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Baby Bucket List
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I can't remember if we've talked about this on here before or not, but if we did it was probably a while back. So for those of you who plan to have children *someday* what's on your "baby bucket list?" I.e. the list of things you want to do/accomplish before you have kids?
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Here's mine: (it's a work in progress, I might add to it)
Get married (check)
Have a steady, stable job - me (check)
Have a steady, stable job - DH (working on it!)
Buy a house (check)
Fence in our back yard / make home improvements
Replace DH's crappy car with a reliable, new(er) one
Go on a spontaneous road trip or vacation at the last minute
Visit New York
Visit New Orleans
Disney World with just the two of us (check once, want to do again)
Host a holiday party at our place (working on Christmas this year)
[Hopefully] Pay off my student loans
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Here's ours! In no particular order:
Get married (check)
DH graduate school (he should be done next summer!)
Both have steady, stable jobs that we enjoy (check, and check!)
Big family trip to Disney World with all of DH's cousins- there are 12 of them and half of them are married!! (not yet)
Road trip across the country (not yet)
Buy and renovate a house (we should be moving in in December/January, and then renovating for about a year, maybe, so half check?)
Get a dog (not yet- waiting to get the house)
Hi, I'm pretty new to this board, but I liked the oppoturnity to put my bucket list in my head on "paper"
Get Married (check)
Buy a House (working on it, have an offer in on a short sale)
Get a better paying job (I'm underemployed).. but I'm not sure on this, since my job is pretty flexible and would be a great job to have as a mom
Fix up house just the way I like it, and enjoy it before it gets destroyed by baby stuff everywhere
DH graduate school and get a good paying job (working on this)
Save at least $25-50k in savings, so that if i want to stay home for a bit longer than 8 weeks I can.
Go to Italy with DH to show him where I lived in college and experience europe together before a baby
We are on the "5 year" plan, but my clock started ticking this year, I just turned 28.
Get married (check)
Have a degree (working on it...)
Cross country road trip (tentatively planned for the spring)
Lose some weight! I don't have much to lose, but I would like to lose some before I gain weight while PG
Get out of some debt (i.e. cars paid off, CC paid off, etc.)
Have more money in savings
Decent/stable jobs for both DH and I (I probably won't have one until after I graduate)
Mine is pretty much the same as PPs
1.) Lose more weight (40 more lbs to go)
2.) Buy a house
3.) DH figure out what career path he wants to go down and stick with it.
First two should be done within the next year, hoping #3 is even sooner
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We are thinking of a five year plan (we are 24 and 26 right now)...
Get married (almost checked off)
Buy a house (half way to the down payment)
Pay off FI's student loans (eek...2/3 more to go)
Get stable jobs we both love (checked off for me, working on it for him)
Complete a master's degree for me (maybe in a year or two, about 1/3 the way there)
Go on a cruise (almost checked off--it's our honeymoon plan)
Take a trip to Europe
Take an East Coast trip to visit New York, Washington DC (again), Boston and Philadelphia
So we have quite a bit to do before we plan on having children...it may turn into a 6 or 7 year plan, which would put me around 30 for our first child....
1.) Get Married (Check)
2.) Buy a house (Check)
3.) Stable jobs both making more than $65K (check)
4.) Pay off any college loans (Check)
5.) Have at least $50k in Savings (Check)
6.) Travel to Paris
7.) Travel to Australia
8.) Be ok with not putting my career first
9.) Be completely Happy in my marriage before adding the stress of Kids.
Ive heard any marriage problems just multiply with kids. That scares me
In one of my classes we discussed how marital satisfaction decreases once kids come along. I'm not trying to scare you or anything, but I think it really has to do with people being prepared mentally at the challenges that may arise with kids.
