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Re: Moms: What is the average price of outfits for your kids?
I've spent a lot on holiday dresses, but I don't want or need pricey outfits for everyday wear, knowing how hard my girls can be on their clothes, especially playing outside during the summer.
Just the other day I had the girls with me at a doctor appointment, and while I was busy talking to the doctor, Kate had drawn all over her pants and mine with crayon. Thankfully I only ever let them use washable crayons!
I probably average around $15 per outfit for their play clothes, but they have a ridiculous amount of clothes so all together I still end up spending a nice chunk of change.
I have a mom friend from preschool who gave me a bag full of hand-me-downs from Lilly Pulitzer and Crewcuts, stores I stay away from because I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to resist the temptation. lol.
I did know about that, but I didn't realize she had to hide extravagant purchases if they were so well off. Exchanging baby clothes for cash doesn't seem like a great enough financial comfort to stay in a bad marriage. If you're with someone for their money, you should at least have free reign with the black AmEx.
"As of page 2 this might be the most boring argument ever. It's making me long for Rape Day." - Mouse
Yup me too. I have zero problems spending money on myself. I don't poop, stain or rip my clothes. So I win. Plus I like to look nice.
Well they're not really that well off. $90k in checking isn't all that much. It's like $3k in Connecticut dollars.
I had a moment the other night. Forgive me.
It wasn't a nice evening and I was pisssed.
As far as the checking goes, I've only taken money out twice since last July. Once it wasn't even 3K and the other time it was 30K+. So 90K, nearly 3K and 30K, I'd said that's a lot of fluctuation, wouldn't you?
I have not-nice evenings, but they haven't ever culminated with me logistically diagramming how to leave.
There is no "victory" or "defeat" in situations like this. I don't know why you don't think you deserve more than you're getting. Those children need solid role models who can provide examples of grace and strength and self-worth.
Updated September 2012.
I'm not ready.
Also, I hold hope that things could improve. Hmmm. I don't know, I look back and I'm not happy with what I see there particularly. How much our life together has been the Mr. Applebear show, but...not sure what to say.
Its enough fluctuation that you should know wtf is going on. That is your money too and I find it incredibly naive and irresponsible that you don't take an interest in it.
I don't this she has to hide purchases. I think it was for money to take with her rather than just draining a savings account and running.
You have been hoping things would improve for years now. Your children are not getting any younger, and they will start to pick up on this stuff -- the low self-esteem, the deliberate and unintentional slights, the emotional detachment -- and it will f*ck them up. I don't think you necessarily have to leave if you don't want to, but that weird dependent dynamic you've got going on probably really needs to change, stat.
Updated September 2012.