So do you, um, let him do it in your mouth?

adelaide03 · September 2012

I'm so sorry for the lewd question, but I wanted to find out what other women are comfortable with regarding oral sex. I enjoy going down on my husband, but I absolutely will not let him *** in my mouth (I did once with a previous boyfriend, and got so grossed out I almost threw up). What are the other ladies' ground lines for this? I know my husband would love for me to "finish." Should I try it again or stick to my guns? Any words of wisdom?

Kimbus22 · September 2012

No one should do anything in bed that makes them uncomfortable. If you want to give it a try, do it. If you're not okay with the idea, he'll live.

Jimmyjamsgirl · September 2012

I have my soon to be husband give me a signal so I know to be ready. Not to be gross, but if you are prepared for "the big moment" you can position your mouth and throat to be ready. It really does take practice and communication so you aren't surprised. If you just concentrate on the pleasure you are giving him, maybe you won't be so grossed out. Also, have him drink lots of water because dehydration on his part can contribute to a different texture and taste.

TarponMonoxide · September 2012

He would love for you to "finish" because you are showing him you are accepting him completely.

That's the reason why.

vlagrl29 · September 2012

men love when you swallow it. I don't see the big deal, Ive always swallowed. it's easier. but I also let him finish on my chest and face as well. probably tmi

bewilderingstar · September 2012

I would do whatever is most comfortable. I'm not always a fan of letting him *** in my mouth but I've gotten used to it. The trick is to have him warn you when he is about to go and make sure the head of his penis is in the very back of your mouth towards your throat. It's easier for you to just swallow it and not have to taste it. If the penis is near the front of your mouth it can scare me, lol. The pressure of the load ya know? Haha.

PS

I would NEVER let any man splooge on my face. EVER. Can't do it. (to each her own though)

tamararachel2 · September 2012

Yes I do...mostly for easy clean-up lol. However, I've always swallowed...I never knew where I would spit it because it's more gross to me to hold it in your mouth and get over to the sink. Some guys have tasted not so good, but my STBH's taste doesn't even bother me...and some days it actually kinda tastes good. Everyone has their limits when it comes to sex. Just do what you're comfortable with and your H will love you just because you're pleasuring him.

Knena&her3loves · September 2012

We usually don't do oral to completion, but when we rarely do I usually do it. DH says it feels better to finish inside then on in his hand or my chest or w/e. I feel dirty, not good dirty, after typing this...

vlagrl29 · September 2012

bewilderingstar:
I would do whatever is most comfortable. I'm not always a fan of letting him *** in my mouth but I've gotten used to it. The trick is to have him warn you when he is about to go and make sure the head of his penis is in the very back of your mouth towards your throat. It's easier for you to just swallow it and not have to taste it. If the penis is near the front of your mouth it can scare me, lol. The pressure of the load ya know? Haha.

PS
I would NEVER let any man splooge on my face. EVER. Can't do it. (to each her own though)

i know he really really likes it. i do it maybe 3-4 times a year and that's it. he does things I really like so I like to please him as well

adelaide03 · September 2012

Thanks for the replies! This information is interesting.........lolol. For those who do let him finish, do you actually taste it or does it just go down your throat? How do you fight the gag reflex? Sorry for being so inappropriate, but where else could I ask these questions?! TIA

vlagrl29 · September 2012

adelaide03:
Thanks for the replies! This information is interesting.........lolol. For those who do let him finish, do you actually taste it or does it just go down your throat? How do you fight the gag reflex? Sorry for being so inappropriate, but where else could I ask these questions?! TIA

I do taste it, while I swallow it. it's not something i want just hanging out on my taste buds. It's not the best taste I admit, but it's not the worst either. I guess I don't have a gag reflex or maybe it doesn't flar up when I swallow.

Something that may help you at least not have to swallow a ton of semen. When he is laying on his back and you are in between his legs giving him a bj and he finishes, don't feel you have to swallow all that. You can let some of it come out of your mouth while you swallow the rest. It always helps me to go to the bathroom afterwards and wash it off my hands and gargle some water. The taste is not something i want lingering in my mouth.

vpine · September 2012

We've been married 2 yrs, he never finishes in my mouth, he will warn me that he's about to finish and I let it land on his stomach, etc. I don't think it's a big deal to him whether it's in my mouth or not, I think important thing is finishing, lol. It's my choice not to because I find it nasty to swallow (I have in past with previous bf).

RamonaFlowers · September 2012

I know that probably makes me sound like a terrible and incredibly prude person, but finishing in my mouth is something I won't even entertain doing in bed. Just the thought of it makes me retch a little.

I'll start out with oral, no problem ... but it needs to end with either intercourse or a handy. DH knows this, and he's always respected it. I'm pretty open to trying/doing most other things in bed, so it's not something he takes issue with.

ChristineNB · September 2012

adelaide03:
Thanks for the replies! This information is interesting.........lolol. For those who do let him finish, do you actually taste it or does it just go down your throat? How do you fight the gag reflex? Sorry for being so inappropriate, but where else could I ask these questions?! TIA

I've let him finish in my mouth, but it isn't my preferred method. Would rather he finished anywhere else, and generally he will pull out. I don't gag, I just can't stand the taste of it (I find my DH to taste very salty). Every now and then I will try again and sometimes it isn't quite and strong but still, can't stand the taste.

~NB~ · September 2012

I don't find anything disgusting or gross about an orgasm. NOTHING. I'm happy when I have one, and I'm happy when my partner has one; that's what we're there to do.

