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My husband cheated on me
LosingGrip
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in Married Life
I actually found out this morning that my husband cheated on me
I was on the computer and I saw a video that I did not recognize so I clicked on it and the video was my husband having sex with another woman!
When I saw it, I felt like punched in the stomach and wanted to throw up!
I called him at work and told him I saw the video on the computer and he said "what video?" and I said the video of you f**king another woman!
Guess what he said?
"Did you enjoy it?" [:|]
I slammed the phone on him and I am now packing my bags and going to my mother's house and I do not want to talk to the douchebag after what he said to me!
Thoughts and prayers for me please [:(]
Re: My husband cheated on me
omfg....what a PIG!
Why should you be the one to leave your house though? I would have packed his sh!t and set it on fire on the front lawn and told him to get the fcuk out.
Great idea! I will throw his sh*t in the front lawn and put gasoline all over his stuff and light it on fire and I will also be locking every door so he will not get in the house
I hope you're not serious about setting anything on fire - you could get in trouble or the fire can expand, crazy.
Were you having issues with your husband already that he was snarky once you saw the video and confronted him? Maybe he did it on purpose, doesn't care that you know, keep us updated.
Holy cr@p! I was only kidding about the setting his stuff on fire - I mean, throw it out of the house, by all means, your pig of an H deserves it, and you should not be the one to leave your home....kick his @ss out and change the locks.
Oh dear...I'm so sorry I even said that....and I'm very very sorry for your troubles....please tell me that you did not take my 'advice' to heart.....
No, I had no idea, I was shocked! We had no trouble with our marriage and I thought we were very happy with our marriage but I guess he was not happy and I think he did put it on purpose
Sorry to hear that, I hope he leaves because he's in the wrong here, not you.
Don't be sorry, the fire had been put out already before my husband could see it but his stuff has been burnt to a crisp so that is that! So I am waiting for him to come home to see his stuff burnt and he deserves it!
Thank you and I hope so too!
Sorry for your troubles.
If you still have that video, download it and keep it as evidence. He is liable to delete it and then deny deny deny.
Packing your bags is a great idea; once a cheater always a cheater. File and get rid of this skank -- and get tested. One never knows where he and she have been and I would not want you to get an STD.
Wishing you luck.
Update:
So he came home and saw his burned stuff and was pissed so he came to the front door and started banging on the door and I told him to go away or I will call the police and he said "Guess what b*tch?" That girl I was f*cking with, she is pregnant with my baby so I am leaving you for her and our baby!" then he left
What the flying f*ck?!?!
I am so done and I will be filing for divorce tomorrow afternoon
I am planning to do that and I will get tested for my safety, thank you for the advice
I also need not stress this enough:
Safeguard your assets.
Make sure he cannot access your assets --- put your money into an account he cannot touch -- and change the passwords on any ATM cards you may jointly used with him.
Run a credit check on yourself and on him. Make sure nothing funky comes up --- Equifax will give you one for free.
Keep a fully charged phone on you at all times --- and when you get to where you are getting, file.
I vote for leave him and say nothing and let him figure out what just transpired.
Thank you for the great advice, I did not think of that and I will plan to follow your advice
Sorry for your troubles! Thats so awful - I couldn't imagine. I fully agree with safeguarding your assets, change ALL of your passwords (make them 100% different and hard to crack so he cant access things like your email or whatever- maybe even change your email), make sure the banks doesn't allow him to over-see your account, change your locks! Anything that you co-own I would try and make sure that if he makes the payments on things that you ensure it gets paid so your credit doesnt get screwed. Good luck and I hope you find a good lawyer that can help you get through this easily.
Holy sweet Jesus....what the fcuking hell???!!!! I don't even know what to say to that - what a d-bag!!!! I take it back - good for you for burning his sh!t...he deserves it.
ditto all of the more sane advice you were given though....now take a deep breath, pull yourself together and do what you need to do to protect yourself and your assets. I'm so sorry for you but just know that you will be fine and just thank goodness you don't have children with this loser POS. (at least I hope you don't)
Thankfully we do not have any children! I will be strong and get through this!
I will do so and I will start looking for a good lawyer tomorrow
I am going to get off the computer and get my mind off this
Tomorrow, I will start following all the advice that you gave me so it will be a busy and exhausting day for me
Thank you girls again and I will keep you updated!
I just want to say I am so sorry you're going through this. My ex husband was also a cheater.
Stay strong and take the great advice you were given here and run for the hills!
Definitely get tested for STD's. Who knows what these weasels carry!!
Why do you think it is made up drama?
I'm sure it's just a coincidence that you know what MUD stands for after 16 posts.
Now that I'm looking at the timeline of this whole thread - it does seem a bit suspect. I mean, I told OP to throw his sh!t out, set fire to it, and she went ahead and supposedly did it not even half hour after I said that? Hmmmm
If it is true though, then I feel sorry for this person because being cheated on is really a sh!tty thing to happen to anyone, especially if it's something where you find physical evidence such as a video of your H banging another woman...
I threw out all his clothes which he did not have much and his laptop, that was it
I would not lie about it
I already got a lawyer and right now I am at the doctor's office in the waiting room to get tested so I am posting this from my phone
Good!!! Just goodness, What a total Pr..ck!! I cannot even imagine. SO you had no idea he was even a little bit unfaithful? I'm just curious if there were any "feelings" intuition you may have felt ever about it? I am so sorry you are going thru this...