FRIDAY CONFESSIONS

MrsJenE · April 2014

jackiback said:

RevJen said:

jackiback said:

I'm normally very non-confrontational but I got in a huge fight with my landlord (who recently kicked us out bc we have kids, long story) in the driveway last night and feel amazing about it. I could probably lift a car.

What? He wasn't serious, was he?

Yeah. Our apartment is the upstairs unit in an old house that was made into apartments. We just have one downstairs neighbor. Our neighbor was this old man and he passed away last month. Our landlord immediately (at neighbor's memorial service) told us he wasn't going to renew our lease which ended after June, and that if we could move out any sooner that'd be great because people like to move early in the summer and he'd love to get people in both units starting June first.

He said he didn't think anyone would want to rent below us because of our kids being "so loud" and that when he rented to us it had just been Shaun and I. I reminded him that I had been 8 months pregnant, and certainly he knew that would result in a kid. His response: "Yes, one! And then you had another! And how am I to know you won't have more!?" wtf.

Anyway, after he told us that he wouldn't renew our lease, we stressed out for a little bit and then found a house that was perfect for us and signed a lease starting in May. We immediately told landlord that we'd be moving out in May and he acted confused about why we'd do that. He told us we would have to pay our lease through June. So we'll have to pay rent at two places for two months just because he's a liar.

I'm pretty sure what happened is that he got into neighbor's apartment and realized what a huge job clearing it out is going to be (neighbor had no family or close friends so cleaning it out falls to the landlord) and realized he wouldn't be able to rent both units out starting in June like he wanted to.

I've been stewing on it for a long time and yesterday I just let him have it. He did agree to make us only pay half in June, which is something I guess, but mostly it just felt good to just get it all out in the open. He was super rude about everything, but I told him that I thought he was a terrible person and taking advantage of us. I also told him that we were setting up a security camera and if he went in there to start fixing it up for the next renter while we were still under lease that I'd call the police. lol.

LOL!

What a douche.

84Lauren · April 2014

Damn, @jackiback! Those bitchy moms in the park are bringing out the fire! I like it! LOL

EliStar · April 2014

@jackiback LMAO at calling the police if he tries to sneak in and fix it up beforehand. Well played.

MrsC7 · April 2014

@jackiback The comment about "How do I know you're not going to have more kids"?!? WTMF?

SnShne322 · April 2014

So J and I started running a few weeks ago. And I've realized that I DO NOT enjoy running with him. Every time he mentions going running, I just cringe and end up coming up with a reason for us not to. It's not fair because I'm sabotaging him and myself. I feel great when I'm done, I just think I need to do it alone. He just really wants to do it together and I think would be just crushed if I suggested doing it separately (his parents are joined at the hip and Jeremy's the same). I just can't deal. So it ends up with neither of us running and then there is self imposed guilt over not working out. Then I end up with email updates all day about how unhealthy he feels.

I'm confessing because neither situation is going to make me happy. I'm a hot mess.

packfan20 · April 2014

SnShne322 said:
So J and I started running a few weeks ago. And I've realized that I DO NOT enjoy running with him. Every time he mentions going running, I just cringe and end up coming up with a reason for us not to. It's not fair because I'm sabotaging him and myself. I feel great when I'm done, I just think I need to do it alone. He just really wants to do it together and I think would be just crushed if I suggested doing it separately (his parents are joined at the hip and Jeremy's the same). I just can't deal. So it ends up with neither of us running and then there is self imposed guilt over not working out. Then I end up with email updates all day about how unhealthy he feels.

I'm confessing because neither situation is going to make me happy. I'm a hot mess.

I really do not enjoy running with MH either. What makes it worse is that I love running with my brother.

packfan20 · April 2014

packfan20 said:

SnShne322 said:
So J and I started running a few weeks ago. And I've realized that I DO NOT enjoy running with him. Every time he mentions going running, I just cringe and end up coming up with a reason for us not to. It's not fair because I'm sabotaging him and myself. I feel great when I'm done, I just think I need to do it alone. He just really wants to do it together and I think would be just crushed if I suggested doing it separately (his parents are joined at the hip and Jeremy's the same). I just can't deal. So it ends up with neither of us running and then there is self imposed guilt over not working out. Then I end up with email updates all day about how unhealthy he feels.

