'its a wonder how i raised you'

AmyRob04

jessNdean:

Man this post make me feel terrible! TV to me is just not that big of a deal. Maybe because I work from home with her all day so a lot of the time it is my saving grace.  Yes i respect other people's views on it. But for my own daughter, she loves her shows. They aren't bad shows, so I dont have any problem with it.  She has learned to remember songs, and etc.  She loves to dance to the music when it comes on.  She definitely watches a lot of T.V that most of you would give the side eye too. Probably 3 hours the max a day. (during the week only) We are usually out and about.  3 hours out of about 13 of the time she is a wake per day I feel like 3 hours isn't so bad and 10 hours is all other stuff.  I feel like I have a lot more to worry about then how much tv she watches.  they are all educational shows.  Now don't get me wrong, there gets to the point where I have had enough of hearing the TV in the background, I will turn it off.  M does do other stuff on her own then watching TV.  If she didn't do other stuff, play with her toys, read her books, feed her dolls, play with play-doh, paint pictures, color in her coloring book, then maybe I would be more strict on it.  But she has shown me that I can trust her to do other stuff rather than sit in front of the TV all day long.  If that changes, then of course there will be a change.  I just re-read this and hopefully no one took offense too it.  and hopefully I don't get flammed.

This post isn't about whether or not you let your kids watch tv, or about how much. it's about your parents or your ILs forcing their parenting on you and disrespecting what YOU as the PARENT want. Nobody's starting a tv debate here. that happens on Thursdays, lol.

bbzangel70j

Pixiestx:

You should have seen the look I got from my mom when she told me she put Cora down, already asleep, on her stomach and I told her no you shouldn't do that and DH went in and turned her over. It was that "what's your issue I use to do that to you all the time look".  At least she didn't say anything! I think there are plenty valid reasons for your request and does not make you uptight at all to request it.  There was no need for anyone to get critical.

LOL we had that conversation too- about tummy time (i got the same answer 'its a wonder you learned how to crawl'), about sleeping on his stomach ('its a wonder you survived')

i think like turtle said, it has to do with my mom not seeing me as an adult parent. which is a different issue in itself. although never in my life has anyone thought of me as passive and indifferent- people describe me as assertive all the time. but i learned that from somewhere... ahem, mom...

didntelope

laurenpetro:

i think parents today are too uptight.  but that's just me.

This. Totally.

I think it has less to do with older generations not respecting the new rules, and more to do with the general WTFness the older folks feel when they see how much we've pussified our kids. Yes, we know more now. It's not cool to eat lead paint chips. You can't let your kid ride in the front seat. Skittles don't count as fruit. Yes, that's easy. But to their credit, our parents didn't have the internet and mommy blogs and Babies R Us and all the other crap we do that we think makes us better parents. We survived. Our grandparents survived. Their grandparents survived. And if it makes our moms feel vindicated through their bitterness, more power to them. They earned it. And someday, our kids will (think they) know more than us.

Ciiiiiircle of liiiiife!

bbzangel70j

AmyRob04:

This post isn't about whether or not you let your kids watch tv, or about how much. it's about your parents or your ILs forcing their parenting on you and disrespecting what YOU as the PARENT want. Nobody's starting a tv debate here. that happens on Thursdays, lol.

Thursdays? Are you sure that's ONLY on Thursdays?

jessNdean

AmyRob04:

jessNdean:

Man this post make me feel terrible! TV to me is just not that big of a deal. Maybe because I work from home with her all day so a lot of the time it is my saving grace.  Yes i respect other people's views on it. But for my own daughter, she loves her shows. They aren't bad shows, so I dont have any problem with it.  She has learned to remember songs, and etc.  She loves to dance to the music when it comes on.  She definitely watches a lot of T.V that most of you would give the side eye too. Probably 3 hours the max a day. (during the week only) We are usually out and about.  3 hours out of about 13 of the time she is a wake per day I feel like 3 hours isn't so bad and 10 hours is all other stuff.  I feel like I have a lot more to worry about then how much tv she watches.  they are all educational shows.  Now don't get me wrong, there gets to the point where I have had enough of hearing the TV in the background, I will turn it off.  M does do other stuff on her own then watching TV.  If she didn't do other stuff, play with her toys, read her books, feed her dolls, play with play-doh, paint pictures, color in her coloring book, then maybe I would be more strict on it.  But she has shown me that I can trust her to do other stuff rather than sit in front of the TV all day long.  If that changes, then of course there will be a change.  I just re-read this and hopefully no one took offense too it.  and hopefully I don't get flammed.

This post isn't about whether or not you let your kids watch tv, or about how much. it's about your parents or your ILs forcing their parenting on you and disrespecting what YOU as the PARENT want. Nobody's starting a tv debate here. that happens on Thursdays, lol.

LMAO ! very true.  I guess it had me thinking! although tv at  my parents or anyone elses I dont worry so much because it usually isn't anything Morgan likes and she just ignores it.  But you are right. I do have the junk food issue with my parents and inlaws !!

laurenpetro

TSD:

laurenpetro:

i think parents today are too uptight.  but that's just me.

That may very well be true. But I think the point is respect. Our parents got their turn to raise us, and now it's our turn to do what we see fit for our kids, uptight or not. When you leave your kid in someone's care, you don't want to do it tensely, feeling like your parenting decisions aren't being respected or worried about what's going to happen. Some might think the tv thing is uptight (I'm a 24/7 tv house myself) but with some people, give an inch they take a mile. The bottom line is you should be comfortable with whomever is watching your kid regardless of how uptight your requests may be.  

I have a 12 yr old sitter. She follows my instructions to the letter. I never worry when she's there because she has common sense, texts me if she has a question and doesn't do stupid shiit. Let's just say I'm more comfortable with her sitting for E than I am with some family members or just older people that seem to think because they're babysitting they have carte blanche with my child.

please see my second post.

semdkm

A BIG one!  I always have to dance around this with my parents, who raised five of us.  They just simply didn't have the same info...but I do think that we need to be careful ab out communicating that to them--not that they don't care, just that we've done a lot of research and xyz....

superlana1978

laurenpetro:

i think parents today are too uptight.  but that's just me.

So uptight.  Parents today are so busy focusing on articles and giving their child everything they didn't have, they don't give them what they DID have...a childhood where it was okay to watch TV, not everyone got a prize for participating, and still turned out okay.  It's obnoxcious. 

melbride2005

I'm sorry

I think I'm one of the fortunate few who doesn't have a guilt-trippy mother. 

~LisaD~

melbride2005:

I'm sorry

I think I'm one of the fortunate few who doesn't have a guilt-trippy mother. 

This.  Plus, I wish I was more like my mom as a parent so any little things she does while she is watching him that might irritate me, I let them slide.  I know I am very lucky. 

Lishie0729

I'm truly lucky because my SIL is a Pediatric NP, my In-laws LISTEN. What ever I say (or DH says) goes, to the letter. They ask if they can show Gabriel a dvd (Bob the Builder) or take him to the park, or what he needs toy-wise or clothing-wise. They ask if I like the stuff.

Funny thing, I'm dealing with the opposite- Grandpop is a helicopter grandparent! He helps G onto the slide, the ride on toy, etc. etc. He's afraid G's going to "fall". I had a talk with grandpa yesterday saying it's counter-productive. He is going to try not to, lol.

I think the parents wishes should be RESPECTED.