POLL: for ML regulars

KristinKD

It's me, guys, okay?!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Yeah, right! I wouldn't be able to keep it a secret. Maybe the early stages of fighting, because I wouldn't want any of you to hold it against me/him/us if we reconciled, but if I knew we were headed for divorce, I'd want some support.

Jermysgirl

Since it would be all my fault because my H is perfect, I'd want to hide it, but I haave no filter or pride, so I'd spill the beans.

Karma1969

I have no one to talk with IRL so I would be on ML every second with each new development.  Everyone would end up blocking me.  That's how annoying I would/will be.

pantsparty

I wouldn't hide a divorce. BUT, if say H and I were on the verge of divorce, and in counseling, I don't think I'd post our particular struggles. Same reason I don't share arguments with H with my friends and family. If we reconciled and moved on, I just feel like everyone would be thinking about that time. I'm pretty private about our relationship.

sonrisa

You lot would hear every gory detail. I use the nest as therapy every time I'm dealing with stuff and I have no real life friends who are divorced. 

Luvvy1

Nah.  I didn't hide my divorce but I sure did hide most of the details.  I agree that there could be a huge hesitation of the person thinks all they are going to get is "I told you so, you nitwit."

bleubook

I WAS a regular, but when my marriage tanked and I got divorced, I kinda fell apart. I didnt talk about it here because I wasnt on the internet chat boards any more. but once I pulled my life back together, I started back on the knot and slowly cam back to the nest. 

I'm not keeping any secrets per se, I just don't want to relive the pain, etc.

 it really really sucked. 

Tambcat

I'd like to think I've learned from being here so long not to share all the gory details.. but I probably would. lol. I could never hide the fact I'd gotten a divorce from ML!

angelaa73

I wouldn't hide it but I wouldn't post daily about it. 

Quesera

I don't know that I'd disclose it initially but eventually I would, for the sake of not misrepresenting myself. I have been on the verge of divorce during my time here as a regular and didn't divulge any details, although I did allude to the fact that we were having problems. 

margotmacomber

I wouldn't post about it until I was sure it was going to happen.  My DH has a halo ya'll.

Frkls

no, i tell you idiots everything. it's a disease

DR&RN04

I wouldn't hide it, but I probably wouldn't post all the lead-up and details. When proceedings were in motion, I'm sure I'd tell people here.

Unless H turned into a raging @sshole about the whole thing and I got really drunk one night.  Then I'd probably just spill it all, and you'd all be like "eek, look at RN drunk nesting.  Gawd, she has no filter."

Gretchenindisguise

I would probably want to use you guys for support, so no, I don't think I'd hide it.

I would probably also not offer up tons of details though because of the pesky ML crappy memory that remembers only bad details and then outrageously distorts them.  

LeahMelanieNJ

I gave all the details about my divorce. I got flamed a lot (rightfully so, I was a dumb beebee) but I also got a lot of support. If it happened again, I would probably spill it to you all, btu not give as many details about the STBXH/ XH.

lovelaughlive

who is it?

 I would probably not go over all the gory detail but I would definitely share. I think that's an odd secret to keep, unless maybe they were ashamed  or in denial?

_Fenton

I didn't give the nittiest of the gritty, but I shared more here than with most of my other friends. I liked the immediate response from a large group, plus so few people here knew my ex, and I liked that buffer. If we ever did get back together it wouldn't have been weird since it's not like we all hung out in person all the time.

I'm really glad I did talk about it here. I'm not sure I could've gotten through it without everyone (mostly RE, but some here, too). I honestly feel like I might be dead without this place.

CheshireGrin

I never posted about problems with my XH until the divorce was actually happening, so I can understand that impulse. But once I knew it was done, it never occured to me not to share it. I don't think I ever got carried away with details, but I honestly don't remember how much I did or didn't share.

I've probably posted more about my dating since then than I should have in some cases, LOL.

misoangry

I would likely share only after the fact.

renebean319

i don't think the whole world needs to know my business so no, i wouldn't share that on ML