-Buy a house
-pay off student loans
-have DH out of the military
This is a topic that DH and I have talked extensively about. We found out the month before our wedding that I was deploying the month AFTER our wedding and then he deployed two months BEFORE I came home. He wants children right away, but once I set out my personal list of what I want to achieve before we bring a child into the world, he started his own list and they have merged together into this:
-Make decision of who will be staying in the military - him, me, or both of us and our personal goals for advancement (if he stays in, he wants to become an NCO while I would go the Officer track)
-Complete RN degree for me (May 2014!) and start online MSN program. As my eventual goal is to earn my PhD, we want a good head start on schooling before we actually start TTC
-Connect with my biological Father's birth parents - as it was a closed adoption, I do not know if this is possible. I am close with my grandparents, though my Father is a rather taboo subject after his suicide. There are a lot of medical questions that would be cleared up and hopefully give us a heads up for our children. DH's grandparents adopted him, so it is a little easier for us to get his family history :-)
-Buy a house - min. 3 bdrms, 2 baths, fenced in yard, basement, & garage - working on the down payment (thank you deployments!) but still unsure as to where we truly want to settle down
-Have time to reconnect as a couple - our military careers have afforded us very little time together and we have both grown as individuals. Now, it is time to focus on our marriage and who we are as a couple.
-Furbabies graduated from obedience training - currently researching and working around my school & work schedule. As DH is deployed until April, we will wait until he returns so that we may both participate.
-Go on a cruise (in planning phase, as it will be our honeymoon/anniversary trip)
-Have emergency fund in place and building (check!) -Life insurance for both of us (check!)
-Decision on health insurance (in research phase)
-Graduate from a parenting class - I grew up in a minimum-rules household and he where there were bars on the windows to prevent escape (I am being completely serious...) so we are working on melding our parenting style together
-Publish my novel (in progress)
-DH advance in civilian career to staff sergeant -Both vehicles paid off (his, check! mine, 6 months left!)
-A spontaneous weekend with just the two of us (researching phase)
Our family has been pressuring us for children since our wedding day, but they will simply have to wait! Luckily, we are both on the same page and tell our family to back off - afterall, we are only 23 & 21!
Just found this board! I've been married for two years and turn 30 this year. I want babies "someday" but have to do the following first:
---Build a successful/stable business, in progress - working as a Wedding Planner but just launched a year ago so I'm not quire there...still have a part-time jobs to bring in steady money
---DH pass (7) exams and becomes licensed Architect, he starts in January 2013
---Travel to Paris, we've been talking about this for a couple of years
---Have emergency fund in place, build back up savings (just bought a house)
---Higher income for us both
And I would love to also do the following, but not sure it will happen "BB" (before babies)
---Pay off mine and DH school loans
---Hire one or two other full-time Wedding Planners to grow business a little more
Decent/stable jobs for both DH and I (I probably won't have one until after I graduate)
ust found this board! I've been married for two years and turn 30 this year. I want babies "someday" but have to do the following first:
---Build a successful/stable business, in progress - working as a Wedding Planner but just launched a year ago so I'm not quite there...still have a part-time job to bring in steady money
---DH pass (7) exams and becomes licensed Architect, he starts in January 2013
---Travel to Paris, we've been talking about this for a couple of years
---Have emergency fund in place, build back up savings (just bought a house)
---Higher income for us both
And I would love to also do the following, but not sure it will happen "BB" (before babies)
---Pay off mine and DH school loans
---Hire one or two other full-time Wedding Planners to grow business a little more
We're in a somewhat different boat, as home (house) ownership in our city is next to impossible (the cheapest actual free standing house for sale in our city is 520,000 dollars!) I do own my townhouse (the bank only owns 1/5 of it now)
My FI and I want to get married before we have kids. The interesting thing is that our friends, who are not the 'marrying type' are not into the kids thing. I wonder if our reticence has to do with them not being into kids? Thoughts?
I want him to be in a job where he makes a bit more than now since I want to be at home with the kids, at least perhaps 2 work days a week, so I'd work 3 days in all.
We're not huge 'have to have this, have to have that' people, but there's something about giving up the security/innocence of not having kids that scares me in particular...
