has your husband ever asked you for a 3-some?

jebbycakes

But as a side note, as others have said please use protection if you go through with anything.

macchiatto

Nope.

Also, even if it is possible to mentally divorce sex from emotion and relationship, I don't think it's a healthy thing to aim for. I also agree that fantasizing about something and really wanting to follow through with it are two different things.

I also don't believe that if you're truly in a good place in your relationship, that you would have the interest or desire to bring another person into your sexual relationship.

darjeeling

No.   

jnbj619:

basically an open relationship, so it's not cheating

Why get married if you are going to do this? 

 

zoozoe

darjeeling:

No.   

jnbj619:

basically an open relationship, so it's not cheating

Why get married if you are going to do this? 

 

 

What a narrow minded view of marriage. "Someones marriage is different from mine, therefore it must be inherently wrong or broken!"

 

OP, the biological reason your SO might be into this is because the female's body releases a complex cocktail of chemicals after receiving ejaculate. The human penis is designed like a mushroom with a ridge on the head for the specific purpose of scraping out your rival's semen. As such, the sight and smell of the various hormones caused by a rivals semen can increase attraction to make the erection harder- a harder erection means more semen is successfully scraped out and his seed is more likely to be successful.

 Science over hysterics, every day.

ArtNut

Yes to pretty much everything you mentioned in the OP, except I brought it up, not DH.  Ignore the majority of the uninformed and opinionated posts, open relationships are totally feasible, and in my experience fantastic. Not everything's always perfect, and issues can arise (as they can in any closed monogamous relationship), but if you have open and honest communication there is also the opportunity for tremendous growth, as individuals and as a couple, and the best sex of your life. Really. Three people can do things that two people can't. If you are seriously interested in an open marriage and exploring other aspects of your sexuality, I don't recommend you go to clearly biased and conservative chat boards. Some recommended reading: Sex at Dawn: the Prehistoric origins of Modern Sexuality, and The Ethical Slut (don't be put off by the title, it's an excellent book). 

kibskix

My guy and I have discussed threesomes in general (with girls, not guys), but we've never acted on it because we know how easy it is to chose the wrong person and have fall out to deal with, and it hasn't been worth it to risk that. At least yet. 
Also as a girl (as I think is probably common with girls in general) i'm not terribly interested in banging anyone else at the moment, as I am emotionally attracted to the one person i'm currently banging lol 
My guy on the other hand is bi, and he has been with another guy with my blessing. Imo the only way that situation can work is if you are willing to be 
1. Open (about what you're willing to entertain as far as activities, who does what)
2. Honest (about your needs, your insecurities, your requirements, your worries)
3. Respectful (of your own boundaries and theirs)
4. Sensitive (and not judgmental. if its a first, there may be missteps, dont take it as an attack if there is one)

If its just a conversation that comes up when he's turned on, its probably just a fantasy. If he can't sit down and hash out the logistics, it isn't worth losing sleep over. Also if you were just going to do it because he liked the idea, I wouldn't do it. Its fine to be open to his fantasies, but if your heart isn't really in sleeping with another guy and the thought makes you feel iffy and guilty, it needs to be sat on and discussed and thought about more. 

Before my guy ever had permission to sleep with someone else, It was discussed extensively (I mean on and off for months), never pushed, never nagged, but in open, honest conversation about the what ifs. Knowing your relationship is the most important thing and that nothing should happen on either side that would put it at risk is a must! Also its just our preference, but I think if you're going to go that route, I'd avoid friends all together. Bringing friendships into the bedroom is a hit or miss, and usually a BIG miss. 

If all that mess happens and its still on the table, have fun! 

Lutherbride2011

NO!!! I Would be VERY concerned if he did....