More Confessions?

ChristinaDawn

Come on ladies, yesterday's were great.  Who has some more?

MBMcC421

I judge mothers who allow their older toddlers (2+) to continue to use a pacifier.  At that point, it's just laziness on the parent's part, and there's no reason for it.

rach83

MBMcC421:

I judge mothers who allow their older toddlers (2+) to continue to use a pacifier.  At that point, it's just laziness on the parent's part, and there's no reason for it.

Mmmhm. Or toddlers who still get a bottle. 

MBMcC421

rach83:

MBMcC421:

I judge mothers who allow their older toddlers (2+) to continue to use a pacifier.  At that point, it's just laziness on the parent's part, and there's no reason for it.

Mmmhm. Or toddlers who still get a bottle. 

Yup.  We were out at the mall yesterday and there was this one kid I saw, clearly older than Sam, walking around with a bottle hanging out of his mouth.  It's like, really, Mom?  The conversion isn't that difficult.

ChristinaDawn

I confess that it isinteresting how we as humans are able to have such strong opinions even whn they sometimes go against each other or are not in parrallel to each other.  Ie.  drinking occassionally, in moderation while pregnant is okay but if you don't at least tey to breast feed your child you're judged? 

I'm not judging either way on this. I am guilty of having one small glass of wine on my 1 year anniversary just after the beginning of my second trimester with Alex.  Also as MB pointed out in a joking way, I do eat seafood while pregnant which some may judge as well.  I also drank caffine throughout my entire pregnancy with Alex but have only had tea this time aince the smell and thought of coffee make me want to puke.

My confession is it irrates me how inconsistant we humans can be, including myself when it comes to things that we feel passonately about.

steeser03

I have zero sympathy for people who have routine surgeries done and flip out about them. If your doctor does it six times a day and could do the procedure with his eyes closed? I have no sympathy for your fears. My doctor was the only person in the world to do mine and one of the two people before me died. I realized that makes me sound houlier than thou, but I think people need to have their fears put into perspective from time to time.

michelle142

I confess that I really have no clue how to do most baby related things. Solids? Not a clue. Transitioning from bottle? No idea. Weaning? I don't know.

I'm completely winging this whole parenting gig. I rely a lot on what pedi tells us and what they taught us in the one birthing/parenting class we took when I was like 30 weeks along.

I gather an embarrassingly large amount of information from the internet.

tarmar81

rach83:

MBMcC421:

I judge mothers who allow their older toddlers (2+) to continue to use a pacifier.  At that point, it's just laziness on the parent's part, and there's no reason for it.

Mmmhm. Or toddlers who still get a bottle. 

Surprise, surprise, I judge for both of these things too.  I also judge parents who put any child older than 3 in a stroller.  And really, I think 3 is too old when the stroller's just being used for short trips.

tarmar81

I also confess that I ate all but two squares of this last night:

 

I probably would've eaten the whole thing if I hadn't force Craig to eat two pieces of it.  This was a HEAVY bar of chocolate too.

ChristinaDawn

I also confess that it irks me that people act like I'm making a horrible choice to attempt a VBAC.  It surprises me that the general public thinks its safer for me to repeat a major surgery rather than push a baby out the old fashioned way.  Why do people think this?!  It doesn't make sense to me.  The risk of rupture for me is about 1% and other than that there really aren't any other concerns.  I'm not saying that if while I'm attempting the VBAC my doc says "hey, doesnt look like this is working an your baby is in danger" I'm going to say "Screw you! i'm doing a VBAC!" anyways.  I don't see the harm in trying it.

steeser03

When someone tells me they will pray for my empty uterus, or that I should really really want to be a parent, I judge them. I often times get the impression where its one of those things that if you have to say over and over again how great being a parent is and how much you love it, you are probably faking it.

The lady doth protest too much.

nooner09

I'm ridiculously cometitive and love nothing more than to win at Words with Friends.  That being said, I judge people who use the cheat apps.  I don't need to win *that* bad.  And it just doesn't have the same satisfaction as winning on your own.  I play with one of H's friends who I KNOW uses the cheat app (there's no way those words are in his vocabulary) and I'm currently just barely beating him.  I will take great satisfaction in beating him even with him cheating.

rach83

tarmar81:

rach83:

MBMcC421:

I judge mothers who allow their older toddlers (2+) to continue to use a pacifier.  At that point, it's just laziness on the parent's part, and there's no reason for it.

Mmmhm. Or toddlers who still get a bottle. 

Surprise, surprise, I judge for both of these things too.  I also judge parents who put any child older than 3 in a stroller.  And really, I think 3 is too old when the stroller's just being used for short trips.

Amen. I've seen 6 year olds in a stroller and thought wtf? 

tarmar81

ChristinaDawn:

I also confess that it irks me that people act like I'm making a horrible choice to attempt a VBAC.  It surprises me that the general public thinks its safer for me to repeat a major surgery rather than push a baby out the old fashioned way.  Why do people think this?!  It doesn't make sense to me.  The risk of rupture for me is about 1% and other than that there really aren't any other concerns.  I'm not saying that if while I'm attempting the VBAC my doc says "hey, doesnt look like this is working an your baby is in danger" I'm going to say "Screw you! i'm doing a VBAC!" anyways.  I don't see the harm in trying it.

