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Re: Wednesday Randoms
I may have mentioned this before, but I think it's interesting.
My parents/family have never asked when are kids coming or put any pressure on us. My Ma and Pa were married for 5 years and didn't have kids until they were in their late 20's.
Andy's family, CONSTANTLY asks when we are having kids. His parents married in their early twenties and had babies immediately.
I feel like, we're normal to my family, but abnormal to the in-laws so that's why they make comments more often.
Kasa, two things: You could tell your mom that you practice all the time. Usually that clues people in that they're discussing something way personal.
I've also found that responding with "Probably never." to the when are you having kids question is a really effective way to not get asked again. If you put your foot down firmly that you won't, there just isn't much more room for discussion. And if you do decide to have kids, then you can give your mom a happy surprise.
Thanks for the support offer! I think it would be way easier if we just knew one way or another. Then I could say, basically, "We're not going to have kids. Get over it." But you all know how we are about making decisions....
It's also hard because neither my parents or my inlaws have any grandkids, so they're kind of relying on us. I know SIL plans to at some point, but she's obviously just a tad unpredictable, so who knows. And my borther has other priorities.
I have made it clear to my mom that we may never have kids. I have also figured that it's better to surprise her than to get her hopes up. But she seems to be kind of bitter, and that's why she keeps making comments.
And related to Juli's comment about when parents had kids, I was born 9.5 months after my parents got married. B was born 5 months before his parents got married. So neither side is exactly used to people waiting. They just get down to business.
This is what I do, too. Hook RIGHT next to the door. Last thing I grab leaving, first thing I put away when getting home.
Adding to the child discussion:
We have a child. I love being a mother of that one child. I am not so sold on having more children. Mere's delivery sucked. Breastfeeding sucked. The first two months of her life I felt like the world's worst mother. I'm not exactly jumping at the chance to do it again. What do I get?
"She CAN'T be an only!" Yes, she can.
"Do you want her to grow up ALONE?!" Alone, really? She's never alone. She has a mom, dad and dog at her house, plus aunts, uncles and second cousins who follow her around. Sounds not alone.
"Oh, but we would LOVE to see you with another one!" .....? I wouldn't.
"She's so cute! Doesn't that make you want more?" Nope, it makes me very thankful for the one I have.
My friend and her husband are finally pregnant after not-avoiding for three years. She had to take some drugs, they were beginning some infertility appointments, etc. What comment do they get now? "Oh, you HAVE to get a new car for that baby. You can't possibly drive THAT ONE!" (She drives an old Toyota something that she got for $500 and it gets 50 mpg, which is great since she drives 70 miles one way to work every day.)
My point being, it doesn't matter what the issue is. People have opinions and think they should spread them.
Off topic, but it is harder for us to decide on having child #2 than it was to decide on having child #1. I thought it would be an easy decision.
I agree. I'm fairly certain we will have one more. It's just hard to decide on WHEN.
Opinions are like assholios
lol
We decided when. Now we just have to make sure this is what we really want.
LVila, very good point about people always having opinions. Sorry to hear that you're feeling some pressure.
Molly, glad to hear that your blood-giving was a success!
Yesterday when I was uncomfortable leaving early, I was twiddling my thumbs all day.
Today when I could leave anytime, I got a little project to work on and the website is giving me crap, making it take forever. I've also been chatty Cathy with a thousand coworkers, and emailing my friends and family. On top of all of this, I got my booklist and need to make a matrix of book prices for my engineer H to review before I buy. That will take at least an hour or two.
Life is funny.
Bummer....isn't that always the way?
I have to go there within the next week or two, as well. Thanks for the reminder. I wonder what the odds are that I could get in and out of there on my lunch hour someday.
The matrix for your H is hilarious. And yes, life is funny.
If you are close to Hudsonville...go to that SOS. It is seriously the QUICKEST SOS office I have ever been to. I think the longest wait I have had is 15 minutes.
Thanks! My dad brought it for him and he was loving it!
Depends on the day. Monday's and Friday's are never good days to go, it's usually always the procrastinators on those days. Are you just renewing car tabs? Usually they have a line designated just for this and it goes pretty fast. I think there are some offices open until 7 pm on Wednesday's too.
I was supposed to too! Until I had no way to get there....
My license is expiring and I have to renew it in person this time. I'm going to try the downtown one on my lunch break some day. If it looks like it's going to be a disaster, my second choice is Plainfield (I've had good luck there before).
So true!!! If Wyoming is too busy, I might swing out there.
This made me laugh to because it sounds like something I'd do. Gotta love living life by spreadsheets.
Yes, I have definitely thought about this too.
I'm sorry about your friend's baby. I can't even imagine how difficult that would be to handle. So sad.