Weekend Plans?

Xstatic3333 · October 2016

@brij2006 as a fellow dark beer drinker, I found that every time I tried to fake a vodka tonic people would flat out ask me if I was pregnant. Super rude, but there you go. I switched to just carrying around a beer. Nobody notices if you never take a sip, and your H can sneak some on the fly. That or the Mustang plan. Great reason to drive a fun car!

Tonight: We are seeing Anthony Bourdain live in Boston. So excited!

Tomorrow: We may do something like apple picking, but not sure yet.

Sunday: Football! Maybe yoga too.

Monday: No clue. Hopefully not much!

Mustard76 · October 2016

Tonight- working late then going to a class at the gym. I'll probably work on my wrk project after that.

Tomorrow- mani/pedi then my SIL'S wedding "reception." They got married in Vegas in April and they're having a party tomorrow afternoon.

Sunday- morning class at the gym, then probably running around with my MIL. We'll see.

Monday- working on my work project allllllll day. It's up for review on Wednesday so it's time to finish it up on the extra day off.

LillibetteV · October 2016

hoffse said:

@brij and @lillibette, I was too - but I also decided to cut back for other reasons. I realized my alcohol consumption had gone up a good bit in the last year as work has gotten more stressful, so I am cutting back while it's still very easy for me to do. Alcoholism is a huge issue in the legal profession.

Side bonus: I've already lost a little weight! That alone tells me it was past time to cut back.

That decision just kind of dovetailed with TTC, and I figured now was as good a time as any. My cycle has been way out of whack - I went off of BC 7 weeks ago, and no AF, but I am having all of the other side effects (joy). It's like being a teenager again. Anyway, I have no idea what's going on, so I just decided to go cold turkey Oct. 1 and focus on my diet and meditating a little bit to relieve stress.

She just super caught me off guard when she asked me that, so I answered her literal question honestly. She would have been able to tell if I was lying anyway.

ooooh don't I know it. We have cocktail parties in my firm all the time! I've never worked for a firm that wasn't full of heavy drinkers (although they are pretty fun hahaha).

And awesome on the weight! Whenever I want to drop a couple pounds I cut out beer since I tend to drink more of it than wine or liquor - it's such a big difference in how my pants fit.

Going off BC can be a little wonky. My cycles were great at first and then after a few months they went haywire. Also the cramps that my BC had been preventing all those years came back with a vengeance. Every month I don't get pregnant I cry doubled over my cramps and threaten to quit and go back on my magical pills. And I actually DID have to go back on to prep for the IVF cycle I just started so I'm hoping that the period I get this weekend is an easy one.

People at my office ask me all the time if I'm pregnant and I've learned to just sort of brush it off. I'm in and out for MD appointments so much now and I had to request two days off later this month for the egg retrieval and embryo transfer and I only have approximate dates - I am hoping my 65 year old dude boss doesn't think I'm a total flake since I doubt he will figure it out hahaha. But as I'm the only litigation paralegal and I'm swamped with work this month I felt guilty just calling out sick on those days (plus even if I call out I end up getting emails at home and I won't be able to answer them while I'm in an OR!)

vlagrl35 · October 2016

@brij2006 - with DD i didn't get a positive pee or blood test until I was 4 weeks pregnant. I was so sick like right away with her. Nausea and indigestion woke me up every morning around 4 or 5 am. I was getting up twice in the middle of the night to eat cause I was starving. It was a vicious cycle of starving and puking. I didn't know what the heck was wrong with me. I went to the doc and they put me on anti nausea pills and zantac. I went to a gastrologist and was about ready to get a camera put down my belly to see if I had an ulcer when I peed on a stick that morning and got a very faint line. That's why I don't pee on a stick unless I truly miss a period. I mean it's got to be better next time right? lol.

Also why I stopped guessing pregnancy signs because it was blatantly obvious when DD so I figure it will be again with the next one.

vlagrl35 · October 2016

@hoffse - My BFF from NYC came in town several months ago and brought me a bottle of dom perignon and we are saving it until DH's studio is totally done to celebrate. I can't tell you how many times I've thought of popping it open because I think "what if I"m pregnant" when we actually open it and I don't get to enjoy it? lol.

