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Re: Would you say something? UPDATED
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That was my take away too. I didn't know JAP was offensive.
I personally would have reported your co-worker to HR though. That was obviously a derogatory use of the term.
Sorry! I was not sure of your background like others are.
alz-what a wench
cleo- gypped was one of the recent ones they were saying in my office
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IDK, I'm going to call my dad to check.
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I'm pretty sure I need to attach a perma-zipper to my mouth at this point.
Too bad my dad is dead... I'm missing out on knowing all the things that should be offending me on the daily!
Because White Anglo Saxon Protestants don't have a long history of being oppressed and discriminated against. There's a certain context and power imbalance when calling someone a JAP vs a WASP. There's a lot of history attached to the words.
Well, to be fair, rich jewish american girls don't really have a long history of oppression either. And if you want to decontextualize and consider just historical religious discrimination, the protestants faced it too, so I don't think that's a basis for distinguishing the terms.
Oh please don't be sorry. I didn't even think twice about your question.
Apparently JAP was coined by Jews (male Jews) so is JAP worse than WASP because of feminism or because of Judaism?:
The Jewish princess (JAP) stereotype was a construct of, and popularized by, post-war Jewish male writers,[1] notably in Herman Wouk's 1955 novel, Marjorie Morningstar[2] and Phillip Roth's 1959 novel Goodbye, Columbus featuring princess protagonists.[3]
The term "JAP" and the associated stereotype gained attention beginning in the 1970s with the publication of several non-fiction articles such as Barbara Meyer's Cosmopolitan article "Sex and the Jewish Girl" and the 1971 cover article in New York Magazine by Julie Baumgold, "The Persistence of the Jewish Princess".[4] "JAP" jokes became prevalent in the late 1970s and early 1980s.[5][6] The JAP stereotype's rise to prominence in the 1970s resulted from pressures on the Jewish middle class to maintain a visibly affluent lifestyle as post-war affluence declined.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
What are they calling the nouveau riche Persians of Southern California again?
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
How did she know, did he give you a Rabbit convertible?
(I'm kidding, I'm kidding - yeah that's not so nice)
I'm sort of scoping that it's okay as a deprecating self-reference but not ok when used by outsiders to be insulting. Like I'll say I'm WT but I might get annoyed if you say I'm WT.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
This cracked me up... and I tend to agree. I'm certain I could be offended all day, every day, if I really wanted to.
LOL
I'm sorry that was said to you...a surprising amount of people are completely stupid.....and they must think that everyone is dumber than they are. Truly.
One of the painters that my dh hired on a project said that to my husband the other day.....my dh is Jewish. So my dh mentioned that he was Jewish and the guy said, "Oh Oh, I didn't mean it that way." Later on, the guy wanted to "clear up the misunderstanding" and that he had in fact said "Screw him down NOT Jew him down" (der!). OMG! Just own it and never say it again.....gah!!