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The swinger on Relationships is making me feel gross.
in Married Life
I think I'm a big ol' prudyprude, but swinging is so repugnant to me. Worse, she plans to foster children, who are probably already traumatized and/or f*cked up in some way.
Re: The swinger on Relationships is making me feel gross.
Swinging is repulsive.
I know swingers who aren't gross about it.
I don't mind swinging, if that's your thing.
I mind the swingers (and STW is dangerously close to one of them) that act like the only way to be sexually liberated is to fuckevery person you may fantasize about.
YES. This completely. I can't do swinging. It doesn't make me unenlightened or a square.
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
We have some friends that are in an open relationship. They say that they feel like they are two people who have committed to this journey called life together, but that that doesn't mean they owe each other anything.
So, they have sex with who they want, when they want, where they want, and have sex with each other when they want to do that.
I could never do it, and while I don't judge them I do wonder if they're really all that happy married to each other.
I agree with this.
LuckyVal always seems totally normal and not weird to me at all.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
Swinging is hard for me to understand. I love my husband and he is the only person I have any interest in humping. Monogamy = awesome!
But I kinda view this like nipple clips and ball gags. I don't want to do it myself. In fact, it grosses me out a little bit. But - provided it's part of a genuinely consensual and adult relationship - whatever floats your boat, man.
I think it's LittleMissNikki who's the swinger.
Ohhh my friend. You just haven't met the right nipple clamp.
This is probably true. My nipples - they shy away from anything that resembles a clothespin, but I am willing to admit I may be missing out.
at this stage in the game - I couldn't /wouldn't want to be friends with swingtards. It's just such self indulgent bullshiit - I can't be bothered to deal with people and thier stupid shiit.
Honestly and in my opinion, there are key, foundation components that go with any relationship - trust, communication, mutual outlook and morality, etc.. everything else, including sexual tastes (including tastes for group sex and so forth) fit into that or don't and that's it. Beyond that it really comes down to the pair and nothing more.
I agree with that.
I have friends that are swingers that are awesome people. If it works for them, so be it.
I just side-eye couples who talk about all the trust and whatnot in a swinging relationship, when the reality is that the relationship has cheating in its foundation.
YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!
I would never even consider for one milisecond that LuckyVal would in any way put her kid in harm's way for a lifestyle choice. There are plenty of vanilla sex couples putting their kids through hell and exposing them to way too much, too young in terms of abuse, alcoholism, neglect, criminal activity, what have you.
I think Nikki said it best (and I never knew you were one, too) - there are skeevy, awful people in all walks of life, with all habits and proclivities.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
Are you asking about what I just said, or my polyamorous parents? The former is someone on these boards.
The latter. I didn't know about this!
ETA: You don't have to elaborate if you don't want to. I just realized this came off sounding demanding and obnoxious.
So color me suprised. I did not know Luckyval was a swinger. Nope nope nope, I had not a clue.
And now I want to ask one simple question of her and she can ignore if she likes.
When you were TTC you obviously held off on the swinging right?
It is having (or wanting to have/trying to have) more than one "intimate" relationship at a time, with everybody involved knowing and approving.
There was a debate on RE yesterday about if swinging met this definition or not, since for some people over there that swing, the sex is just sex - nothing "intimate" about it.