This is because people keep getting the wrong information over and over and no one questions it. A lot of people equate a hospital VBAC on the same level as having an unassisted home-birth. It's ridiculous.  I'm really glad you're planning on having one, and I bet it will work out just fine.

And Michelle, we're all winging it as parents!  Going with your instincts is the best thing you can do, regardless of what information is out there.  Though I don't know what people did before the Internet was invented and they could compare information on their offspring. 

MBMcC421

ChristinaDawn:

I confess that it isinteresting how we as humans are able to have such strong opinions even whn they sometimes go against each other or are not in parrallel to each other.  Ie.  drinking occassionally, in moderation while pregnant is okay but if you don't at least tey to breast feed your child you're judged? 

I'm not judging either way on this. I am guilty of having one small glass of wine on my 1 year anniversary just after the beginning of my second trimester with Alex.  Also as MB pointed out in a joking way, I do eat seafood while pregnant which some may judge as well.  I also drank caffine throughout my entire pregnancy with Alex but have only had tea this time aince the smell and thought of coffee make me want to puke.

My confession is it irrates me how inconsistant we humans can be, including myself when it comes to things that we feel passonately about.

I know what you mean, and I think the common theme lately is "in moderation."

I chose not to eat seafood during pregnancy because I'm really not a fan anyway, and the smell of fish makes me sick.  I did, however, allow myself some Philly rolls (yes I know they contain smoked salmon) towards the end of  my third trimester.  At the same time, I still had veggie sushi, and I had a friend judge me because of the potential bacteria left behind on the sushi counter.  Yeah, seriously.

I also had a glass of champagne on our anniversary, and drank pumpkin spice lattes once they arrived.  Guess what -- Samma's FINE

ChristinaDawn

Along sort of similar lines as Stees.  It's starting to piss me off that people are already pressuring us to have a third baby.  I am done after I pop this little kiddo out.  I didn't want any kids and then when I met Joel he was the first person I actually saw myself having kids with but two is my max.  I originally said I was good with just Alex after he was born but I knew Joel really wanted more and I think two is perfect for us.  I'm done, Joel is good with that and everyone who thinks otherwise needs to STFU.

michelle142

tarmar81:

And Michelle, we're all winging it as parents!  Going with your instincts is the best thing you can do, regardless of what information is out there.  Though I don't know what people did before the Internet was invented and they could compare information on their offspring. 

Well my instincts must be doing an OK job so far. I haven't screwed up too badly yet *knocks on wood*

steeser03

Oh also. Until a week ago I thought spin class was a bunch of people in spandex and sweatbands turning around in circles a la Jane Fonda on crack all, "I'm a maniac. maaaaaaniiiiaaac!"

I had no idea there were bicycles involved in spinning.

michelle142

A friend on FB just birthed an 11lb. 1oz baby with no pain meds...

I posted my "Congrats!" but what I really wanted to say was "Congrats! Is your vagina ok?"

MBMcC421

michelle142:

A friend on FB just birthed an 11lb. 1oz baby with no pain meds...

I posted my "Congrats!" but what I really wanted to say was "Congrats! Is your vagina ok?"

My friend birthed a 10lber in 3 pushes.... she had a 4th degree tear, but hey, it was quick!

ChristinaDawn

MBMcC421:

ChristinaDawn:

I confess that it isinteresting how we as humans are able to have such strong opinions even whn they sometimes go against each other or are not in parrallel to each other.  Ie.  drinking occassionally, in moderation while pregnant is okay but if you don't at least tey to breast feed your child you're judged? 

I'm not judging either way on this. I am guilty of having one small glass of wine on my 1 year anniversary just after the beginning of my second trimester with Alex.  Also as MB pointed out in a joking way, I do eat seafood while pregnant which some may judge as well.  I also drank caffine throughout my entire pregnancy with Alex but have only had tea this time aince the smell and thought of coffee make me want to puke.

My confession is it irrates me how inconsistant we humans can be, including myself when it comes to things that we feel passonately about.

I know what you mean, and I think the common theme lately is "in moderation."

I chose not to eat seafood during pregnancy because I'm really not a fan anyway, and the smell of fish makes me sick.  I did, however, allow myself some Philly rolls (yes I know they contain smoked salmon) towards the end of  my third trimester.  At the same time, I still had veggie sushi, and I had a friend judge me because of the potential bacteria left behind on the sushi counter.  Yeah, seriously.

