Paying Surrogates - Discuss

nfp147 · May 2014

A little background: In Canada, it is illegal to pay a surrogate.One of Canada's Members of Parliament is going to introduce a Bill that would allow payment for surrogates (I don't want to give a civics lesson, but it's what is called a "Private Member's Bill" and those rarely pass. But, I thought this would make an interesting topic.

http://www.parentdish.ca/2014/05/30/dean-del-mastro-mp-paid-surrogacy/

What do you think? Should surrogates be paid?

nfp147 · May 2014

My links NEVER work when I post a new discussion.

Here it is again: http://www.parentdish.ca/2014/05/30/dean-del-mastro-mp-paid-surrogacy/

inyouruterus · May 2014

I think the better question is why shouldn't they be paid?

lfk2013 · May 2014

I agree with @inyouruterus. Why shouldn't they be paid? They're risking their health and body to carry a child that isn't theirs for you. They'll have all the postpartum issues without a baby to take home.

seahorse01 · May 2014

This is crazy. Of course they should be paid. As long as nobody is being forced to bake a baby against their will, this should be a business transaction. Just like buying and selling eggs and sperm.

Sewilson33 · May 2014

I agree with the PP's. A surrogate should absolutely be compensated.

Aimothy · May 2014

Do I need to pay for their limo home from the hospital after delivering my baby? No.

Should they be compensated for carrying my child for me? Absolutely. If I needed a surrogate and it was the only option, I'd probably pay for that limo anyway.

BruinsBabe33 · May 2014

I do believe they should be paid, having said that, if I was close to the person the only compensation I would need would be allowing me to remain in the child's life.

inyouruterus · May 2014

^^wanna have my baby?

BruinsBabe33 · May 2014

Yes.

BruinsBabe33 · May 2014

Although, I would also require cupcakes from you.

CeciliaM21 · May 2014

I would also like for you to have my baby @BruinsBabe33 . I have a bunny that plays with a ball, remember?

nfp147 · May 2014

I agree as well that they should be paid. I thought this might stir up more debate. Oh well

DH and I never seriously thought about surrogacy, but I always imagined if we used a surrogate that I would want to buy them a huge "gift" if I couldn't pay them. You know, like a car.

islandmonkey8 · May 2014

I agree that they should be compensated. I also agree if it was a friend/family member who didn't want to be paid, I'd definitely get them some RIDICULOUS gift that they couldn't return.

seahorse01 · May 2014

nfp147 said:

I agree as well that they should be paid. I thought this might stir up more debate. Oh well

DH and I never seriously thought about surrogacy, but I always imagined if we used a surrogate that I would want to buy them a huge "gift" if I couldn't pay them. You know, like a car.

Brij!

caseyandlizzie · May 2014

@bruinsbabe33 makes really cute babies, so y'all had better take her up on that offer,

brij2006 · May 2014

seahorse01 said:

nfp147 said:

I agree as well that they should be paid. I thought this might stir up more debate. Oh well

DH and I never seriously thought about surrogacy, but I always imagined if we used a surrogate that I would want to buy them a huge "gift" if I couldn't pay them. You know, like a car.

Brij!

Damn, now I'm being summoned like MH.

Sorry, but this one I can't take a side on.

One side I feel that they should be paid because they are taking on the risk of carrying this child, and deserve compensation for that.

On the other side I feel that surrogates know what they're getting into and most women choosing to do this for someone, is not doing it for the money.

inyouruterus · May 2014

LOL ^^ STAHP.

inyouruterus · May 2014

Brij, you are OOC. for real.

nfp147 · May 2014

brij2006 said:

seahorse01 said:

nfp147 said:

I agree as well that they should be paid. I thought this might stir up more debate. Oh well

DH and I never seriously thought about surrogacy, but I always imagined if we used a surrogate that I would want to buy them a huge "gift" if I couldn't pay them. You know, like a car.

Brij!

Damn, now I'm being summoned like MH.

Sorry, but this one I can't take a side on.

One side I feel that they should be paid because they are taking on the risk of carrying this child, and deserve compensation for that.

On the other side I feel that surrogates know what they're getting into and most women choosing to do this for someone, is not doing it for the money.