I'm confessing because neither situation is going to make me happy. I'm a hot mess.
I really do not enjoy running with MH either. What makes it worse is that I love running with my brother.

WTF happened to the rest of my post???? I had all this great advice for you!

SnShne322 · April 2014

packfan20 said:

So J and I started running a few weeks ago. And I've realized that I DO NOT enjoy running with him. Every time he mentions going running, I just cringe and end up coming up with a reason for us not to. It's not fair because I'm sabotaging him and myself. I feel great when I'm done, I just think I need to do it alone. He just really wants to do it together and I think would be just crushed if I suggested doing it separately (his parents are joined at the hip and Jeremy's the same). I just can't deal. So it ends up with neither of us running and then there is self imposed guilt over not working out. Then I end up with email updates all day about how unhealthy he feels.

I'm confessing because neither situation is going to make me happy. I'm a hot mess.
I really do not enjoy running with MH either. What makes it worse is that I love running with my brother.
WTF happened to the rest of my post???? I had all this great advice for you!

Retype, retype!

Young_Love · April 2014

SnShne322 said:

So J and I started running a few weeks ago. And I've realized that I DO NOT enjoy running with him. Every time he mentions going running, I just cringe and end up coming up with a reason for us not to. It's not fair because I'm sabotaging him and myself. I feel great when I'm done, I just think I need to do it alone. He just really wants to do it together and I think would be just crushed if I suggested doing it separately (his parents are joined at the hip and Jeremy's the same). I just can't deal. So it ends up with neither of us running and then there is self imposed guilt over not working out. Then I end up with email updates all day about how unhealthy he feels.

I'm confessing because neither situation is going to make me happy. I'm a hot mess.

Ugh, I feel you. Working out is the one thing MH and I can NOT see eye to eye on. Our styles and outlooks are just so different, and this is seriously the one thing we get in huge fights about. I hate it.

SnShne322 · April 2014

Young_Love said:

SnShne322 said:

So J and I started running a few weeks ago. And I've realized that I DO NOT enjoy running with him. Every time he mentions going running, I just cringe and end up coming up with a reason for us not to. It's not fair because I'm sabotaging him and myself. I feel great when I'm done, I just think I need to do it alone. He just really wants to do it together and I think would be just crushed if I suggested doing it separately (his parents are joined at the hip and Jeremy's the same). I just can't deal. So it ends up with neither of us running and then there is self imposed guilt over not working out. Then I end up with email updates all day about how unhealthy he feels.

I'm confessing because neither situation is going to make me happy. I'm a hot mess.

Ugh, I feel you. Working out is the one thing MH and I can NOT see eye to eye on. Our styles and outlooks are just so different, and this is seriously the one thing we get in huge fights about. I hate it.

I wanted to like your post then thought it was a weird thing to like. While I don't like that you have the same frustrations, I'm thankful I'm not alone!

fabk · April 2014

@SnShne322 I wouldn't be able to run with mh. I even prefer walking without him. At least when l am by myself (well with the dog and kid) l can listen to an audiobook, walk or run as long as l want, etc. It is awesome.

packfan20 · April 2014

SnShne322 said:

packfan20 said:

So J and I started running a few weeks ago. And I've realized that I DO NOT enjoy running with him. Every time he mentions going running, I just cringe and end up coming up with a reason for us not to. It's not fair because I'm sabotaging him and myself. I feel great when I'm done, I just think I need to do it alone. He just really wants to do it together and I think would be just crushed if I suggested doing it separately (his parents are joined at the hip and Jeremy's the same). I just can't deal. So it ends up with neither of us running and then there is self imposed guilt over not working out. Then I end up with email updates all day about how unhealthy he feels.

