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Everything about you bothers me, darling.
ARE YOU CRAZY? I've always had it.
Here's the list in case you were wondering:
FM
Arthritis
CFS
Sciolosis
Sciatica
Chronic whiplash
Herniated discs
Slipped discs
Uneven legs causes hip problems
TMJD
Chronic migraines
Ear pain
Chronic sinus infections
you're even crazier than i thought before. huh. learn something new every day i suppose.
PPH! BFFL! LYLAS!
You forgot Hypochondria
Nope dont have that.
Although I do have secondary depression
Which means i got the fm FIRST
If I ignore the rest of the post...short answer to THAT quesiton?
No.
If you choose to reproduce w/ this man, you are essentially saying "I trust him, implicitly, in the future, regardless of his relationship to me, to be capable of making parenting decision w/ equal responsibility to mine"
Since you think that, without you, he'd be a twit w/o the ability to make choices, I'd imagine he'd be a poor choice of people to reproduce with.
Just out of curiosity how are you engaging in all this wild sex with all of these random men and women as well as your husband with all of your ailments?
I don't think sex two times a week total is that much.
Wait are you having sex with random people twice a week or is this just your you-and-DH average?
Where do the randoms fit into this schedule?
One with him, once with others. Sometimes twice with him, none with others. Sometimes none. Not more than three (and that's only if there is a party).
I don't see how this relates to my question though................
LMAO! Hmmm, I wonder why everyone gave you such a hard time? Maybe it's because you so completely twisted and BSC that you want to bring little angels into your hell of a life I must say, or you are some troll throwing well planned MUD all over this damn site, and it's sister sites.
I can't wait for the update.
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"Here's the list in case you were wondering:
FM
Arthritis
CFS
Sciolosis
Sciatica
Chronic whiplash
Herniated discs
Slipped discs
Uneven legs causes hip problems
TMJD
Chronic migraines
Ear pain
Chronic sinus infections"
GEEZ! I think someone should just take you out to pasture and put you out of your misery now! Problem solved.
As long as you're making assumptions (divorce) and you love illness....I'm going to assume the poor child stuck with you will have some serious behavior problems. But, you might like that...you can add it to your checklist of ailments.
1.) Since you are so obsessed with divorce. Just file and put yourself out of the misery of waiting for it. If we all lived our lives according to stats none of us would have babies, drive cars, or play the lottery. Get a grip, and live your life NOW. Don't spend it worrying about what MIGHT happen.
2.) If you are truly concerned start yourself your own savings account as a Rainy-Day-My-H-My-Divorce-Me-&-My-Fictional-Babies Fund. Have your H do the same. That way if either of you decide to bail that all is accounted for. You just split the assets & move on.
3.) Don't have children with your partner if you are so worried about divorce that it occupies this much of your time. You absolutely don't want kids at this stage, if you don't envision your relationship lasting.
4.) There are plenty of other things to worry about. You or your H could die. Your theoretical kids could be orphans. The sun could expand and consume the first three inner planets. Then we wouldn't have to worry about any of this shiite.
Calm down. Enjoy your life. Don't live in constant fear of what-if.
Why not prepare for things if you can?
I'm not living in constant fear, I'm just like a girl scout - beeeeeeeeeeeeee prepared!
Just imagine what you could add to this list if you went and saw a psychiatrist, too! Then you would be the champion of all causes!
Sure, divorce is a possibility in life.
That is why before you get married you take measures to make an intelligent choice about who you are marrying, whether the relationship is one that is right for you to continue forward into marriage with, and whether you are ready as an individual and a couple to get married. If there are assets to be considered, or previous children, you can sign a prenup. Then if it is right, you get married, and you do your best a team and as individuals to maintain and nurture a healthy, strong, mutually fulfilling marriage. You go forward and enjoy life, each other, and your marriage.
You do not sit there everyday contemplating what is going to happen when you get divorced and somehow think that is normal. If you are, that should be a pretty big red fvcking flag that something is a bit off.
If you cannot see why people think you are a bit off your rocker to worry about divorce on this frequent of a basis while denying that your marriage is not on the rocks (even with all the other weirdness of your marriage aside), or to be contemplating what will happen if you foster children five years from now when you are this unsure about the stability of your marriage today (or even whether you will be approved to foster/adopt given you plan to lie on your application, live this lifestyle and have this many health problems and income issues), then you really are even crazier than I thought.
Troll, MUD, or both.
Do what you have to do Wackadoodle McCrazycakes.
I get being prepared, but you are taking it to a whole level of crazy.
I gave you advice as best I could, but in your state of lunacy you neglected to see that. Your welcome. Now start your Rainy-Day-OMG-The-World-Might-Come-to-an-End Fund. You know, be prepared and all.
........you do know the divorce rate is 50% right now?
And, that's in the BEST of conditions.
I absolutely do not sit and think about divorce. I love MH, I love our live, I love the future we've planned out together.
But, divorce is a VERY REAL POSSIBILITY.
I really don't think I'm crazy for wanting to be prepared for it, in the unfortunate case that it happens.
You need a I-stick-my-head-in-the-mud wake up call.
How exactly are you supposed to raise children with all of this going on? I mean you know that children in the foster system have the potential to have serious problems, right? You really think you can handle that when you're that fcuked up? Damn, good luck with that.
Also, you have to have family recommendations when you adopt - whether through the foster system, an agency or internationally. And you can't just say "Oh, we hate them/they hate us." because that's a huge red flag, and they're not just handing kids out anymore. You're about 20/30 years late for that. And if you have that many health problems, that's a big red flag for them too.
We have other family, of course.
And, according to the ladies on here, my medical problems don't exist so that shouldn't be an issue then............
I am a knottie reg and never post on TN, but I had to for this.
You make it sound like the divorce is a contagious disease. It isn't. The only reason the divorce rate has risen is because people find it an option now. People were no happier, and likely less happy, 20 years ago in marriage. The idea that divorce is an option and easy has led to an increase. You aren't helping yourself by considering divorce for you a possibility and a likelihood.
Further, the divorce rate isn't 50% in the best conditions, that is just silly.
Let me explain how the divorce rate is determined. They take the number of marriages filed in a year and divide it by the number of divorces filed in the same year. This does not mean 50% of people who are getting married this year will be divorced. It actually speaks more to the individuals who got married a number of years ago.
Where did you supposedly go to school?
Well this just proves the theory of Fibro=Mental disorder. Now you have athritis. Honestly I believe you are in pain, from getting road to hard and put up wet. I can not believe you would even consider for one second being a foster parent. The mind it baffles.