KBachofer · September 2012

I let my husband go in mouth but I don't swallow. You really have to have a taste for semen! Also, it does help if he gives you a heads up when he is about to come! I would give it one more try, not all semen tastes the same! Good luck:)

kipnus · September 2012

RamonaFlowers:
I know that probably makes me sound like a terrible and incredibly prude person, but finishing in my mouth is something I won't even entertain doing in bed. Just the thought of it makes me retch a little.
I'll start out with oral, no problem ... but it needs to end with either intercourse or a handy. DH knows this, and he's always respected it. I'm pretty open to trying/doing most other things in bed, so it's not something he takes issue with.

This. Also, I have a really strong gag reflex.

063mrobbins · September 2012

Your comment caught my attention... however, I believe in pleasing you husband to the fullest... even if you feel grossed out. That's my opinion. I haven't came across that issue and I certainly hope we don't lol but if we did, I would so whatever pleases him because I know he'll do the same for me. and Plus I love him and we're married until death, so we have to keep each other pleases somehow and if that's it so be it.

tooquick1 · October 2012

Your husband should be happy that you at least perform oral on him. My wife has a gag reflex so I am without that pleasure.

coffeebreak28 · October 2012

If you haven't tried it in a while and your husband is asking for it, I say give it a try. Just because you try it out once, doesn't mean you are committed to the act forever. Let him know during foreplay that you wanna test-drive the taste. Not only will it turn him on, but it lets him know that it may or may not happen again. I personally don't mind swallowing. Granted sometimes it tastes grosser than others, but when you're in the moment it is easier to oblige. I take it as a compliment that I did a gob well done.

penguingrrl · October 2012

I did it once, recently. Honestly, my throat felt coated for days (quite possibly psychosomatic) so it won't happen again. Usually we just use oral as foreplay. DH was very happy that I tried it and completely understands that it isn't for me.

FSUalum · October 2012

063mrobbins:
however, I believe in pleasing you husband to the fullest... even if you feel grossed out. That's my opinion. I haven't came across that issue and I certainly hope we don't lol but if we did, I would so whatever pleases him because I know he'll do the same for me. and Plus I love him and we're married until death, so we have to keep each other pleases somehow and if that's it so be it.

And this ladies- is how you keep your husband happy.

Kimbus22 · October 2012

FSUalum:
063mrobbins:
however, I believe in pleasing you husband to the fullest... even if you feel grossed out. That's my opinion. I haven't came across that issue and I certainly hope we don't lol but if we did, I would so whatever pleases him because I know he'll do the same for me. and Plus I love him and we're married until death, so we have to keep each other pleases somehow and if that's it so be it.
And this ladies- is how you keep your husband happy.

See, and I read this and immediately thought "Aww. A newlywed. I wonder if I was ever that young and naive." FWIW I don't think being a good wife requires doing things that disgust you. While I don't think the topic of this particular thread is gross, if you haven't come across something where you've just said, "Ummmm...no. Not gonna happen." then you either haven't been together more than a few years, you're both too scared to suggest new things or you're way pervier than me. And that's an accomplishment.

ajzmommy · October 2012

I let my hubby do it. I usually hold it and spit it out in the toilet. (My bathroom is attached to my bedroom). After he does we keep going, so if we're too caught up in the moment i just swallow it. Hubby is the only one I've tasted so I don't have anything to compare it to. It's a tad bit salty but not bad. But if you can try it with him farther towards your throat and if you still don't like it that that's it.

Let me just point out, there was a pp where a lady said it about keeping her man happy. We'll KUDOS! Cause I have that same motto. I try everything (and he does too, except anal) to keep our sex life going. I feel pleasure in his pleasure so why not?

FSUalum · October 2012

And the converse of it is I get her juices in my mouth and on my face when I go down on her. It doesn't bother me one bit- I think it's an aquired taste

~NB~ · October 2012

Kimbus22:
FSUalum:

063mrobbins:
however, I believe in pleasing you husband to the fullest... even if you feel grossed out. That's my opinion. I haven't came across that issue and I certainly hope we don't lol but if we did, I would so whatever pleases him because I know he'll do the same for me. and Plus I love him and we're married until death, so we have to keep each other pleases somehow and if that's it so be it.

And this ladies- is how you keep your husband happy.

See, and I read this and immediately thought "Aww. A newlywed. I wonder if I was ever that young and naive." FWIW I don't think being a good wife requires doing things that disgust you. While I don't think the topic of this particular thread is gross, if you haven't come across something where you've just said, "Ummmm...no. Not gonna happen." then you either haven't been together more than a few years, you're both too scared to suggest new things or you're way pervier than me. And that's an accomplishment.

The bigger question is... why is it disgusting to you? As long as it doesn't hurt or injure you, why is it not a turn on to bring sexual ecstasy to your partner?

paigeee90 · October 2012

No way do I let my fiance do that! I tell him to "tap-out", then it just happens. Don't feel bad. Just do what you feel comfortable with and stick to your guns!

charbakes · October 2012

I, personally, do. I'm going to come in his mouth, so why not let him come in my mouth? The flavor is also influenced by things like diet, smoking, etc. My FI is a vegetarian, which improves the taste, and he doesn't smoke (I do smoke, however). It might be a mental hangup for you, but you might want to at least give it a try. His semen might be completely different.

NadzB · October 2012

for me its spit not swallow its just not my thing at all

missmolly9588 · October 2012

It should be absolutely up to you. If it will make you sick, than don't do it. I have told H that we can try it if he really wants to, but so far we havent.