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Is this a NJ thing or are my friends tacky?
So Chase's 1st birthday is coming up and I mentioned that I won't be doing presents at the party to my birth month board and I got some comments that that was rude.
I've only been to two 1st birthday parties and no one opened presents.
Is this rude, or is it a NJ thing?
Re: Is this a NJ thing or are my friends tacky?
eh i've been to parties in and out nj where presents are or are not opened.
belle did her first year cause my family was like you HAVE to. whatever she was bored in like two minutes. i opened all the gifts.
all the other years we did it when it was just her and we could focus on it after the hoopla over hte party was over
i think some people are OLD school like that. to me its no big deal
I think its weird to not open presents. I went to one party that was like that, and I was kinda put off.. I put time and thought into buying the gift, open the present!
so tacky in my opinion
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I wouldn't use the word "tacky.". I think some people need to see you open their gift for satisfaction. I couldn't care less. For J's birthday, had we opened presents it would have been more like a baby shower than a birthday party. We had our immediate families over on her real birthday, if they wanted, to see her open their presents.
i have not seen presents opened at a party for like 15 years... when my niece and nephew were young at their parties.
I think as parties move out of the house more now... and time is limited at play places, etc - it just makes sense NOT to open gifts... and I also think for young kids it's a wise idea... no little kid wants to watch their friend open 20 presents - period. It's not fun for anyone but the birthday kid and maybe their parents... everyone else has to sit through it and pretend to be happy and having fun... NOT fun.
not tacky at all, as long as you send out TY notes.
we didn't do it at Bella's party...if we did we would have been there all night and had a lot of bored and uninterested people on our hands.
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My daughter's first birthday was a big to-do so we decided not to open presents. Some people were offended (older family, etc.). My cousin did the same at her daughter's first birthday and again, some were offended.
Now for DDs 2nd, we opened presents, but there were only about 20 people (mostly family) in attendance and it was at home.
Ok cool.
Honestly, I'm the slowest present opener anyways... For my shower, my girlfriends helped me open the gifts because everyone complained that I was moving too slow LOL.
Since Molly was born we've never been to a party where the birthday girl/boy opened their gifts.
I think it is really ridiculous for a one year old where they still don't really get it.
We open the gifts after the majority of the guests leave and there is only family and very close friends there.
i have never been to a kids' party where they open the gifts, not have we done it in front of guests.
OOT relatives (ie - great grandma) and some local ones (grandma and grandpa) hung around after or the next day when we did open them more privately.
funny enough - at Ava's first - she opened one gift and was pretty much done. she didn't get it - she wanted to play with that toy, so we opened the rest while she played on the side. Now, Sam - that kid got it. She ripped through the paper and screetched with glee at every single thing - lol!
if the gift is for the birthday girl/boy, why do you care if you see it opened? unless you want other people to see what you bought.
i think it's tacky to open them at the party. ESPECIALLY if the kid isn't old enough to open them themselves. it's a party not a gift parade.
MH and I have a debate about this every year. We both remember friends opening presents at parties (He is from NY. I am from wherever -- military brat). But no one opens presents at parties that our son has been too. We just don't know if that's an "NJ thing" or a "20xx thing".
Did you all open presents at parties when you were younger?
FWIW, I can't see how NOT opening gifts is rude, but I can see how some people might think opening them at the party is rude. We always open them at home. For S's b-day we opened them "at the party" but the party consisted only of the grandparents, an uncle and his girlfriend.
well what if they give out good gift bags, then it wont be tacky right? But if they give out gift cards its like a double whammy!
You betcha, lol!!!
I respectfully withdrawn any reference to the words "tacky" or "rude" and hereby subsitute them with "unorthodox" and "different"
No one throws the present in the garbage, they receive the same joy from opening it whether you see it or not. If you want to see it, and reep the rewards of giving the gift, then just give it to the birthday child at another time, that's what the grandparents do. I couldnt imagine making all the other kids sit and watch my kid open their presents. I have 2 kids and when its just them, its madness. I would rather sit at home with my notepad, let them take their time opening each one, recording who its from and letting them enjoy each one as they get it. I guess I am tacky--oh well
I dont think it has anything to do with NJ.
Renae's 1st bday I did not open them, she had no interest. At Jilly's, Renae opened them with her.
I posted here asking whether to open gifts or not for DS's 1st bday (50+ people, restaurant banquet room), since I was undecided about it. The consensus was to not open gifts at the party. This is what we ended up doing & it was a good decision!
I think it depends on the size of your party & venue.