I'm confessing because neither situation is going to make me happy. I'm a hot mess.
I really do not enjoy running with MH either. What makes it worse is that I love running with my brother.
WTF happened to the rest of my post???? I had all this great advice for you!

Retype, retype!

@SnShne322 Could you tell J that you want to run alone for some me time? Time alone with your thoughts? Maybe just once or twice a week? Maybe something like "Instead of having a girls' night, I was thinking of running by myself. I just need some quiet."

Are you going off a training plan or just winging it? If you're just winging it, could you tell him you want to do more? Like run farther/run hills/intervals? Would he still want to do it with you or would he be like "Okay, you keep going? I'm done. "

Do you run with Wes? If so, could you tell him you wanted to run without him so you could see if you go faster without Wes?

Or make it a competition: "Let's meet at this intersection. I'll start going west and you start going east and we will see who gets there faster." That way you can both run together and have some time alone.

Sometimes working out isn't pleasant. Maybe this is a test. This your "hump" to get over. Perhaps you will run with him and get faster or run longer and he'll be like "See ya. I can't keep up."

G and I have totally different running styles/goals and luckily now, he realizes that I would leave him in my dust (LOL). When I started running, I was training for a 5k so I would tell him that I NEEDED to run xxx miles today or I HAD to get in an hour of running this week. He was running to exercise but I tried to show him that I had a goal so I had to do certain things and it didn't include him.

(And really, he needs to be a big boy and go by himself even if you don't go. I don't mean to be mean, but he can't use YOU as an excuse for feeling unhealthy. No more excuses for him!

)

GreenBride624 · April 2014

packfan20 said:

SnShne322 said:

packfan20 said:

So J and I started running a few weeks ago. And I've realized that I DO NOT enjoy running with him. Every time he mentions going running, I just cringe and end up coming up with a reason for us not to. It's not fair because I'm sabotaging him and myself. I feel great when I'm done, I just think I need to do it alone. He just really wants to do it together and I think would be just crushed if I suggested doing it separately (his parents are joined at the hip and Jeremy's the same). I just can't deal. So it ends up with neither of us running and then there is self imposed guilt over not working out. Then I end up with email updates all day about how unhealthy he feels.

I'm confessing because neither situation is going to make me happy. I'm a hot mess.
I really do not enjoy running with MH either. What makes it worse is that I love running with my brother.
WTF happened to the rest of my post???? I had all this great advice for you!

Retype, retype!

@SnShne322 Could you tell J that you want to run alone for some me time? Time alone with your thoughts? Maybe just once or twice a week? Maybe something like "Instead of having a girls' night, I was thinking of running by myself. I just need some quiet."

Are you going off a training plan or just winging it? If you're just winging it, could you tell him you want to do more? Like run farther/run hills/intervals? Would he still want to do it with you or would he be like "Okay, you keep going? I'm done. "

Do you run with Wes? If so, could you tell him you wanted to run without him so you could see if you go faster without Wes?

Or make it a competition: "Let's meet at this intersection. I'll start going west and you start going east and we will see who gets there faster." That way you can both run together and have some time alone.

Sometimes working out isn't pleasant. Maybe this is a test. This your "hump" to get over. Perhaps you will run with him and get faster or run longer and he'll be like "See ya. I can't keep up."

G and I have totally different running styles/goals and luckily now, he realizes that I would leave him in my dust (LOL). When I started running, I was training for a 5k so I would tell him that I NEEDED to run xxx miles today or I HAD to get in an hour of running this week. He was running to exercise but I tried to show him that I had a goal so I had to do certain things and it didn't include him.

(And really, he needs to be a big boy and go by himself even if you don't go. I don't mean to be mean, but he can't use YOU as an excuse for feeling unhealthy. No more excuses for him! )

Word! If you decide not to go, that's no excuse for him not to go, kwim? He can't blame that on you.