I just started temping to chart my cycle with FF this month. It might help you understand your cycle better. I haven't been on BC since 2012 and have a very regular and predictable cycle which drives me nuts why I'm not pregnant yet! I've also been using OPKs for3 months. Just started DH on a good multivitamin plus maca root. I'm just taking a prenatal. You never know how long it will take to get pregnant. I was for sure I would be by now since it only took 1 cycle with DD.

brij2006 · October 2016

That's crazy @vlagrl35!
This time it was completely different than with DD. I got sick before the positive test, but didn't have my usual "boob" signs. lol. Even all of our chemical pregnancies and miscarriage, the girls swelled up long before a positive test. Nada this time. I even had my usual spotting 5 days before my period so I had already counted myself out. I honestly tested just to shut H up because he kept saying me puking meant I was pregnant. I figured I just ate something that upset my stomach, but it wasn't anything out of the ordinary.

Edit: Also, good luck with the temping and charting. If you run into any questions, feel free to ask. I've been doing it for 4 years now, with the exception of the time I was pregnant with DD.

vlagrl35 · October 2016

@brij2006 my first signs with DD were having to get up in the middle of the night and pee every night which was out of the normal and more gooey discharge. I had a small 3 day period with her too which I assumed I wasn't pregnant. That lasted about a week and THEN I was getting up twice a night to eat. So I have told myself that if none of that is happening then I'm probably not pregnant. Also I'm still going to drink if I want to like tonight. My fertile time should be next weekend. I may ask you charting questions. I'm not going to check my CM though. Just temp and OPK for now. I'm temping for a peace of mind at this point. Checking to make sure I'm ovulating when the OPK says I am. Who knows maybe we've had bad timing.

LillibetteV · October 2016

@vlagrl35 and @brij2006 isn't it annoying how in sex ed you were taught that if you even think about having sex you'll get knocked up?! It's clearly much harder than they lead you to believe!

vlagrl35 · October 2016

@LillibetteV - clearly it is! Now I'm thinking why did we wait so long to TTC again? I was so scared it would happen right away and I wasn't ready. Oh well - all things happen when they are meant to. Maybe this one doesn't want to come until DH is done with his project. I've thought about so many things I want to do differently next time. I was too sick to care about anything when I was pregnant with DD. I see "big sister" shirts that I want to get DD to wear to surprise the grandparents with, I want to do a cute gender revel party, I want to take weekly pregnancy photos with DD by my side. She is in LOVE with babies ever since she was 2. She keeps saying how she wants a little sister.

als1982 · October 2016

Tonight - Happy hour with coworkers.

Saturday - Errands and then a fundraising event in the evening. Should be interesting since its for our local MLS teams charity and it's held on the field. I ordered a long sleeved dress since I wasn't sure if they'd have heaters... We're also invited to the VIP players reception before so H is excited.

Sunday - I have a book report due for my class on Wednesday, so I need to get started on that....

brij2006 · October 2016

LillibetteV said:

@vlagrl35 and @brij2006 isn't it annoying how in sex ed you were taught that if you even think about having sex you'll get knocked up?! It's clearly much harder than they lead you to believe!

OMG Yes!

H and I started dating in high school. I got on BC and he wore a condom every single time up until we got engaged. We were super cautious. Little did we know then that it would take so long for us to get pregnant, and my body would need meds in order to have a cycle. Fun stuff.

jtmh2012 · October 2016

LillibetteV said:

@vlagrl35 and @brij2006 isn't it annoying how in sex ed you were taught that if you even think about having sex you'll get knocked up?! It's clearly much harder than they lead you to believe!

I love this and was thinking the same thing. Took us almost a year and we even tried temping.

vlagrl35 · October 2016

I've actually told myself that I'm giving it my all this month with the temping/opks and drugging DH up with vitamins and very precise timing and if I get AF early November then I'm stopping it all and just go with the flow for that 6th month - after that I guess I call OB for testing.

