POLL: for ML regulars

babubhatt

if you are a regular (this poll doesn't apply to newbs or lurkers)

if you got a divorce, would you hid it on ML.  meaning, would you avoid discussing it through the entire process and just never offer up this information?  as in, you aren't lying, you just aren't offering up this tidbit.

i have no prob with those who would hide it.  just curious b/c i have such a big mouth i could never not tell you guys every last detail of my life.  anyways.  i know someone who has done this.  which is why i am asking.

 

[Poll]

Ombligo1

I am pretty sure most of you are aware of my inability to be cool and discreet about, oh, anything.

huber22

I'm not smart enough to keep major life events off the nest. Facebook occassionally, but not the nest.

JanieJones

babubhatt:

...  i know someone who has done this.  which is why i am asking.

 

On here? No way!  I hope if this is re: a MLer they should know I would never judge them.  (so- permission granted to tell the world mysterious nestie, you know you'll never have poor judgement from JanieJones!!)

 

For myself???  I probably wouldn't out the gory details, because I keep talk of MrJJ to a minimum here, but it wouldn't be a straight up secret.

  

laptopprancer

lol, ask me in September.

 

+Elle+

How would I talk about the fabulous dates I was going on and the famous men I was dating if I hid the divorce?

EB777888

I'd want the support so I'd post.

ReturnOfKuus

I think I'd need the support.

sakelp

i think if we were just fighting a lot, and considering divorce, i wouldn't post that on here. But if we were seriously going through with it, then yeah, i'd post about it on here.first of all, i'd probably need some support, and second, it's not like people IRL aren't going to figure out that we're divorced when we aren't living together, I'm not wearing a ring, i change my last name, etc....

LucyHoneychrrch

I don't know why anyone would bother trying to hide it.  What's the point?

 

Fields*of*Gold

I hide very little from you assholes.

And even though I got lit on fire during my divorce, if god forbid I had to go through another one, I would still tell you guys.

alzi

I can't imagine never NOT mentioning it. Or just never mentioning H again. I'd prob just GBCN if I didn't want to talk about it. 

But I'm sure I'd talk about it. I don't have boundaries.  

wanderlust2006

+Elle+:

How would I talk about the fabulous dates I was going on and the famous men I was dating if I hid the divorce?

Yeah, you would pretty much have to stop posting anything about your personal life because it would become apparent.

sprky79

I think that there are a lot of things we don't post about our spouses/SO's on this board so as to not rile the flames.  The fact that the marriage might be ending is just one more.  I probably would not say much until I absolutely had to.

speckledfrog

LucyHoneychrrch:

I don't know why anyone would bother trying to hide it.  What's the point?

 

Maybe to avoid "I told you so" or to not have to deal with the reality of it by not mentioning it?

I'm pretty sure I couldn't post without mentioning it.  I agree that I would need the support plus a place to blow of steam.

iamgrace

Nope. I would tell. Like I am normally, though, I dont spill everything about my life, so I am sure there would be details left out. 

Do you mean you know someone on this board had a divorce and said nothing?  If yes, I'm dying to know. Dying.   

snips&snails

Nah, I wouldn't hide it, but this does remind me that a few months ago I posted some post with a subject like: "It's over" or equally facetious about something random - maybe my dinner?    It had like 2 replies and 1000+ views the next day.

Schadenfreude or nosiness or other?  Hahaha!  I love ML.

babubhatt

iamgrace:

Nope. I would tell. Like I am normally, though, I dont spill everything about my life, so I am sure there would be details left out. 

Do you mean you know someone on this board had a divorce and said nothing?  If yes, I'm dying to know. Dying.   

yes

 

SpitForSpat

babubhatt:

if you are a regular (this poll doesn't apply to newbs or lurkers)

I VOTED ANYWAY. rebel.  

iamgrace

babubhatt:

iamgrace:

Nope. I would tell. Like I am normally, though, I dont spill everything about my life, so I am sure there would be details left out. 

Do you mean you know someone on this board had a divorce and said nothing?  If yes, I'm dying to know. Dying.   

yes

 

You know how to reach me. 

 

Lol 

melodramatic26

I have a hard time believing that someone would get flamed for going through a divorce. I don't really see any reason to not say something about it. I don't know that I would talk about it in great detail, but yeah, I think I would at least mention it for some support.

speckledfrog

babubhatt:

iamgrace:

Nope. I would tell. Like I am normally, though, I dont spill everything about my life, so I am sure there would be details left out. 

Do you mean you know someone on this board had a divorce and said nothing?  If yes, I'm dying to know. Dying.   

yes

 

Let the "PM me!!" commence.

scottydont

babubhatt:

iamgrace:

Nope. I would tell. Like I am normally, though, I dont spill everything about my life, so I am sure there would be details left out. 

Do you mean you know someone on this board had a divorce and said nothing?  If yes, I'm dying to know. Dying.   

yes

 

Aw. 

That's hard.

sprky79

I'm more sad than anything to realize this. We've by in large been supportive of divorces on these boards before.

rakattack

Obviously not, lol.  I'd actually like to post more about it, but I'm pretty sure xh lurks here.

Pseudonim

I voted no, but I am a pretty private person. Lp will attest to that lol I may mention it of course, but not go into too much detail.

cvillebetrothed

the fact of the divorce?  no, i wouldn't hide it.  probably would share after it was legal.

the details?  yes.

 

i base this off of how i went about the whole pregnancy thing.  when we decided to TTC and stuff, i was silent as a churchmouse.  but i blabbed here as soon as i saw a line on the test.

papie

I would tell you guys obviously, I can't keep my mouth shut.  

I find it weird that someone would get divorced and not even post a "hey, I'm getting (or I got) divorced bu I don't want to talk about it".   I mean, don't you then have to watch everything you say all the time? I'd quit the nest before lying, it sounds exhausting.  

saraandmichael

no way would i hide it.

i wouldn't share all the gory details on here, but i wouldn't be able to not talk about it with you fuuuuuckers.

sprky79

babubhatt:

iamgrace:

Nope. I would tell. Like I am normally, though, I dont spill everything about my life, so I am sure there would be details left out. 

Do you mean you know someone on this board had a divorce and said nothing?  If yes, I'm dying to know. Dying.   

yes

 

Is this person still posting regularly?  I'm more amazed at their ability to keep it to themselves.

MissyNY

I wouldn't even know how to hide it!?  I am blabbery about all my stuff b/c I lean on my friends here.