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Long Term Renting Question
We are a family of 5 and currently live in a 2-bedroom townhouse style apartment. We absolutely love it here and would happily live here for decades to come - except with 3 small children a 2 bedroom isn't going to work forever. With one boy and two girls we are looking to move to a three bedroom apartment in the next 2-3 years. We have found a few nice options and will probably be paying roughly $1300/month.
Our main reason for wanting to rent is freedom from paying for repairs and huge maintenance issues that a home can bring. I used to work in real estate law offices and I heard so many horror stories. Even our friends and family seem to deal with costly issues - totally understandable as that's part of home ownership but thinking of a sudden $10k roof repair literally makes me nauseous. DH is also not a fan of buying a house.
But - we are seriously looking to find a place to settle down until retirement or later - so like 30 years! Is being a life-long renter a bad idea? I know we could own in neighboring areas for much less than $1300 but of course the mortgage and taxes are just one part of the expenses of owning. Do you need to contribute more money to retirement if you don't have a house as an asset? Does it just make more financial sense to own if you're staying put for so long?
I feel like we're the only people we know either not in a house or saving for a house - in our situation is it silly to rent long term?
Re: Long Term Renting Question
Although I agree with @julieanne912 that buying a home makes the most financial sense when you know you aren't planning to move, at the same time, if it isn't your cup of tea...it isn't your cup of tea. Just keep in mind that, over the course of time, you are paying for the convenience of having a landlord responsible for home repairs, insurance, property tax and all the other slew of stuff that comes with home ownership.
Keeping in mind that $1300/month now, might be $2,000/month ten years from now. Rents won't stay at a stabilized amount the way a mortgage does.
If you all decide to stay long term renters, you definitely need to keep that in mind for your retirement plans. I'm guessing that most retirees own a house free and clear, which is what often makes retirement possible because expenses are less.
On the plus side, being a renter gives a lot more flexibility versus a homeowner. If you're nice neighborhood starts getting sketchy/seedy, it's easy to move. If your kids grow up and all move across the country, you can easily move also (if you wish).
I belong to a real estate investing website that has a huge forum. Believe it or not, there are LOTS of people who rent the same place for crazy long times. Some of the posters on there have had the same tenants in some of their houses for 20, 30 years.
Heck, there was one story where the tenant had outlived the owner and then rented from the heirs. He was renting the same house for over 50 years. But now the bad part, the post I read this in was the current owner asking for advice on how to best handle asking (plus helping) this 90-year-old man leave the house. Because the heirs had gotten to a point where they wanted to fix the house up and sell it, instead of renting it.
If you do decide to rent long-term in a few years, use that to your advantage. I'm a landlady and, take it from me, the worst part of owning a rental is the tenant turnover. It's costly and its a PITA. I bet a lot of landlord's would agree to lowering the rent by $50/month if you are willing to sign a 2-year lease. I know I would.
It's also appropriate to let your prospective landlord know that you are looking for a long-term rental and ask questions such as how long they have owned the house and if they have any plans to sell within the next 5 years.
For example, my last tenant was just starting medical school and...before we even signed a lease...he made it very clear to me that it was important to him to rent a place for the entire time he would be in med school. That was music to my ears and I assured him I had no plans to sell the house in that time and would probably still be living there myself. Unfortunately, him and his g/f broke up after about a year and so he only stayed for 13 months
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Thank you for all of your experience, we definitely have a lot to think about. Retiring with a rent payment and no home to sell or live in is not ideal. I also cringe at the thought of a situation like @short+sassy with losing a home after renting 50 years.
@bmo88 I do know a lot of people that seem to resent owning, although they are probably just venting since none of them are actually selling and becoming renters. I like your point of view, we definitely need to figure out what works best for the family and gives us peace.
@hoffse that's a good point about a lot of repairs being discretionary. It also sounds like a good inspection is helpful to anticipate what to save for.
Totally agree with everything @julianne and others have said. I mean, I definitely don't think you should buy if you guys just really don't feel comfortable with it, but that huge chunk of change staring you down when you pay off the house is too big to ignore, in my opinion. If you continue just renting, that money is just gone--no investment, no assets.
Also agree that a lot of large expenses are discretionary. Even some things people say they 'need' might not really be needs. We didn't 'need' a new bathroom; our fixtures functioned properly. However, the bathroom was a trainwreck with peeling walls and all sorts of nastiness, so we remodeled the bathroom when we bought our house. Still, this wasn't a 'need'. I'd say the only things we have HAD to spend money on would be appliances as they have died, and occasional furnace repairs (because it gets too cold here not to have heat!). If you decide to buy, starting an account just for home repairs/improvements would be a grand idea.
