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baby name spin off
So, i have one solid girl name. it has been the girl name of my imaginary child forever. i'm not telling you the name, but its pretty and classic and not a Oshleigh Mellon Pineapple Modern-name
mr sd up and decides to tell our friends the name the other night. wtf?
i told him there was an unspoken rule that you do not tell the name before you have the baby or at least know what you are having and are 100% sure of the name.
i was so annoyed.he had no idea this was a rule.
your thoughts? this is a rule right? do you tell or not?
Re: baby name spin off
Jonathan Dean 4.5.08
Anna Capri 5.4.11
meh- we kept it pretty generic. our first boy name was a done deal since he is a 4th. for the girl names we would tell people a few and say that we hadn't decided.
i would be annoyed with dh if i were you though. not really sure why, probably because we didn't agree on telling (or not telling) and he opened his big mouth and told.
are you guys finding out the sex?
we are finding out the sex. though, i'm hesitant to tell anyone the sex. trying to prevent both tonka trucks or princess gear.
i told him to only tell fake funny names from now on. like chewbacca.
We told both boy names and Bella's name. Mostly because other people were pregnant at the time and I was claiming the name first. lol
Since we didn't know what we were having the 4th time around, we kept the names a secret for the most part. Only told MIL & SIL. Penelope is kind of different and I didn't want to risk hearing commentary or someone stealing it because we loved it so much. If Penny was a boy, she would have been Adam.
I was really going back and forth on names even though we had narrowed it down to a couple. We didn't tell everyone what the name was going to be until we figured it out for sure and I was into my 5th month of being pregnant.
I didn't really tell the other possibilities because I knew my mom would have an issue with them and I didn't want to hear the ***. Also, when I had miscarried we had talked about names and the boy name I wanted was Tommy, after my dad, and I actually got a phone call from my aunt (my mom's sister) nagging me about how it was rude to say I wanted to name the baby after my dad if it was a boy because I didn't say I was going to name the baby after my mom if it was a girl.
People oddly think they have some sort of say in what you name your kid. It's really annoying.
We told my parents and his parents when we had narrowed in on 3 names. We only at that time because we knew that they would not say anything negative about any of them. We only picked a name a couple weeks ago and have told if people ask since then.
I have had a couple people at work tell me they don't like the name. I don't really care. They named their kids what they wanted and I will too. I have told them this as well.
I don't think it's an unspoken rule. I think it's a preference.
We did not tell because we did not have a name until after he was born. We had lists of names, that we shared, but didn't decide until a whiteboard session hours after his birth.
I dont think its a rule, but I DO think its a rule to agree on the plan to tell or not tell before you tell--follow that?!
We were "team green" so we had 4 names for each sex picked out and we told those names but we kept our final choice fairly secret, only because its an odd name but its in honor of my late MIL so we were really set on it and I didnt want to hear any negativity about it that would forever be embedded in the back of my mind.
Selfish opinion: as a bystander to others' pregnancies I get more excited for babys arrival if more guessing is involved. The planned csection for the already fully named, sex determined baby is so boring to me. Albeit miraculous and all that but I like the big reveal that comes with a total surprise so Im usually a no-tell kind of person.
We didn't tell anyone our daughter's name until she was born. I didn't want any unsolicited opinions.
We did have people try to get the name out of us before she was born. One of MH's aunts wanted to get a personalized blanket for her as a shower gift, but we stood our ground and didn't tell the name. She gave us a blanket personalized with "Miss LastName", which I thought was awesome.
Ditto Kell. I don't think it's an unspoken rule but more preference like the other girls said. I also don't think you can be mad at him, especially if you didn't tell him to not say anything in the first place.
With that said... I would not throw a list out there to everyone with possible names way in advance of knowing the gender because I feel like then, you are setting yourself up to possibly having a name stolen. We told everyone our names once we found out the gender for both our kids and even if someone else in DH's family had the brass ones to steal it and name their kid the name we picked, I was wasn't going to change it.
I agree with pp that it should be a decision made together and I'd have been annoyed if it wasn't decided yet.
Like ering, baby0602 was a jr so we had no qualms telling folks the name. We still have not publicly disclosed our girl name (other than in the previous post and to my mom and sister) because frankly I just don't want to
partially bc of name theft, partially bc I want there to be some surprise should no 2 have lady bits.
Oddly enough, even though DDs name is not common, my coworker and his wife had a daughter 6 weeks prior to mine and they independently chose the same name we did, also to honor their mothers! We were friends at work so I think some people probably thought I stole the name, but I wasnt about to change it.
I think keeping the name and/or sex secret is silly. It just seems, I don't know, very self involved or something.
Unless you're doing what KellDell did. I like that.
We had our girl name picked out before we were even married and never considered any other names for a girl. We weren't worried about other people having the same name as it's not very common.
That said, we told everyone we were going to call her Lucy for short. We received several gifts with "Lucy" on it. We ditched the nickname as soon as she was born b/c she didn't look like a Lucy at.all. We just call her by her full name.
It wasn't easy to break everyone of the Lucy habit though. We still have some people call her that a year later. I still regret it.
lol at self involved. of course its self involved - this whole process is self involved.
I always have to remind myself she isn't a Lucy!
True.
You kwim though. It's like (says in a dramatic voice), "Oh I have this huge secret and I'm not going to tell you what it is and you can try to guess but I'm still not going to tell b/c it's a very important huuuuge secret."
Puuuhlease.
exactly.
oldie but goodie
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJRzBpFjJS8
yes, its nothing, you're right my feelings are invalid. thank you for telling me so.
stop messing with the pregnant woman.
it is the most important name i've ever named. its not a goldfish.
i dont care about name stealers, in fact i dont know any other pregnant people.
i just dont want the big reveal to be ruined.
the jazz number at the end depends on the secret to be kept.
i hate all of you....
if this is true, i would like to place my demand for a video now. the dreamings, baby dreaming, and oliver, the cat, and the other dog doing jazz paws. it would be amazing.
Also people will still say stuff about the name even after the baby is born. I learned that. P's mom mom insisted milo was a dogs name but was cute or some ***.
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they will say nothing! you will see this baby name mounted upon high. for it shall be the most perfect name for the most perfect baby.
Hehe, clearly it's all JMO.
Of course, I remember the old pre-ku SD and I think she mightmaybesomehowmayhave agreed with me.
what if it's a boy?
Will you share the girls name?
Also by sharing you get to claim firstie on it just in case I get KU and steal it.
lachute: i will share nothing on here b/c i'm pretty sure my mom still snoops this board like she did the knest and that was annoying.
hi mom.
ering: if it is a boy, we are going to let the nurses name it 'baby boy' b/c mr sd hates all human boy names apparently.
or we've agreed that the baby will have my last as middle and his last as last. so if we can't get a first name maybe my last will be first and his last is last and call it a day.
ETA: to add something funnier:
ering- if it is a boy, we'll abort and try again.
ha! abortion jokes are 100% more funnier when you are KO!