He probably thinks running is a good way to spend time with you but you can spend time together doing other activities.

SnShne322 · April 2014

GreenBride624 said:

packfan20 said:

SnShne322 said:

packfan20 said:

So J and I started running a few weeks ago. And I've realized that I DO NOT enjoy running with him. Every time he mentions going running, I just cringe and end up coming up with a reason for us not to. It's not fair because I'm sabotaging him and myself. I feel great when I'm done, I just think I need to do it alone. He just really wants to do it together and I think would be just crushed if I suggested doing it separately (his parents are joined at the hip and Jeremy's the same). I just can't deal. So it ends up with neither of us running and then there is self imposed guilt over not working out. Then I end up with email updates all day about how unhealthy he feels.

I'm confessing because neither situation is going to make me happy. I'm a hot mess.
I really do not enjoy running with MH either. What makes it worse is that I love running with my brother.
WTF happened to the rest of my post???? I had all this great advice for you!

Retype, retype!

@SnShne322 Could you tell J that you want to run alone for some me time? Time alone with your thoughts? Maybe just once or twice a week? Maybe something like "Instead of having a girls' night, I was thinking of running by myself. I just need some quiet."

Are you going off a training plan or just winging it? If you're just winging it, could you tell him you want to do more? Like run farther/run hills/intervals? Would he still want to do it with you or would he be like "Okay, you keep going? I'm done. "

Do you run with Wes? If so, could you tell him you wanted to run without him so you could see if you go faster without Wes?

Or make it a competition: "Let's meet at this intersection. I'll start going west and you start going east and we will see who gets there faster." That way you can both run together and have some time alone.

Sometimes working out isn't pleasant. Maybe this is a test. This your "hump" to get over. Perhaps you will run with him and get faster or run longer and he'll be like "See ya. I can't keep up."

G and I have totally different running styles/goals and luckily now, he realizes that I would leave him in my dust (LOL). When I started running, I was training for a 5k so I would tell him that I NEEDED to run xxx miles today or I HAD to get in an hour of running this week. He was running to exercise but I tried to show him that I had a goal so I had to do certain things and it didn't include him.

(And really, he needs to be a big boy and go by himself even if you don't go. I don't mean to be mean, but he can't use YOU as an excuse for feeling unhealthy. No more excuses for him! )

Word! If you decide not to go, that's no excuse for him not to go, kwim? He can't blame that on you.
He probably thinks running is a good way to spend time with you but you can spend time together doing other activities.

It's funny you mention that, T. Posting this promoted me to talk to him on the way home. We are going to alternate days for running. One cooks dinner after work and one takes Wes on a run. One thing he mentioned was that he liked chatting on the run, and I reminded him, what run? We've been going like Once or twice a week! And I told him that we'll just have to come up with another way to chat. L, we are doing C25K. I'm embarrassed to say I'm still on week two, but hey. I'm making progress! It's not a bad idea to go at the same time but different routes, but I think he would get it.

sweetrhythms · April 2014

I have an ugly baby story that will amuse you all.

When my brother and I were in HS, the big radio station around us was having an ugly baby contest. It started because everyone knows an ugly baby but that the parents always think their child is the cutest thing ever created. They were betting that no parent would ever admit to having an ugly baby and I think they might have been collecting pictures?

Anyway, my mom called up and said that my brother was an ugly baby. Actually, she said he looked like ET. Then, to make matters worse, she told the station her last name (we do NOT have a common last name) and gave other identifying details in the course of the conversation (she said she got flustered and wasn't thinking).

This was during the morning radio show and literally thousands of people are listening. I was on the bus at the time and so was my brother. Neither of us knew about it until we got to school and the guys at his school started calling him ET and asking him to phone home. She did say that once he chunked up a few days later he was a lot cuter and was a very good looking kid. Honestly, a lot of people say my brother looks like Neil Patrick Harris, so he isn't a bad looking guy, but apparently he was not a cute baby. Let's just say she has yet to live that one down.

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