I agree with PP about putting the difference between rent and mortgage in a savings account each month to cover any home repairs if you decide to buy. In my neighborhood houses rent for $1400-1500, but our mortgage with taxes and insurance is $1150. That's an extra $3000-4200 people pay to rent per year. If you put that money into a savings account it would easily cover home repairs, plus you get the added benefit of being able to write off your insurance.
If you decide owning a home isn't for you, then I would definitely consider looking at your retirement contributions to make sure you could live comfortably in retirement with your current expenses plus any additional expenses for traveling. You may need to be contribute more, but that's ok owning a home isn't for everyone.
I think the majority of 'horror' stories we hear about owning a home are just people venting. A roof repair/replacement is no surprise. You know when something like that is coming unless a tree falls thru it, and then insurance would most likely cover it. Stuff happens and that's all part of ownership but I would say the majority of the time owning a home has been great,
Good luck in your decision! And definitely do what is most comfortable for your family, not what other people would do.
I want to start off saying that home ownership isn't for everybody. Some prefer renting and there's nothing wrong with that. As others have said, even owning has various levels with varying levels of responsibility (single family houses, townhomes, condos, etc).
That said, I think a lot of the horror stories come from poor planning. A home purchase should be a "business" decision. Don't just go look at houses and go "omg, I love this house!" and buy it. Yes, you should love your house. But look at the cost of the house, the neighborhood, the current condition of the house. Too many people in my opinion don't consider these and then get surprised when there shouldn't be any surprise. A roof eventually needs replaced. Your HVAC will eventually need to be replaced. Hot water heaters will die. This is normal, but it doesn't happen every day. I've had all of these happen in the 12 years I've owned homes, but they weren't life altering events. Why? Because I bought less house than I could afford. I put money away in an emergency fund. I knew eventually these repairs would have to be done. Even with a brand new house, if you're talking 20-30 yrs of ownership, this stuff still needs done, but it may be 10 yrs down the road. Save for it.
And just another note, while I don't think you should own for short-term stays, I don't see home ownership as inflexible as most people make it sound. A properly priced house in a good area will sell in any market and will sell quickly. The key there is properly priced. That doesn't mean what you think you should get for it nor does it guarantee you'll get enough to pay off the mortgage.
I second this. I live in a townhouse with an HOA but the dues are fairly cheap $105 a quarter so they do not cover any siding, roof, decking, etc. That's our responsibility. Also, if I had to do it over again I would not get a house with an HOA. Just my personal preference but I haven't really figured out what exactly we pay for other than someone to cut the grass on the common areas only. Snow removal is scarce in the winter and usually they come by way after it's iced over already, so it's pointless. And they don't remove snow from the main sidewalk either, we have to. Then again if you want a condo or townhouse you're pretty much guaranteed to have an HOA, at least in my area that's how it is.
The name of the website is Bigger Pockets and their web address is:
www.biggerpockets.com
I think you can search and read the forums without signing up, but registration is free anyway. Although BP will send occasional e-mails, they are not obnoxious about it. And they don't sell your info to anyone. At least I've never received spam e-mail about real estate.
IMO if you have to have a 30 year mortgage to afford a home, you're buying too much house.
Just a note on this......if you go this route (and it is a good idea depending on your finances). The rates on 30yr mortgages are higher than 15yr mortgages. The 20yr will depend on the bank. Some use the 15yr rate, some the 30yr, others come up with a different rate in the middle. The reason I mention this is the payment you need to make on the 30yr loan to make it a 15yr loan could be higher than the 15yr loan payment, so do the math.
I wanted to buy on a 15yr loan, but did the 20yr just to have some wiggle room. That's how I figured out the above.
Thanks!
Yeah that definitely would not be fun, special assessments or as another poster mentioned repairs that aren't being done correctly or in a timely manner. I'm a worrier so I'm not sure being in a situation where someone else is in charge of keeping the property safe is the best thing. On the other hand I currently trust our management company in our rental but they are professionals that have been doing this for decades.
Reading everyone's responses has definitely given us a lot to think about. I think we're becoming more open to the idea of buying, I also really want to give our kids stability and having a home might be nice for them. I would love to move to our "forever home" before DS starts school but we definitely need more time to save. I'm hoping to move him in the early elementary years, hopefully that won't be too hard on him.
On that note, what type of home did you live in growing up and did you like it? Did you move much and if so how did it affect you?
I moved a lot because my Dad was in the military. I don't think it affected me negatively but it always took a while to make friends and was a bit lonely. I really don't want my kids to have to deal with that, or at least as little as possible.