I think this is even more reason to "reward" someone. Surrogacy is such a selfless act.

brij2006 · May 2014

nfp147 said:

brij2006 said:

seahorse01 said:

nfp147 said:

I agree as well that they should be paid. I thought this might stir up more debate. Oh well

DH and I never seriously thought about surrogacy, but I always imagined if we used a surrogate that I would want to buy them a huge "gift" if I couldn't pay them. You know, like a car.

Brij!

Damn, now I'm being summoned like MH.

Sorry, but this one I can't take a side on.

One side I feel that they should be paid because they are taking on the risk of carrying this child, and deserve compensation for that.

On the other side I feel that surrogates know what they're getting into and most women choosing to do this for someone, is not doing it for the money.

I think this is even more reason to "reward" someone. Surrogacy is such a selfless act.

It really is. Most likely though, people who are using a surrogate understand that and would compensate them like others have mentioned. With something very large.

Xan921 · May 2014

They should 100% be paid. They are putting their physical and emotional health at risk and deserve to be compensated for it.

MH1006 · May 2014

brij2006 said:

seahorse01 said:

nfp147 said:

I agree as well that they should be paid. I thought this might stir up more debate. Oh well

DH and I never seriously thought about surrogacy, but I always imagined if we used a surrogate that I would want to buy them a huge "gift" if I couldn't pay them. You know, like a car.

Brij!

Damn, now I'm being summoned like MH.

Sorry, but this one I can't take a side on.

One side I feel that they should be paid because they are taking on the risk of carrying this child, and deserve compensation for that.

On the other side I feel that surrogates know what they're getting into and most women choosing to do this for someone, is not doing it for the money.

Ooh ooh but you weren't "tagged" so you're not really being summoned, gaaaaaawwwwd. OMG how pathetic are you?!?

Feels good to be called out just so people can put you down, doesn't it?
But it's ok because you deserve it, right?!

brij2006 · May 2014

MH1006 said:

seahorse01 said:

nfp147 said:

I agree as well that they should be paid. I thought this might stir up more debate. Oh well

DH and I never seriously thought about surrogacy, but I always imagined if we used a surrogate that I would want to buy them a huge "gift" if I couldn't pay them. You know, like a car.

Brij!

Damn, now I'm being summoned like MH.

Sorry, but this one I can't take a side on.

One side I feel that they should be paid because they are taking on the risk of carrying this child, and deserve compensation for that.

On the other side I feel that surrogates know what they're getting into and most women choosing to do this for someone, is not doing it for the money.
Ooh ooh but you weren't "tagged" so you're not really being summoned, gaaaaaawwwwd. OMG how pathetic are you?!? Feels good to be called out just so people can put you down, doesn't it? But it's ok because you deserve it, right?!

Yup, I sure do. The outcasts always deserve it.

Aimothy · May 2014

Poor Brij. But not literally.

brij2006 · May 2014

Aimothy said:

Poor Brij. But not literally.

Neh, no poor me. I'm good with it.

MH1006 · May 2014

I don't feel sorry for you.

BackseatDriver · May 2014

I think compensating surrogates financially is okay, but I think there needs to be limits to protect women who might be doing it only because they are in a desperate financial situation. I think we need to ensure that financial reasons are not the primary motivator for surrogates and that surrogates do understand the risks and the emotional issues they potentially might face.

inyouruterus · May 2014

Backseat- why can't money be a motivator? Men don't jack off into a cup for the good of others; they do ot for money. Counseling is always a huge part of surrogacy, if done at a clinic or office that knows what they're doing.

Denying compensation would force more women into a situation where they wouldn't have access to the mental health they might need in this situation.

inyouruterus · May 2014

Brij- you're not an outcast. You're an attention seeker with terrible opinions.

BackseatDriver · May 2014

I think it can be a motivator, but shouldn't be the primary motivator. I think there should be limits on how much a person can be compensated just like when a person participated in a clinical trial. If the compensation is too high then it can be undue inducement.

I do not think men should be compensation much for sperm donation. I think enough for time and inconvenience should be it. I'm not sure where that dollar amount falls.

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