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has your husband ever asked you for a 3-some?
with another guy? or, asked you to have sex with another guy because he enjoys watching and/or the feeling of his ejaculation inside you afterwards? he doesn't mind you sleeping with one other guy as long as he knows about it exactly when it happened and that friend is aware that your husband knows about it? basically an open relationship, so it's not cheating and he knows every little detail about it.
Re: has your husband ever asked you for a 3-some?
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Um, gross! There's no way in hell H would ever want to see this, or would ever be ok with my being with another guy, even if he knew.
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Not quite. My husband is Bi though and he has said he would be okay having a 3 some with another guy if I ever wanted to. (He knows I am the jealous type and another girl could cause problems if I am being insecure) Ironically I would probably enjoy a three some with another girl more though,IF we found the right girl that fit my DH and I's interests.
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This. I think it would put unnecessary stress on your relationship.
Not sure this is even possible. There's no way to guarantee that you won't feel any emotion having sex with someone else.
There are plenty of other things to do to spice up your love life, seriously, this is probably not going to turn out the way you want it to. I would look elsewhere for some other ideas without adding another person to your love life.
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It's know that open relationships tend to go downhill and straight to divorce. I would think my husband doesn't give a sh*t about me if he's okay with seeing me sleep with another person (male or female). If a man wants to feel someone else's ejaculation, it would make me think he's either a) a little sick b) not caring for STDs/HIV or c) into men but doesn't want to admit it yet.
So if the option of having sex with anybody you wish is the option, why marry?
Stay single; dispose of your person as you see fit.
I agree that it's impossible. People are not sex toys. Even if you treat this other guy as such, there's nothing to say he won't attach emotions to the sex. And he wouldn't be wrong to do so. Threesomes will never work as well in reality as they might in fantasy.
Let's just some in some alternate universe DH or I were actually down with a 3-way (We're not. To us, the whole point of marriage is being monogamous.), and there is absolutely no way in hell we wouldn't be using condoms with the 3rd party, regardless of how well we knew them.
And 3-ways aside, the fact that he'd want to feel another dude's load inside of you?
I'm more than willing to start validating people's ideas when they start having ideas worth validating
it's worth pointing out that when 'Forum' magazine carried out it's famous survey some years back it was found that this is the commonest male fantasy in western societies,....a result confirmed by other sources.
Between 20 and 40% of men (depnding on how questions are couched) in established hetero relationship fantasise about seeing their partner having sex with another man.
Since 14 out of 16 women responding to this topic are outraged by the suggestion they might like to ponder on the fact that somewhere between 3 and 6 of them are with men who WOULD LIKE to watch them with other men......Even while protesting disgust at the suggestion..........
That surprised me at first, but it kind of makes sense. Fantasies are often rooted in the taboo, right? And what's more taboo than allowing your partner to "cheat" while you watch? However, I'd be willing to bet that most of those polled would have a hard time going through with it.
Oh, and to answer the OP, no. Neither of us like to share.
I sent you a PM, but if you do end up deciding to go for it, I strongly recommend you DO NOT let anyone but your husband rub or insert his member anywhere without a condom on. Plenty of bacteria and STDs can be transferred from touch alone and I most certainly do not recommend letting someone else finish inside of you.
Many men have that fantasy about seeing the stuff come out afterwards but it is a fantasy, if they actually thought through the risks of infection or even pregnancy that could occur to their wives, they would back out.
Anybody that would put his or her SO/spouse at risk for anything is a creep, period.
I don't care how open the marriage or relationship is: that's a creep.
I have a friend thatswaps partners with her husband and certain aquaintances all the time. They love it! It keeps things interesting for them. I think if you feel comfortable with it, then by all means.
Different strokes for different folks, right?
Hell no! We roleplay it sometimes but there is no way in hell either one of us could bring another person in our sex life.
That's literally the definition of "sloppy seconds."
Quite disgusting, IMO. Very, very disgusting.
yikes
Didn't Sigmund Freud have a theory about this type of thing -- actually, it was with player types; he speculated that they were latent homosexuals because of the ejaculation factor.
And even if Freud was wrong, indeed very disgusting, ateal.