Free Form Friday

juliebug1997

mnkate:

serlace:

Jaymi - T&Ps for sure!

Leslie - Awesome about your middle school best friend.  But, so sad about the person with the baby.  It makes me sad.

I just read an article about fertility that was on yahoo.  It makes me kind of sad.  I'm not 35, but if we start TTC, I will be close to 35 when we do.  I feel kind of stuck.  I'm not 100% sure I want to start TTC, but then I feel like by the time I decide, my chances of conceiving are significantly decreasing.

I am pretty much in the exact same situation. I'm 32, almost 33, and I definitely feel like the heat is on. I have a hard time even remembering that I'm old enough to have a child (hahaha), much less nearing my "expiration date". It gives me anxiety. 

I think I'm past mine.  I had to take three rounds of ramped up medicine when we were TTC back in January or so.  They made me feel like I was a crazy person.  I'll be 37 this November and family history is not on my side.  

mnkate

stephiehall:

serlace:

Jaymi - T&Ps for sure!

Leslie - Awesome about your middle school best friend.  But, so sad about the person with the baby.  It makes me sad.

I just read an article about fertility that was on yahoo.  It makes me kind of sad.  I'm not 35, but if we start TTC, I will be close to 35 when we do.  I feel kind of stuck.  I'm not 100% sure I want to start TTC, but then I feel like by the time I decide, my chances of conceiving are significantly decreasing.

My GYN had all 3 of her babies after 40.  One of our attorney's wives had one at 42 and another at 45.  My old boss had her first at 35.  Heck, my grandmother had my uncle at 38!  I would not say by any means that 35 is too old anymore.

Thanks for sharing this! I think that sometimes people with good intentions (Hi Mom!!) talk about a bit too much about "what if's" and it just adds to the anxiety. Too much information is not always a good thing. 

lesalyric

stephiehall:

My GYN had all 3 of her babies after 40.  One of our attorney's wives had one at 42 and another at 45.  My old boss had her first at 35.  Heck, my grandmother had my uncle at 38!  I would not say by any means that 35 is too old anymore.

Maybe not at 35, but much older than that is shaky. Statistically the odds are not with you and the increased chances of miscarriage, birth defects and downs are no joke.

I guess I look at this with a completely different prospective from most people. I grew up surrounded by women who had trouble conceiving and grieved the late start to "trying" when their friends had 6 year olds and they still weren't pregnant. This is flameful but I also watched my aunt go through the heartbreak of terminating a downs pregnancy. I do not fault her at all as it is a personal choice whether or not you can handle a lifelong committment of that magintude.

Lacey - I understand completely. Some days I still think, what the hell are we doing?!?  To completely contradict my usual stance though, I will say this. If you think you have decent fertility, the babies will be there for you at 35+ and you should wait until you feel ready, or maybe less ready but more when you feel like you will not regret missing anything big once you have a kid.

lesalyric

mnkate:

Thanks for sharing this! I think that sometimes people with good intentions (Hi Mom!!) talk about a bit too much about "what if's" and it just adds to the anxiety. Too much information is not always a good thing. 

Oops. Yeah, don't read my post...full of what ifs!

mnkate

lesalyric:

mnkate:

Thanks for sharing this! I think that sometimes people with good intentions (Hi Mom!!) talk about a bit too much about "what if's" and it just adds to the anxiety. Too much information is not always a good thing. 

Oops. Yeah, don't read my post...full of what ifs!

Too late!!!! *runs to Target to buy an ovulation kit*

Kidding - no worries. You also make really good points. No matter what, it's important to be informed. I'm learning a lot!

superMcG

For what it's worth, I really like the idea that I'll be 42 when my youngest graduates from high school. Plenty of time to still go and do. I like that we'll have a lot of time to enjoy our empty nest, and be young enough to rough-house with our grandkids.

It's not for everyone... in fact, I never actively wanted kids before I had Jack. But now I'm super glad I'm a young mom.

shortgirltx

lesalyric:

This morning I had a history class and Intro to Women's and Gender Studies. I needed an elective and it sounded interesting. The class is okay, a little too radical for my taste but still a good exercise in expanding my thought processes.

You will never look at Disney movies the same

shortgirltx

Thanks ladies.  DH has been sending me off in the mornings this week, telling me "Don't take no sh!t" and today I didn't.   

Speaking of babies, last week I was going through DH's iPhone and the free apps- holy cow there are TONS on charting and calendars for your pregnancy.   

stephiehall

superMcG:

For what it's worth, I really like the idea that I'll be 42 when my youngest graduates from high school. Plenty of time to still go and do. I like that we'll have a lot of time to enjoy our empty nest, and be young enough to rough-house with our grandkids.

It's not for everyone... in fact, I never actively wanted kids before I had Jack. But now I'm super glad I'm a young mom.

This is where I am and I love it. 

Of course, I am well aware that your chances of conceiving decline with age.  I think that goes without saying.