and stay out of our decisions unless we ask them for their advice.    No complaints. 

This is us.  I really don't care for my DH's sister though.  The only word I can think of to describe our relationship is "frenemy."  Nothing terrible, but she gets on my nerves really bad, and I feel like everything she does is totally insincere and annoying.  I try to be nice to her, but then I bad talk her to everyone.  I also avoid seeing her as much as possible, but it's harder now because of my niece.  

Now, I -really- hate SIL's husband.  I flat-out refuse to see him.  Luckily he never "lets" her come down for holidays or anything, or he makes her go by herself, so it's not so much of a hassle to avoid him, and doesn't make me seem like a dramatic princess. 

leolyns

I like DH's parents - both are considerate and his mom has a great sense of humor. They accepted me immediately when DH and I were dating and have always welcomed me into their home. I have 3 BIL's, 1 I don't know that well since he lives abroad, the other 2 live nearby; one is family oriented and one isn't.

DH likes my mom, sis and mom's boyfriend. He has only seen my dad three times. He likes my grandparents but my grandpa kind of intimidates him. My cousins all love H and he loves them too. 

imoan

My ILs are probably the best two people I know.

aWm2010

I love my in-laws! They treat me like their own and my parents also treat DH like their own as well.

kacelle

I love my in-laws.  DH is close to both of his parents and to his five brothers, and I'm really glad.  My family was very opposed to DH and I marrying (due to religious reasons), and DH's family was such a great support to us.  My parents seem really immature and loud compared to DH's (his parents are 12 years older than mine).  It's also really fun to have five BILs, since I grew up with two sisters and I'm not close to them now.

beautiflaw

I liked mine, until I found out that they hate me. Then I stopped liking them and trying to please them. 

 

I know a lot of people who have great relationships with their in laws. Luckily for them they married into families that can respect boundaries and don't have members with untreated mental illness. Good for them.

beautiflaw

It seems to work out like that pretty often. My husband spends more time with my family than his own. Maybe its because mine actually care enough to visit?