LillibetteV · October 2016

also hoffse please don't let all of our struggles scare you! Two of my best friends conceived first cycle and second cycle respectively with my nieces. It's a total crapshoot. The only upside to all this crap for us is that I don't ever have to deal with birth control again - two of the best doctors in Boston (my RE and his urologist) have told us straight up that we ain't making babies without IVF lol. So that makes life easy to plan at least. I'm hoping we get lots of embryos to freeze this cycle so we can just thaw out a sibling whenever we want one.

cbee817 · October 2016

Temping and opks worked great for us with DD#1- it took us about 6 months after going off of BC (had been on them for about 9 years). I'm not really a drinker so it was not an issue when we were TTC. For DD#2, we weren't trying or preventing and I got the positive pregnancy test 3 months after weaning DD#1. It was a little stressful because it happened so quickly, but we love that they are so close in age. DH got a vasectomy when DD#2 was about 9 months old- quick and painless for him and I like not having to worry about BC!

brij2006 · October 2016

LillibetteV said:

also hoffse please don't let all of our struggles scare you! Two of my best friends conceived first cycle and second cycle respectively with my nieces. It's a total crapshoot. The only upside to all this crap for us is that I don't ever have to deal with birth control again - two of the best doctors in Boston (my RE and his urologist) have told us straight up that we ain't making babies without IVF lol. So that makes life easy to plan at least. I'm hoping we get lots of embryos to freeze this cycle so we can just thaw out a sibling whenever we want one.

Yes. Anyone new to TTC, do not let us scare you. This is definitely not the norm and many more people have no problem getting pregnant than struggle. Also, a good thing to remember is that it can take a healthy couple with perfect timing, a year to conceive. So just because it doesn't happen in a few months, doesn't mean it can't or won't.

I don't have infertility nor anywhere near the problems of others, but have had to do some strict diet changes and lovely meds to give us a chance to conceive. It has taken a while, but we were fortunate to finally get pregnant with DD after 17 months, and are pregnant again after 16 months. Both without much intervention besides Metformin and baby aspirin.

vlagrl35 · October 2016

Yes don't let us scare you. I was knocked up the first month with DD you just never know when it will happen.

short+sassy · October 2016

One of my friends was a little upset and surprised when she got pregnant with her daughter. She said, "I just stopped taking BC two months ago! I shouldn't have been able to get pregnant yet." Me: "Ummm..what? What are you talking about? You might have trouble the very first month off BC, and even then could still get pregnant, but that's it."

She'd "heard" that it takes at least 6 months to become fertile again after going off BC, so they were planning she would get pregnant 6-12 months after that. (Facepalm!)

I wish it were that easy for everyone TTCing!

short+sassy · October 2016

labro said:

Random question and I don't really think it deserves its own thread. Our main cc company has been bugging H about increasing the credit limit on our card. Is there any reason NOT to? I figure it's probably always a good thing to have more available credit to your name right? The card is through a credit union if it makes any difference at all. I think the limit on it is around $15k currently and I have no idea what they'd be offering but I assume it would involve a hard pull on our credit.

Actually, every time I've been offered a credit limit increase, the CC companies did NOT do a hard pull. They're usually just basing the offer off the history you already have with them. If I were your H, I'd ask them if they would do a hard pull for a limit increase.

If not, I see no reason not to take them up on it. It will improve your credit card utilization score. Even if you don't have a balance on the card, that is still a good thing.

If they do a hard pull, it still might not be a bad option for the above reason. Assuming you don't have your credit pulled often, it might drop the credit score a few points, if that.

brij2006 · October 2016

short+sassy said:

One of my friends was a little upset and surprised when she got pregnant with her daughter. She said, "I just stopped taking BC two months ago! I shouldn't have been able to get pregnant yet." Me: "Ummm..what? What are you talking about? You might have trouble the very first month off BC, and even then could still get pregnant, but that's it."
She'd "heard" that it takes at least 6 months to become fertile again after going off BC, so they were planning she would get pregnant 6-12 months after that. (Facepalm!)
I wish it were that easy for everyone TTCing!

Haha I love when I hear this stuff. The local doctor everyone goes to here gives out that outdated information to women. I remind every friend who says this to me, that you can get pregnant if you miss a pill or 2, so what's to make you think it will take 6 months after no longer taking it?

LillibetteV · October 2016

short+sassy said:

One of my friends was a little upset and surprised when she got pregnant with her daughter. She said, "I just stopped taking BC two months ago! I shouldn't have been able to get pregnant yet." Me: "Ummm..what? What are you talking about? You might have trouble the very first month off BC, and even then could still get pregnant, but that's it."
She'd "heard" that it takes at least 6 months to become fertile again after going off BC, so they were planning she would get pregnant 6-12 months after that. (Facepalm!)
I wish it were that easy for everyone TTCing!

