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Re: Flameful confession
I also have this issue.
No one can judge how someone deals with horrible situations seeing as they weren't in your exact situation. I'm pretty sure if my dad abused me, I would confront him about it as an adult and probably punch him in the face but then again who knows how that abuse would have changed my personality. I'm so sorry you're going through this. You are such a beautiful person inside and out and it kills me to know you have to endure this. *huge hugs*
When you told your mom your dad sexually abused you, what was her reaction?
I feel like I need to develop more patience for a LOT of people of this board. I am 35. I roll my eyes at a lot of the immaturity, decisions, questions, reactions and posts of some people. I have to try to remember that I was once in my early 20's going through life. (Granted I wasn't married or even in a serious relationship.)
I don't feel nearly as close to this group of girls than I did the previous group and I think it is because this group is so.much.younger.than.me. Also, I hate when people put periods in between the words like that.
I used to be a strong advocate of the kumbaya b/c we had such a smooth functioning board. Now I don't give a . BUT- some people really can be downright mean for no reason (on other boards) and I don't want this to turn into it.
I can promise you a lot don't notice the immaturity (including me).
I would want someone to call me out on it.. in a non-snarky kind of way
Black & white. Cropped. Fuzzy.
I see no lime green hoodie!
But you and your dress are beautiful!
The thing is, a lot of it is really just associated with age and who am I to tell you not to act your age.
Yeah, I wouldn't mind.
It's part of growing. Don't be a b!tch about it and i'll be fine.
I have confronted him. He apologized a lot and begged for forgiveness. I'm working on that. Which is why I don't cut him out.
I'm pretty sure I've never been angry. Like, ever. I've been hurt and frustrated, but never angry. I don't understand why people get mad over things, and they almost never get mad over things that I would expect.
I don't get why people get insulted by things that are obviously unintentional.
I also don't understand why people have blind loyalty to people who are mean to them. If I don't like someone, I don't talk to them again. Ever. I don't care if they've been a friend since childhood or if they're a close family member-- why waste the space in my life? I don't miss them when they're gone.
I don't get why if someone has an opinion on something, they think all other opinions are wrong. Not different, but wrong. Especially on a really stupid, silly level, like, "Skinny jeans are hideous and anyone who doesn't agree is an idiot."
I was a huge whorebag when I was younger and it was all for attention purposes and to make make up for a huge lack of self-worth. My self esteem was just a front for how little I felt on the inside.
I lost my V with an older guy after doing lines off his d!ck. It was planned. He had a GF. This GF was one of the only older girls that was really sweet to me. To this day I feel kinda bad.
She found out. He asked me to lie and say I made it all up b/c I was so in love with him. I said no.
This is the only thing that makes this thread worth opening.
LOL!
Post REDEEMED!!!!
I can say with some confidence that I understand your personality and I think you are just really easy going. I know that you can get frustrated or irritated at times, but I couldn't imagine you angry either. I just think that you honestly live a very happy life and that is because YOU have made this for yourself.
Initially I just want to tell you to fix your siggy. It has outdated stuff containing cartoons, it's all oddly shaped, it isn't centered.
It just looks like you don't care.. in which case you should be over on TIP or something.
Now I feel like the HOA of BNOTB.
Pull the weeds out of your sidewalk too!
I think that I used to associate a guys attention with self worth during my younger whore-bag days.
I once traded pizza for drugs.
I also had my uncle buy me drugs once.
I only did drugs twice.
I feel like this is an incredibly invasive question since I don't know you, so feel free to tell me to STFU, but why would you want to forgive him? He doesn't deserve it. Do you have to forgive him (according to his terms, I mean) in order to still see your mom?
Thanks :-) That sounds better than, "Congratulations, you're a sociopath!" (I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder.)
I have a very VERY short fuse. I could never use skype with certain people b/c of the faces I make when I'm talking to them.
One thing that annoys me about MH is he doesn't put any of the portable cooking appliances away. (IE crock pot, set it and forget it.)
If I cook, he cleans. That should include putting stuff like that away. It makes me angry b/c I feel like he expects me to do it. When in reality, he's fine keeping it on the counter until Saturday when we clean.
I am working on my temper b/c I feel it is unhealthy and no one deserves to be at the other end of it. Particularly b/c I would be extremely sad if Jason went off on me the way I sometimes do him.
And we have pets! It helps us blend it with the normies.
I can relate to this.
I'm actually able to control myself much more now that i've switched BCP
I'm sure I come across as more tightly wound and like.. constantly angry and pissed off on here.
IRL I'm a lot of fun, easy going, and constantly laughing and joking.
I've been giving The Husband passes on a lot of jerk face things he's said lately because I'm sure he is stressed by having his MIL living with him.
But he's the one who freaking invited her to live here.
And I really want to take him on Dr. Phil when he says some of the things he does so someone else can publicly tell him he's making no sense and being a jerk just because he is stressed out.
I was REALLY hoping this would have been the 10 pager. I'm running out of stuff I'm willing to reveal.
Edited to add - SWEET