family time vs. us time

WeezieB

My issue is with my sister...We've always been close and she is single at a point in her life where she's trying to fill her life up because she's so dissatisfied with career, dating, etc.   She often "hints at" or flat out asks me if she can go places/do thing with my husband and I or if we can invite her places.  On 2 specific occasions she has asked to come with us places and I've obliged but my husband has been annoyed.  I try to include her from time to time as I think it's good for her to get out and spend time with nice people but there are moments when my husband and I just want to spend time with our own friends without family along (as he puts it).  My husband and I especially enjoy hanging out with other couples, as we find it encouraging and validating to talk openly with people who understand where we are.  I've noticed that my sister seems perfectly comfortable going places and doing things with her own friends (not inviting me along) but I feel guilty if I do the same.  I never point this fact out to her, but I wonder if I should especially if she asks again to 'tag along.' I'm not sure what to do.  Thanks so much for listening to me and sorry for the long entry.

kelbunny

You can always say that you are having a 'date night', that usually works for me. good luck!

wifeplzak

I like the date night idea. or double date. I also tend not to tell my sister about events that I wasnt planning on inviting her too.