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Re: Married 14 days...and homesick!
OK..couple things here. I agree with another poster that some of this may be post wedding blues. Secondly, how old are you and have you ever lived outside of your parents home? Forget the rude comments many other people have put. We all follow a different path in life and many of us are closer and/or dependent on our parents than others. There's positives/negatives to both sides.
If you never lived outside of your parents house and are fairly young (as in under the age of 24 or 25) then trust me, this will pass. As you grow up and transition from child to adult, there is a definiitely a transition. Some of us go through this earlier in life, as in around the age of 18-20, but with millenials, this is getting pushed back further so that it happens closer to 23-26. You need and will realize that while what you had growing up was awesome, it can't last forever, and that what you have in front of you will be SO much better. As others have said focus on learning how to cook, decorate your place, explore your new surroundings, unpack wedding gifts, have fun with your husband, get involved with people in your community, etc. I'm 28, moved 1600 miles away from family when I was 25, my husband is now down here, and we still get "homesick." There are at least 1-2 times a year I just want to go visit my parents with out my husband and have some alone time. I don't see anything wrong that. It's simply an adjustment. Just know that it will get better, and many of us all went through the same "where's mom when I need her" moments as we transitioned.
hmm.
When I moved to Italy I missed my family sometimes so I called home, just like ET. I was 20 so I had been away at college for 4 years already and knew how to call collect if I was broke.
Do you mind if I ask how old you are?
You did know that you were leaving your family and forming a new family with your husband, right? That doesn't mean that your birth family vanishes but they are just not #1 priority. Your husband and your new home are #1 now. You do know that, right?
I am going to second this question.
Thanks for the replys!
I am 20 (many would say i am too young) but I am and always have been significantly more mature then my peers. My husband is 26 so its not like we are getting into a overly difficult situation or are still in such bliss we can not see how marriage will be difficult.
I moved out of my parents home about 7 or 8 months before we got engaged. It was definitally the smartest thing I could ever do. I loved not being at home! I loved cooking for my now husband and cleaning etc (and I still do enjoy doing those "housewife" things now in my own house). Thinking about what a few of the replys said, I would have to agree that I miss my home of 19 years, my routine etc. It was normal and nothing ever changed. Moving out sure helped but a week before the wedding I moved back home (it was easier with all the things going on then living 45 min away in a rural mountain area) and then I got to remember how comfortable and easy it was.
I think that it will just take me so time to make my house with my husband my home. And build a new kind of relationship with my parents that is not so....parenty.
Thanks!
Hi Marie-
Probably coming in WAY later than everyone else but oh well
I TOTALLY know where you're coming from and it has nothing to do with having spent time living away from your parents home or not...It has to do with blending your life with someone else's and jumping into the rest of your existence with another human being for eeeevvvveeeer
The unknown can be freaking SCARY and you're totally in the right to grieve for your "past life". When I first moved in with my husband (yes, we did it after the wedding. Gasp!) I too cried and had a majorly hard time adjusting. I found myself going back to my parent's house on my lunch breaks from work just to be home, even if no one was there. It was comforting to me and had NOTHING to do with still being a "baby" and "not being grown up"...I remember finding silly excuses to go home every other week or so to stay the night in my old bed (well, actually, it was a good excuse, as our apartment AC was broken and i couldn't sleep in the 100 degree weather)...It's a transitional period and just giving up the way things used to be and moving onto your new life without a thought is not healthy. Things will get easier with time and before you know it, it will feel like you've been married FOREVER lol 
hang in there!
Just thought I'd add my 2 cents here in case OP is still reading. There were some pretty judgemental comments earlier and did not actually address her feelings, rather attacked her for them.
I say to each their own some people live on their own while others never do. I lived on my own through college then relocated with my dad to a bigger city and we shared an apartment for a few years. I went straight from living with my dad to living with my DH in an apartment. I have never felt dependant on my parents even when living with them. I still paid my half for everything and lived just like an adult I just had my dad as a roommate.
In time it will get better. Make your house a home and invite family over to spend time there. That will create positive memories that will make your house feel more like home to you.