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Tell me all the things I need to know about being pregnant....
in Married Life
Because BFP.....
We aren't sure how we feel about this right now, obviously we're keeping it. Just wasn't in the plan for right now.
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Re: Tell me all the things I need to know about being pregnant....
Ha! Congrats.
And...don't spend too much on the crib. You'll be done with it faster than you think.
Give it some time to sink in. Even though H and I were trying, I still freaked the eff out when I got the BFP.
Are you taking a prenatal?
First, congratulations! Kathryn was not planned (well,not for then we thought to wait a bit longer. Clearly she had other ideas) and I swear i was in shock for the first month. lol Anyway, each person is different but I will say in the first tri, keep food in your stomach, so eat a little something every couple of hours. Before getting out of bed in the mornings, I would snack on a little bit of a sugary cereal. Your blood sugar drops quickly in the mornings and that can add to nausea. lastly, eat whatever stays down and sounds good. Don't worry about weight at this point.
A book that I really liked was :
No, I literally tested about 30min ago...
1) Congratulations!
2) The bump is full of crazy. Enter at your own risk.
3) Its ok to not be over the moon right away, and for a lot of the first trimester, the idea of having a baby often feels very abstract. You'll still love that baby like I can't even describe when the time comes.
OH, also wanted to add: avoid What To Expect When You're Expecting. That book will make you think you're physically incapable of growing another human, and that everything can, and will, go wrong. At least, it did for me. I liked Your Pregnancy Week by Week much better.
I'd call your OB. I made an appointment right away and they wouldn't see me until I was 8 weeks along.
As for anything you can't eat, that's up for debate. My OB told me to stay away from alcohol and limit my caffeine intake to two cups a day. That was as far as my restriction went.
You can call them, they may not have you come in till 8 weeks, but just see what they say. They tell you no deli meats, but with C I craved a bologna sandwich like no one's business and finally caved. She is fine. As long as you are not eating it every day, it's ok.
I just stuck with getting through the first tri, so I ate what sounded good to me and the foods that sat well in my stomach. munching throughout the day helps, you don't want to let yourself get too hungry.
Congrats!
I know nothing about pregnancy but I do know about nausea. Ditto the pp who said to keep food in your stomach - keeping some crackers next to your bed and having a nibble in the middle of the night can help with morning low blood sugar. Try to keep things on an even keel - no king size snickers bars and then nothing but coffee for three hours.
Also, FYI, lots of prenatal vitamins have large doses of iron in them, which can make some people sick to their stomachs even if they aren't pregnant. If in doubt, switch for one with a normal multivitamin amount of iron & then just eat lots of iron-rich foods.
I'd call a doctor monday, some won't see you for a few weeks. My MW sees people immediately for blood tests and such.
There's stuff you should stay away from food//medicine wise. I think it's mostly a mix of common sense and being over cautious. For example, some say 'stay away from ALL deli meat b/c of the risk of listeria". My MW subscribes to "as long as you don't (a) eat it every day and (b) get it from Harry's Discount Bait and Deli Shop, you're fine". If you're worried, heat your sandwich in a toaster oven. I use the George Foreman. (sp?)
I am guessing you are 4-5 weeks along. I told my mom right away mainly because it would have been tough to keep a secret and she lives 15 minutes from me and also because if something were to go wrong, I would want to turn to her which I did after my first miscarriage.
I think telling parents is fine, if that is what you want to do, we did wait to tell others until about 10-12 weeks.
Congrats!
Tell people when you are comfortable. We told our families around 14 week and my work around 17 weeks.
Not everyone has a suckass 1st tri, mine was fine.
Eat a lot of high protein snacks for the first few months (cheese sticks, nuts, hard boiled eggs, etc) to help keep nausea at bay. Take your prenatal before eating and then drink lots of water to keep fish burps down to a minimum (if you are taking a DHA pill)
Try to keep up a normal amount of activity. Not everyone can, but I attribute part of the easiness of my pregnancy to the fact that I just kept on doing everything I was doing before being pregnant.
80% of the posts on the first tri board on the bump are BSC. Get your advice here and then move onto the 2nd tri boards.
Don't feel like you have to buy a million things for your baby. They truly do not need all that much.
Don't be afraid to call your doc if you have any questions, they are used to dealing with pregnant ladies.
If you get hemorrhoids, preparationH cooling gel should be your best friend. I carried mine around in my pocket.
i was 12 weeks. i'm cautious, and i had a lot of spotting first tri so i wasn't sure if there were going to be issues. other people tell earlier. it's obviously up to you. if you're conflicted about how you feel now (totally normal, even if you WERE trying), maybe hold off until you're more sure you can handle other people's emotions and incredibly nosy questions ("was it planned?" comes out of way way way more mouths than you think it will).
don't buy anything right away unless you want to because you'll be bombarded with advice, some of which will rock and some of which will suck and it'll take awhile to sort through the differences and get a feel for your own preferences.
start with a prenatal right away (i liked and still take on a just-in-case basis the twinlab, which you can get on amazon and are caplets of powder, which i found easier on my stomach. i also take them at night before bed so that they don't make me nauseated).
call some OBs right off (i got recs from my GP), since some will take you earlier and some later and some will be a good fit and some won't. just to get a sense of what to look for. that sounds intense, but it doesn't take a lot to figure out if you're comfortable. i called 2 on the phone and liked one and didn't like the other and just went to the one i liked (it was a 6-doctor rotating practice; i liked all 6 doctors and was assigned to one as my main doctor).
what to expect when you're expecting is filled with freak-out oriented advice and is in a girlsy-whirlsy tone that made me want to spit nails. it's also overwhelming. i like the mayo clinic book best.
and remember, many many loved children and happy, functioning parents ended up that way after a surprise.
other than that, just be nice to yourself and don't go on a bender.
Congratulations!
Do you take any medications? BCP, antidepressants, occasional advil, whatever. If so, talk to your doctor before taking them while pregnant. Sometimes it isn't obvious what is and isn't safe (for example, morphine is safe, but pepto bismol can be dangerous in 3rd trimester. Who would have guessed?)
If you smoke, stop (if you can).
The most effective medicine you are allowed during pregnancy is caffeine so use it wisely.
As for food, unlike medications it is more of a common sense thing. Cut back on foods that might lead to infections, build up in toxins, or upset your stomach. Alcohol is bad for a fetus, especially in the first trimester. Big fish often have mercury and bpa build up so eat them more sparingly. Raw or undercooked eggs, beef, pork, or chicken might have salmonella or other infections.
Start taking a prenatal or multivitamin with folic acid and DHA. Folic acid and DHA can help with neural development. I took gummy vitamins because morning sickness did a number on my stomach.
Yay!
Congratulations!!!
Congrats!
I don't know if you read my bfp post back in December but H and I were totally not planning or trying at all, so my bfp was a major shock. The first few days I felt completely overwhelmed, so whatever you guys are feeling is normal.
My first tri wasn't horrible, but it still sucked. Keeping saltines on my night stand helped me not feel so sick in the mornings. Drink lots of water. Gingerale helps with nausea and so does hard candy (it did for me anyway).
I like my BMB on the bump, but I avoid the tri boards because they're full of nut bags. Especially 1st tri.
I hope you guys start feeling better about it soon!
Yes! Vitafusion!
I tried 3 different prenatals before I bought the gummies. They all made me sick and pukey, but the gummies have been great.