-Travel the world more
-Take a cross country trip on the motorcycle
-Pay student loans off
-Finish remodeling the house
-Stable in our careers
-Lots of alone time together
-Owning a vehicle you can put a car seat in
**6.30.12** I have found the one whom my soul loves.
*Graduate from college
*Be pretty wealthy/prosperous, at least middle class, for at least a year. I want some time for my husband and me to enjoy our blessings for just ourselves. E.g. a nice luxurious vacation where I don't have to concern myself with a child. :-)
College education (check)
Get married! (check)
Find steady job (DH check but not so much with me but working on it vigorously!!)
Buy a house/townhome (currently looking)
Pay off DH student loans completely (half check)
Vacation in the Carribean (check!)
Travel to Boston in the Fall/Go skiing in Colorado/Go on a Napa Valley wine tour
Enjoy being married and alone in the house with each other
I want to join in!
Uh. . . don't really have one. LOL!!!
I guess get into my career and be in a good place with the hubby.
Buy a house (Check)
Get Married (Check)
I need to get a better job to help grow my career (Working on it)
Hubby needs to get a well paying local job (hes a Over the Road Trucker, so local jobs are harder to find at least in our area)
Pay down debt
Pay down student loans
A decent amount of savings
Get use to having hubby home everyday after he gets a local job.
Be around more kids to become more comfortable with having a child and being able to care for a child.
The way it looks, we will have another 3-5 years before kids, although I know hubby would like to try sooner.
The nice to haves would be to Travel to Europe, Alaska, Bahamas, Hawaii, etc.)
My husband and I have only been married for about 18 months and we both have steady great paying careers and have recently bought a house. There are just a few fun things we want to accomplish that will be difficult to do after baby.
1) Further my degree in nursing
2) Buy my husband his dream car (Mustang GT)
3) Europe trip
4) Disney trip with my family
5) Las Vegas trip (planned for our second anniversary)
Well we have only been married a couple of months and were not getting any younger so.....
1.Since we didnt have a wedding we wanted to wait until we renew our vows.
2.Take a couple of trips! (Disney, Cali, and Hawaii)
3.And definately find a bigger place.
4. Oh and the husband wants another furbaby (trained first) so our little mason doesnt feel neglected.
I want to join in!
DH and I have only been married three months but we do have a plan
Be married (check)
DH go from flight instructor to airline pilot (working on it)
Pay off as much of our combined student loans as possible (half check)
Live in the best place for DH's job and to raise kids
I would like to say own a house, but not sure about that one
Honestly at lot of it will depend on DH's job and where we land so to speak!
I'm no expert, but my husband and I just had a child. We had the same fears, but our little boy has actually brought us closer together. We spend more time together now than we did before. You really have to base this on how strong your marriage is now because people will tell you horror stories about anything. I bet that you heard a million and one horror stories about getting married... Not so true are they? Good luck with the rest of your list!
We are on a two year timeline:
1) Get married (check)
2) Stable jobs (check)
3) Save for a down payment on a new house (working on it)
4) Travel to Africa (in the planning state for later this year)
5) Travel to Italy (next year)
1. Buy a house
2. Buy a new car
3. Travel to Japan
4. Travel to the UK
5. Travel to Finland
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My friend and her husband traveled to Europe and was almost positive they conceived in Rome! It's the sweetest story ever. Good luck!
Awesome post! Ours are as follows:
1) Get married (check - like 10 days ago)
2) Jamaican honeymoon (May)
3) Stable job for me (check)
4) Stable job for DH (offers come in this August)
5) DH graduates from law school (May 2014)
6) "Bar trip" to Madrid (May 2014)
7) DH passes the bar and starts a real job (September 2014)
8) Climb Macchu Picchu (May 2015)
9) AI at a resort with Butler service (November 2015)
10) Visit Istanbul (May 2016)
11) Caribbean cruise out of San Juan (November 2016)
**Also
12) Be fully funding our Roths (check)
13) Be fully funding our 401(k) (Jan 2014 for me, Jan 2016 for DH)
14) Buy a house - (likely December 2014/Jan 2015)
15) $50K in an emergency fund
I would say we're on the 5 year plan...
- have a glam vow renewal (work in progress)
- achieve our ultimate career goals (almost there)
- have a year's worth of living expenses saved
- travel extensively, especially to our top travel bucket list destinations