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Re: I dont care
We can be apart. I just like to know when he gets to where he needs to be. that way I know he is safe.
Going wednesday
i know. i am taking a trip with five high school boys on friday. well behaved boys. and trust me, these are real conversations.
Have you ever been on a class trip? Right about now will be when he is the busiest he's going to be, maybe all weekend. First night away from the parents, around bedtime, when they want to get crazy and he has to go impose order as the chaperone. You shouldn't count on hearing from him until 11 at the earliest.
Second the questions re: therapy/meds for anxiety, though.
I would tell you to text him but if he doesn't text back would that make your anxiety worse?
Just give him some more time and if he doesn't text you by the time you go to bed, send him one and I'm sure he'll txt back.
Sorry about your anxiety. I've had problems with anxiety before (not separation anxiety, other things) and I always felt like nobody really understood what i was dealing with.
Hope you hear from him soon!
Not yet I am going in Wednesday. I was on medication but it did not work. We did come to an agreement he would text when he got there and when he went to bed.
Going Wednesday to get more med. I tried one and it didnt work so I am going back. (thank you laptop). I used to go smoke to calm down.
HAHA thats funny
holyfuuuckingshit, pick up your phone and call him.
you want to talk to him, dial his digits.
simple little equation.
Yes I have.
Yes I am
Ah, I miss smoking. It was wonderful when I was driving in an unfamiliar place and was stressed and lost. So I feel you there.
Its not separation anxiety.
Thanks for understanding. I do feel everyone does not truly understand the anxiety.
um duh..
already did that.
i am not that stupid
Is it unreasonable to think he might not be there yet? How far away is he traveling? I really think you need to try and relax. I'm sure he's fine.
ah yes. Smoking. Great temporary relief. But it was gonna kill me in the long run.
it was a 4 hour trip.
they left at 1215 it is 950
I ended up in the ER more than one time because DH was convinced I was having a heart attack and it was horrible. I'm so glad I was finally able to get better. It's been almost 2 years since I had an anxiety attack and I don't even have to take meds anymore
ummm of course. it is the wva side. not yours. nope.
that sounds great! I am so happy for you! It must be so free!
I'm no help because I'm officially at the eye rolling point in you're best career.
Unclench was good advice.
ive been chaperoning high school trips since i was a freshman in college. kids are crazy. even good kids. its worse if they trust you. they tell you all of their secrets then.
i know more high school gossip than when i was in high school. its like they flip a switch and they talk non stop for days. seriously, im sure he has a kid talking his ear off right now. hes probably just crazy busy. shoot him a quick text if you are concerned. but realize he could be driving, checking into the hotel or on an ice cream run.
or he could be in the middle of a heart to heart where a two hundred pound linebacker is telling him all about the girl he has a crush on or why his mom wont let him text any more.
I would say if something WASN'T right, you would know by now.
this is probably exactly what is happening lol.
Knowing the kids that went.
I tried to text and call.
His phone went to voice mail
I am just thinking it is dead now.
That is what I am telling myself.
whatever you feel like you need to do.
I am unclenching.
You're in the middle of the anxiety train so this probably won't help derail it, but one thing that really helped my H is to get pissed. Apparently your brain can't be both angry and anxious at the same time. I pick fights with him about stupid sh*t when I see him starting up, and it really does help him stop the cycle.
I hope you didnt take my response crappy. I was trying to be funny. I thought your response was funny.
wow. So fight with him instead of worry? haha
its cool. I was heading very quickly donw the anxiety train. But most of you helped me jump off a think rationally.