Tough Decisions have been made. :(

brij2006 · November 2013

Well H and I had some long, difficult, and emotional conversations last night and we've decided to no longer TTC. I feel both heartbroken and relieved. We know that we both want children, but we've realized that we've lost who we are in this process and mostly with the losses. I finally broke down and told H that I want to be my caring and compassionate self again. Not this bitter person that judges each and every other person's family decisions.

We have decided that we will TTA for the rest of the year, and that we will re-discuss it at the New Year and make a point to bring it up and discuss it on a monthly basis until we're ready again. Whether it means we TTC 3 months from now, or 3 years from now. I feel very fortunate that we feel we have time on our side (I will be 26, him 28), whether we have to go down the TTTC road again or not. I'm really not sure how I feel about this decision yet, but I know it's a decision that needed to be made and is the best for us right now.

So thank you girls for all of the support and answering my millions of questions over this past year. I plan to still hang out here.

lfk2013 · November 2013

Hugs to you, brij2006.

amccul20 · November 2013

oh Brij i'm so sorry that you're dealing with this but i'm happy that you've come to a decision that you're OK with currently.

lots of hugs for you and your H

nfp147 · November 2013

I hope taking a break is really helpful to you. (T)TTC is difficult and sometimes it feels good to just step away and take a breather.

callitcompulsive · November 2013

(hugs) brij.

LooneyLife · November 2013

I hope your break is helpful to you, your husband, and your relationship. Take all the time you both need to feel ready to TTC again.

sparklingdiamond · November 2013

I hope your break is helpful to you guys! Lots of hugs to you.

Xan921 · November 2013

I hope this break is exactly what you and your husband both need. TTTC is draining and I can't even imagine how it feels after a loss so if you and your husband feel that taking a step away from it will help you both mentally and emotionally then I think you are 100% making the right decision.

amandaf6383 · November 2013

I hope this break is what you guys need. 3T is the worrrrrrrst. It can be so consuming. You better stick around because we would be sad to see you go.

XOXO

PandPMeant2B · November 2013

So many hugs to you. Sorry you have to go through this, but hope the break is exactly what you need.

islandmonkey8 · November 2013

Lots of ((hugs)) @brij2006. I hope this break is just what you two need.

lb1117 · November 2013

Lots of love and ((hugs)) to you.

ecinereb · November 2013

(HUGS) to you. I hope the break is helpful to you.

GoodWolf · November 2013

((hugs)) I'm sorry that you had to make this tough decision, but it sounds like this is a relief. I hope that your TTC break is just what you both need.

Uptowngirl2009 · November 2013

I'm so sorry Brij. It sounds like you are making the right decision for you right now. ((HUGS))

ljraff29 · November 2013

Hugs to you. I'm sure it was a difficult conversation to have. Hope things work out down the road.

brij2006 · November 2013

Thanks girls. I hope this break is helpful too. Thankfully we both feel that our marriage and faith have gotten much stronger through both the 3T and the losses. But we want to be mentally and emotionally stable before going down that road again, and neither one of us feels we would be stable through another pregnancy or God forbid another loss.

cloudymeatballs · November 2013

I'm so sorry Brij. Hard decision to make, a break could help. ((HUGS)) to you guys and best wishes for everything... xoxo

mrshall1027 · November 2013

Best of luck for the future

I hope this break does good for you and your H.

sgautschi · November 2013

I hope this break is exactly what you need. Big hugs to you!

MRads · November 2013

Many hugs to you.

BruinsBabe33 · November 2013

I hope this is what you need to get back to where you want to be.

abt8113 · November 2013

Hugs to you! Hope that you are able to get te peace that you need.

nightmare_of_beauty · November 2013

Lots of hugs to you. I hope this break is what you need and I wish you peace.

LuckyAngel07 · November 2013

I'm so sorry you guys had to face this decision, but I truly hope it helps mend your hearts and makes you stronger and more hopeful when you decide to start trying again.

((Hugs)) I'm glad you're sticking around.