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OMG. Why are people such assholes!?!?!?!?
I'm trying so hard not to cry right now. A coworker just came into the office and saw me. Her jaw hit the ground and she started going on and on about how huge I am and how wide I am and how they are going to have to chip in to buy me a bigger chair and how this baby is going to totally ruin my body.
This was my face: 
Today has already been crappy. This was just the cherry on top. MOTHERFU*KER. I hate everyone.
Now I feel like crap and I feel like the fattest, ugliest person in the world.
Re: OMG. Why are people such assholes!?!?!?!?
People are so...assholish.
That's really my only explanation. Because I am simply amazed that someone could behave in that manner and not have any concept of what they look like when they do that. And yet, I know they exist. I am sorry.
WTF?? What an idiot.
Dont feel bad for yourself, feel bad for her. She's a moron with no social skills, meaning she probably has very few friends/meaningful relationships.
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You're kidding me, right?
Someone actually said that to you? I feel like we can expect omg-youre-so-big comments at 32 weeks, but at 17? JFC! The world is going to hell in a handbasket.
For the record, puddle, I'm sure you are still quite tiny and fabulous and at that point where you have a cute little bump starting to show.
WTF is wrong with her? too bad you all can't chip in to buy her a new brain.
Seriously!
formerly VXS
Spit in her drink when she's not looking, she's a total whoore, and you're lovely. Don't listen to her.
I don't even know what to say.
People suck, that's the bottom line.
I am sure you look beautiful. Fvvck her and the horse she rode in on.
Daycare is SO exhausting!
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OH MY GOD. Did you say anything to her? Whyyyyyyyyyy do people always assume you're allowed to say things like this to pregnant women? I got this sort of thing too, and it was always totally demoralizing, even if you try to rationalize it in your head, like, I'm pregnant, it's okay, I'm pregnant.
I hope that woman has a shitty, shitty day.
Updated September 2012.
I just did that nervous, awkward laugh and said 'Geez, thanks a lot" because there were a ton of people around and I didn't know what to say and I didn't want to burst into tears in front of everyone.
I can't believe how upset I am. I feel so stupid that I'm choking on my tears at my desk like an idiot.
::takes earrings out::
Oh HELL no!! Where is this biiiitch?
She must be such a miserable piece of garbage to speak to you like that. How closely do you have to work with her?
Um. Don't take this the wrong way, but. You're crazy if you think that you're wrong to be so upset by that commentary! I would be devastated if someone out and out said that to me.
Dude, if anything, bursting into tears in front of people would prove to her just how asisnine she was behaving, and guaranteed, people would back you on that. Serves her right.
Is it too late to send her an email that says "I hope you understand that from now on, casual commentary about my pregnancy, and particularly my bodily size, are inappropriate and hurtful. I appreciate your respect"
This is a real and viable option, particularly because her comments seemed not just thoughtless but designed to wound. "Ruin your body"? Seriously? That's out of f*cking line. That's not just "Wow, look how pregnant you are!". And buying a new CHAIR?
If she'd said that to someone who was just overweight, she'd have been fired on the g*ddamn spot, and rightly so.
Can you speak to her supervisor or to HR?
Updated September 2012.
Team Janie/Lucy. You wouldn't be out of line if you did this.
OMG! What is the matter with people??!
Puddle, you look great. So tell her to shut her fat whoremouth. And eat a donut or something right in her face.
I agree with LHC. Report it.
Do not feel badly for crying, or for letting HR know.
She needs a reality check, and she needs to be embarrassed.
If she says things like this to a pregnant woman at 17 weeks, imagine what she says to everyone else!
What a b!tch. You should totally shun her and give her the silent treatment. Ignore her. If she sees you cry, even better.
Punch her in the face, then blame pregnancy hormones.
Or report her to HR.
What a twatwaffle.
71 workouts completed in 2012
Reporting her would do no good. You wouldn't believe some of the crap that is said around here and no one bats an eye.
I'm pretty sure she knew I was upset because she came over, gave me a hug and was like "Oh, I didn't mean to upset you. My son did the same thing to my body". Real helpful...snatch.
I wish I was quicker on my toes to say something witty but honestly I was just so shocked I didn't really know how to react and didn't want to make a bigger scene in front of everyone because I was so embarrassed. I just said "Whatever" and walked back to my desk.
Give me her phone number at work. Give it to me so I can call her tell her all sorts of negative lies and ruin her f*cking morning.
You are not fat or ugly, she is just ***.
You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say will be misquoted and used against you. My Blog
reread laptop's post from last week. reporting her may do no good in the very short term, but long term this shiit needs to be documented.
and the hug? stab her with a letter opener next time.
OMG. That's hysterical. Thank you.
And thank you all for the kind words. I did just tell my supervisor, so I did tell someone. I don't think anything will happen, but I did tell.
I love you guys.
Isn't is crazy what people say to pregnant women? And she has been pregnant herself!
If she weren't pregnant, and had put on weight, or something, would it be okay for her to suggest that she would need a bigger chair?!
Give her the Ice Queen. Or as Cville said, the armor of hatred. LOL