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So incredibly sad... Pregnancy loss mentioned

I debated even making this post...but hiding it won't help either. It doesn't help get rid of the stigma that is attached to miscarriage.

I lost my pregnancy on Wednesday at 9 weeks pregnant. There was nothing wrong with the baby, but the severe subchorionic bleed I've had and been on bed rest for the past month for likely contributed.

Heartbroken obviously, we tried for three years to even get pregnant and then I lose it.

I got home from mailing off my elf package today to see a package in the door. I thought that it was an elf package for me and I was very excited. But it turned out to be a free pregnancy journal that I signed up for three weeks ago.

I kind of lost it then.

I don't really know how to feel or how to move on. I keep being told that I have to move on and at least I can get pregnant, but that doesn't help.

I don't know guys... I really don't have many people to talk to about this...

But I'll heal, I know, but its going to take long time.
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  • *big hugs* I'm so sorry :-(

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  • (((hugs))) I'm so sorry! I don't have any words to make it better, but I'm thinking of and praying for you and if you need to talk, you can PM me.
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  • I am so sorry for your loss. I have been there and it sucks. I am here if you need to vent. I also highly recommend the loss board on the bump. They helped me with my last loss.
  • ((hugs)) I am so sorry for you loss
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  • Ignore all of the people who tell you to move on.  Ignore the people who tell you that you were lucky to get pregnant. 

    You suffered a very real loss and it's not something that you can just "get over."  It's a death, and you need to take time to grieve.

    I had a D&C at 8w5d after two weeks and three ultrasounds showed slow heartbeat, then slow development, then no heartbeat.

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  

    I love a lot of what @Slytherpuff said.  You experienced true loss.  Let yourself grieve.
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  • I also had a miscarriage years ago. Let me know if you want to talk.

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  • I am so incredibly sorry. I can't even imagine how much you are hurting right now. 

    Sending a prayer for healing your way. 

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  HUGS.
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  • Huge hugs. Let yourself feel what you need to feel. 
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  • You are totally allowed to grieve.  While I haven't experienced it myself, my SIL and one of my good friends have and it is a loss and you are completely allowed to feel sad, lost, depressed...  I can only pray that you will find the strength to get through each day.  We are all here for you if you need to vent.  I'm so sorry for your loss.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I also miscarried a baby at 9 weeks, and it utterly rocked me to the core. I do remember feeling a bit better approximately 2 weeks after my D&C, when my hormones returned to normal. We all deal with grief differently, but it helped me to name the baby (I chose something gender neutral) and talk about it with other Nesties who were going through the same thing. DH, on the other hand, felt more comfortable not discussing it with anyone but me. There's no right or wrong way to deal, just do whatever brings you comfort. 

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  • I'm so sorry.
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  • *Hugs*. I am so so sorry.
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  • I am so sorry for your loss.
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  • I am so sorry for your loss. I have had a miscarriage as well and the only advice I can give you is definitely take all the time you need to grieve and process it. It is definitely a real loss and the way you are feeling is completely normal. Whoever is telling you to get over it and at least you can get pregnant is NOT helping. Take care of yourself, hun! 
     

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  You and your husband are in my thoughts.

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  • I am so so sorry for your loss. ((((HUGS)))))

    You said:  I keep being told that I have to move on and at least I can get pregnant, but that doesn't help.

    No, just no. You are doing exactly what you should be doing, just trying to cope and grieve and survive. It hasn't even been a week; those people need to shut up. You experienced a loss, a death, and there is no time limit for grieving.

    I'm sorry.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been dealing with infertility for 3 years and I can't even imagine your grief right now. There's nothing that can be said to make this easier. Just cry, scream, be mad, be sad, be angry...every feeling you have is the right feeling. I would also encourage you to open up to your mom, sister, best friend, or therapist, you shouldn't have to hurt alone. Lots of hugs to you.
  • I'm so sorry. I also know the pain of losing a baby, and I know that there's not really anything anyone can say to make you feel better, even though they may have the best if intentions. But please take time to grieve and heal however you need to. Hugs. We are here for you.

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  • I am so sorry for your loss. Lots of hugs headed your way.
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  • I'm so very sorry for your loss. ::hugs:: take your time to grieve.
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  • I'm so, so sorry. Big hugs from me. <3
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. You need to greive how you see fit, and don't let anyone tell you how you need to heal. What you experienced is real and hard and horrible.

    We're here, always, for you.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.
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  • I'm so sorry. Hugs from me.
     
     
     
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  HUGS

    We're all here for you and you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • ((Hugs)) I am so sorry for your loss
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss :( I second the recommendation of the loss board in the bump. They are very helpful. You are going to have good days and bad days and very bad days. Be gentle to yourself. Rest, read, nap, do things you love. Don't be afraid to cry. Lean on your friends and family for support. Sending you hugs.

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