I also had a glass of champagne on our anniversary, and drank pumpkin spice lattes once they arrived.  Guess what -- Samma's FINE

 

Exactly.  See I looooove seafood and I love sushi,  I will not eat sushi while pg, I would eat veggies roll though.  I jist stick to safe suggested seafood, no shark,  I don't eat canne tuna ever anyways but I'll eat salmon, tilapia, shrimp, scollops, lobster and I think I had one small tuna steak when I was pg with Alex.  I just space it and Alex also turned out fine.  

 

mz_zane

tarmar81:

rach83:

MBMcC421:

I judge mothers who allow their older toddlers (2+) to continue to use a pacifier.  At that point, it's just laziness on the parent's part, and there's no reason for it.

Mmmhm. Or toddlers who still get a bottle. 

Surprise, surprise, I judge for both of these things too.  I also judge parents who put any child older than 3 in a stroller.  And really, I think 3 is too old when the stroller's just being used for short trips.

At this point, I think we need to just acknowledge and accept that parents will judge all other parents, regardless of what they're doing. I'm going to be judged for CDing, buying as many things organic as I can, and *gasp* not giving my toddler candy and other high-sugary shiit by some, and judged just as much for not doing those things by others. And I am no exception because I absolutely have things I've side-eyed and judged when I saw other parents (not)do them. Parenting is difficult enough on its own (and Michelle, don't worry, I feel like I've had pretty much no freakin clue when it comes to parenting too) but to feel like I not only have to worry about whether the decisions I'm making are right but how they're going to be perceived by others is just too much. I was totally going somewhere with it but now I've lost track so...thats all I've got now.

mz_zane

ChristinaDawn:

Along sort of similar lines as Stees.  It's starting to piss me off that people are already pressuring us to have a third baby.  I am done after I pop this little kiddo out.  I didn't want any kids and then when I met Joel he was the first person I actually saw myself having kids with but two is my max.  I originally said I was good with just Alex after he was born but I knew Joel really wanted more and I think two is perfect for us.  I'm done, Joel is good with that and everyone who thinks otherwise needs to STFU.

Wait, seriously, people are already talking about you guys having a 3rd?! That'd piss me off too.

lizlemmon19

steeser03:

When someone tells me they will pray for my empty uterus, or that I should really really want to be a parent, I judge them. I often times get the impression where its one of those things that if you have to say over and over again how great being a parent is and how much you love it, you are probably faking it.

The lady doth protest too much.

Amen!

tarmar81

MBMcC421:

michelle142:

A friend on FB just birthed an 11lb. 1oz baby with no pain meds...

I posted my "Congrats!" but what I really wanted to say was "Congrats! Is your vagina ok?"

My friend birthed a 10lber in 3 pushes.... she had a 4th degree tear, but hey, it was quick!

Holy sh!t.  (To the 3 pushes and the 4th degree tear moreso than pushing out a 10 lber.)  I pushed for 2 hours with Kyler and had a 2nd degree tear but he wasn't quite 8 lbs.

I do really wonder if pushing out an 11 lb baby without pain meds is really any worse than pushing out a 7 lb one.  When you feel the ring of fire of the baby's head crowning, I imagine it feels the same no matter what the kid weighs.  The head circumference is probably the really big factor though. 

amelianguy

tarmar81:

And Michelle, we're all winging it as parents!  Going with your instincts is the best thing you can do, regardless of what information is out there.  Though I don't know what people did before the Internet was invented and they could compare information on their offspring. 

WOAH WOAH WOAH.

Stop the presses.

Write this down, you guys.

I agree with Tara.

MBMcC421

amelianguy:

tarmar81:

And Michelle, we're all winging it as parents!  Going with your instincts is the best thing you can do, regardless of what information is out there.  Though I don't know what people did before the Internet was invented and they could compare information on their offspring. 

WOAH WOAH WOAH.

Stop the presses.

Write this down, you guys.

I agree with Tara.

gasp!

amelianguy

Along the same lines as MB, When I was driving back from lunch, I saw a little girl who was at least 4 years old walking down the street with her mom. She had a paci in her mouth. I judged.

Along the same lines at Christina, I get really aggravated when people tell me that I'm depriving Ellie by not giving her a sibling. I'm not depriving her of anything. In fact, I'm making a conscious decision to keep her an only child so that I can provide her with experiences and opportunities in life that I would not be able to afford if we had another child. I'm doing what I feel is best for her. Anyone who wants to argue with me can kindly fvvvvck off.

ETA: STOP CENSORING ME, NEST!

 

mrs pH

I had a pacifier until I was 4.  I only used it at night but still...

tarmar81

amelianguy:

tarmar81:

And Michelle, we're all winging it as parents!  Going with your instincts is the best thing you can do, regardless of what information is out there.  Though I don't know what people did before the Internet was invented and they could compare information on their offspring. 

WOAH WOAH WOAH.

Stop the presses.

Write this down, you guys.

I agree with Tara.

See, I'm really not that crazy, lady.

mrs pH

If we're going to judge pacifier users, I'm going to judge thumbsuckers.  

I judge little kids who suck on their thumbs... esp when they are school-aged (preschool included).... And even more judgment is passed when the thumbsucker is an adult.