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Vow-BQ - why do we hate them?
Because I'm having one.
I can provide the details on why if that's necessary. I've been to a wedding where they served pizza at a VFW. Granted that's not my thing, but weddings in general aren't really my thing.
Overall I guess I just don't care about weddings (the party itself), and if it were only up to me we'd elope.
Enlighten me!
Re: Vow-BQ - why do we hate them?
Because we are stuck up snobs.
Don't worry about it. I think a good backyard wedding with BBQ can be a fun event :-)
There's a HUGE difference between a Vow-B-Que and a catered outdoor weeding at someone's home.
One screams redneck trashy while the other whispers intimate affair.
Any other questions?
Are you wearing a wedding gown at the park? (That could help determine my answer).
Do you ever have fun at weddings? I guess I really don't. Unless it's my super close best friend or family member I don't get excited.
Of course I've only been to one open bar wedding. Maybe if they were all open bar I'd change my mind.
Also, is this a magical park where drinking alcohol is allowed?
(that will also help determine my answer).
Nope, never. That's why the food is so important.
Before we decided on this, yes. But our plans have changed and low key is what I'm going for so I'll wear a cute white dress. Probably tea length.
Yes. Yes, you would.
There's one backyard wedding I went to that was very nice. It was catered, there was a full bar, professional flowers, etc. The only difference was it happened to be in a backyard, which overlooked a canyon, so it was very nice.
Kegs are allowed with a permit.
I often have fun at weddings. One of the most fun was in a backyard, the food was take out in aluminum trays and it was BYOB. It ended with an inpromtptu parade through the French Quarter (complete with instruments). Backyard and low budget have no bearing on how fun it can be.
The secret to a fun wedding is great guests.
Hmmm...the food will be catered but it still will be BBQ.
I don't really mind them if there is booze, good BBQ, and I don't have to dress up all fancy---and iff it's not hot and humid.
Based on the bolded above, I wouldn't have it at a park. I would talk to your neighbors and let them know that you are going to have a ton of cars on your street because of this event and invite only your closest friends and immediate family.
If I could do it over again, I would have a MUCH smaller wedding in an intimate setting. Unless this is a park on the White House lawn (where you can control who is around i.e. no hobos), I would do it at home.
But, really, I think people find fault with just about any wedding. If you spent a meeelion dollars and had David Tutera plan it, people would complain about it being show-offy or something.
So, whatever. Booze, food, comfy places to sit, have fun.
I'm leaning more toward Outdoor Wedding than VBQ with this response.
I think there are things you can do to add classy touches to any outdoor wedding.. Nice linens, covered chairs, menu cards tucked in the napkins, great favors, upscale table decor, candles/luminaries, etc.
::nods:: and I really think you can add some nice touches without spending a ton. Particularly if you have a trimmed down, essential guest list.
I do think music and booze are important ingredients. A vow-BQ with dancing and good drinks beats a high society dry morning wedding in an austere location every time.
Classy is great, but it isn't everything.
Could you talk to my FI about this? LOL. That was the plan. 30 ppl at a nice restaurant downtown. His family is too big. It's all or nothing and they're extremely close. FIL passed away (earlier than we had anticipated) and it's all the sudden super important to him that his extended family attend.
I don't really care either way. I just don't want to spend $10,000+ (average wedding here is probably $20k) hence the BBQ, low key idea.
I think your idea is great - just don't use goldfish in bowls as centerpieces LOL.
I think because the way a lot of people do them is more appropriate for a 4th of July picnic than a wedding. No one wants to get all dressed up to go sit on a plastic lawnchair with a paper plate full of mediocre BBQ balanced precariously on their knees and one tiny paper napkin to clean up the inevitable mess. It is possible to do it well, but most people don't.
Edit: also, because BBQ offers nothing for vegetarians
I wouldn't mind going to one of these as long as it wasn't in the Houston-area during the summertime.
Free food and I'm probably going, as long as it isn't too much work for me.
I wouldn't care. I dislike cash bars at swanky places much more than a "vow b-q". I'd rather have the BBQ if I had to choose between the two.
Also I could go for some BBQ chicken and macaroni and cheese
Truth.