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Re: My friend told me last night that she wants to date my ex husband
THIS.
Good lord.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
I don't like her anymore.
It's official.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
good call.
seriously.
I'd talk to the ex and just ask him to cool it. If he just wants to get laid there are like a zillion better options than the drama that banging her will bring on all of you.
I hate her, too!
Ugh, she sucks.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
No doubt. Some "friend." I'd start calling her "skinsuit" behind her back. lol.
Updated September 2012.
Yeah. And from the sound of it, she's been pursuing him. At first, he thought it was a friendly thing, and then he called me and was like, "I think Twatbreath might like me." And that's when he said something about liking her company, but not being interested in actually dating her.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
After all you've done to help her, THIS is how she treats you? She is no friend.
And based on her history with her icky ex-bf, I'm with the PP--she sounds like one of those "only wants the unobtainable" people. I'd let this "friendship' die a natural death.
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I don't like her, either.
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i have been in a similar sitch, only i was your friend.
listen, i really think you need to be straight with her. this girl obv likes you a lot and wants to remain friends with you. i think it's really sad that you don't like her anymore! i think it was probably not a great idea for her to think that pursuing this would be OK, but i think that her asking you about it was better than not asking at all.
anyway, i think you should talk to her about it and tell her it makes you really uncomfortable. (i also agree with talking to your ex too). if she continues on, then proceed with not liking her. if she values your comfort level and ceases this, then i think she is a good friend (who just lacked a bit of common sense).
i can't believe that you would stand in teh way of her happiness!! unless you want your ex back, then you should give them your blessing and throw her shower when they get married!!!
j/k she's snatchtastic.
imo - this is destined to fall under the category of the 'friendship ending' no matter what.
As soon as she opened her mouth to ask, she changed the dynamic of their relationship.
If she pursues this, it will make GoZ uncomfortable. If she doesn't pursue it b/c GoZ makes it clear that she isn't really ok with it - I believe bitterness will overcome her and she won't want to be friends anymore.
"GoZ doesn't want me to be happy... deep down ex wants to be with me, but he won't - because of HER!" ect.
Stick a fork in this friendship. It's done.
I agree with Floyd. Asking in the first place is what did this friendship in, regardless. It's one thing if it's an ex-boyfriend; THAT I could see not affecting a friendship. But an ex-husband is a whole different animal. As a friend, even if I was in luuuuuuurve with the guy, I'd never even consider this, and she should have known better.
Updated September 2012.
I fear that Floyd is correct. This is likely done.
Oh well. She was kind of a whiner anyway!
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I'd feel yucky, too. Like everyone else said, friends' exes are off-limits. That's weird.
You're not off-base at all.
I swear people are dumb sh!ts.
How is your ex-H the guy she now loves. I don't care if you are madly in love with someone, your friend's ex-husband is OFF LIMITS especially when it is so recent...it's not been 15-20 years. Get some common sense. Isn't this an unwritten code to live by?
Thing is, now that she is not going to be your friend anymore, it's still going to happen even if you tell her no, because now your opinion will matter even less.
I don't like her.