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Re: Dear Pesties
Basically, I came here to try to be nice and update people who I thought might care about what was going on since I left the FB group. It was a bad idea and I should have just stayed away. I never knew that what I said in a secret FB group was going to get posted here. ie: what I said about my husband's unit in the Army. And I never knew Sadie was going to get brought up or thrown in my face. The real story about what happened and why was on FB. I'm surprised that hasn't been copy&pasted here since what I said about my husband's unit was brought up. For the record I NEVER said the military was idiots. Or however it was worded. I LOVE the military. Any branch. I know I've already said that.
I'm seriously not trying to be nasty, I'm trying to explain and help you understand. You told us you had adopted a dog, then next thing we know the dog is adopted out to someone else and is a foster. And now you say you lied about adopting her in the first place. This is why people question the things you post and why I said to be more careful about what you post and what you say. We can only form an impression of you from the information you provide. This is Nest 101, if you post something, fully explain and give details. Don't post personal information if you don't want people to remember it and possibly use it later.
For example, now that you've said you lied about adopting her and your friend/the rescue WOULD NOT LET YOU people are going to be wondering why the friend wouldn't let you because that seems very odd and inconsistent to us. I know some rescues have blanket policies saying fosters cannot adopt their fosters and others allow it; but it seems weird they would let you have her for a year but then refuse to adopt her to you without you knowing about the policy. Or that you would be under the impression you had adopted her for a year when you hadn't. Also, now that you've admitted you weren't telling the truth about that other inconsistencies you've given on this board are going to make people question whether you are telling the full truth.
That's where the military thing came into play. It did not make sense to a lot of people and people knew something was not right with you saying you owned Sadie and later saying you adopted her out. So people assumed something was also missing/not right with the story about the military.
Like I said, I'm not trying to personally attack you, I'm not trying to use personal information against you. But I can understand why you'd be genuinely hurt and if you're going to stay around on the Nest or use other message boards it might help to be able to understand why MS or others may have a certain impression.
MODESTY: I...no haz it.
Even though I'm not staying around TN I will try to explain from the beginning about Sadie and the military. I don't like people thinking badly about me or thinking I'm a liar or anything of the sort.
It wasn't that I *couldn't* adopt Sadie. Sadie had to be pulled by a rescue and my friend agreed to pull her and pay for her vet expenses *if* I would agree to foster her. If not all expense would be on us. It was a hefty bill and I knew that we couldn't afford at the moment all of the vet bills. Sadie was not altered, she had mattes covering her body, she had horrible worms, etc. She also had a hip problem that was going to require an extensive surgery to re-set her hip to where it was supposed to be. I had Sadie for around a year. During that year I tried to get the money saved that it would cost to adopt her and pay back the rescue for the money they spent on vet expenses. Our agreement was that I could foster her. They would pay for the vet. And then she would be adopted out. And that is what happened.
Now, the military. My husband had surgery to remove his tonsils. He was chosen for a drug test. He was taking Amoxicillin (sp), Lortab, Lidocaine suckers, and ibuprofen. He told the administrator that he was on prescription medicine and asked them to document it. They did not. His test came back positive. And even after 5 months and 5 more passed drug tests they discharged him. The discharge was supposed to be for 6 months. But, that didn't happen. We had to fight the discharge and finally got things straight with the Adjunct General (Major General) of the SC National Guard.
I was asked to explain. So I did. Honestly, just didn't want to leave on a bad note. And honestly can't stand people thinking badly of me.
I think you are continuing to dig a hole. Many people did not want the existence of the Fbook group posted here for privacy reasons. I doubt anyone would C&P what you said because we all rely on the fact that our identities and personal info are kept private. I do not remember the story about Sadie being posted on Fbook, although I am not on there 24/7. i remember you posting here as if she were yours and then announcing her adoption and explaining you wanted to adopt her but an adopter came along and you missed that chance. I do not think so many regulars would think you were hiding information if you had posted a fully explanatory Sadie adoption story.
Regardless, I think the point is kind of moot now. Obviously I dont' speak for everyone on this board but I imagine you're welcome to continue hanging out and posting and hopefully can make an effort to clarify your posts in the future. For those people who have a certain impression based on what you've posted over the past year I'm not sure you'll be able to repair it through explanations, so I'd probably just let that go.
This is my last post here I promise. But, I explained better in another post up there ^^^ somewhere.
Insanity.
I like Jo. I'll keep up with her on facebook (if she's okay with that) and obviously others can choose not to.
I agree that some of the stories have had details missing, and I can understand people being upset if they thought she was saying all military people are idiots (that's not how I took it--if it was, I'd be pissed too, I have family in the military). But if the issue is that you (general you) think she lied, then you obviously don't have to keep contact with her. Problem solved.
And, honestly, while some lies are "worse" than others, everyone has told at least one at some point. Not even necessarily on this board, just in life in general. People make mistakes.
And I'm out before I start singing and asking everyone to hold hands or something.
Snow!
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