I have a friend that constantly bitched that she got pregnant on her first try. From the sound of it they literally had sex without protection one time that month and got knocked up. Meanwhile my husband and I had already been trying for a year when she got pregnant. And we're still trying even though her kid is now 3 months old. I had to take a step back from the friendship because she was so insensitive about our struggle.

On the upside I had an ultrasound this morning and we have the green light to start stimulation drugs! Then starting on Friday I'll have near daily ultrasounds to determine when we can suck those eggies out. Sh!t is getting real!

brij2006 · October 2016

LillibetteV said:

short+sassy said:

One of my friends was a little upset and surprised when she got pregnant with her daughter. She said, "I just stopped taking BC two months ago! I shouldn't have been able to get pregnant yet." Me: "Ummm..what? What are you talking about? You might have trouble the very first month off BC, and even then could still get pregnant, but that's it."
She'd "heard" that it takes at least 6 months to become fertile again after going off BC, so they were planning she would get pregnant 6-12 months after that. (Facepalm!)
I wish it were that easy for everyone TTCing!

I have a friend that constantly bitched that she got pregnant on her first try. From the sound of it they literally had sex without protection one time that month and got knocked up. Meanwhile my husband and I had already been trying for a year when she got pregnant. And we're still trying even though her kid is now 3 months old. I had to take a step back from the friendship because she was so insensitive about our struggle.

On the upside I had an ultrasound this morning and we have the green light to start stimulation drugs! Then starting on Friday I'll have near daily ultrasounds to determine when we can suck those eggies out. Sh!t is getting real!

Yay for the green light!!!! Come on eggies, grow grow grow!

Ugh on the friend thing. Our very close friends started trying the weekend of our wedding. AT our wedding she told me she couldn't drink much because she thought she might be pregnant. It was a few days before her period was supposed to come and they had been trying 1 day, so I just rolled my eyes. A month later they told us they were pregnant. Then they proceeded to tell us that they weren't really trying. They had been pulling out for a few months so they figured it couldn't happen so they just went for it. I seriously said "his P was in your V and you didn't have protection. That's trying."
We actually had a chemical pregnancy before our wedding. They were the only ones who knew about it. So we had just lost a baby, then started trying a few months after our wedding. In the meantime she was pregnant. Then she had the baby and her facebook was constantly saying "I wish I could sleep again." "Won't this baby just stop crying and sleep?" "whoa is me, I am a mom."
Yet we were struggling and did a round of treatment then lost another baby. Amidst my emotions with our miscarriage and the pain, their son was 5 months old and she was complaining to me about him. I couldn't help it, but I told her that I wish more than anything that I wasn't getting sleep because I had a newborn, not because I just lost my baby and that was keeping me up at night.
She got a lot better as time went on, thankfully, but that year was difficult.

LillibetteV · October 2016

@brij2006 the grass is always greener isn't it? I am fine with the occasional "ugh my kid is making me crazy" but the few people I know that always complain about them makes me wonder why they even had kids in the first place!

Luckily from my IUI we know that I responded really well to Clomid (almost too well, if my husband's counts were better they would have canceled it because the risk of multiples would have been too high and I was on the lowest dose possible). From everything I've been reading online I'm on pretty much the lowest dose possible for these drugs too. I'm hoping for at least 10 eggs so that hopefully even if the fresh transfer doesn't take I'll have enough frozen back-ups and I won't have to do the egg retrieval process again. Because it is more shots than I care to ever have to do again lol. If I can get 10 eggs and 7 fertilized embryos I'll feel pretty good.

brij2006 · October 2016

@LillibetteV Those are all good things! Hopefully you get enough to be able to freeze and have if you ever need them later.
Hopefully you won't any time soon though.

als1982 · October 2016

LillibetteV said:

@brij2006 the grass is always greener isn't it? I am fine with the occasional "ugh my kid is making me crazy" but the few people I know that always complain about them makes me wonder why they even had kids in the first place!

Luckily from my IUI we know that I responded really well to Clomid (almost too well, if my husband's counts were better they would have canceled it because the risk of multiples would have been too high and I was on the lowest dose possible). From everything I've been reading online I'm on pretty much the lowest dose possible for these drugs too. I'm hoping for at least 10 eggs so that hopefully even if the fresh transfer doesn't take I'll have enough frozen back-ups and I won't have to do the egg retrieval process again. Because it is more shots than I care to ever have to do again lol. If I can get 10 eggs and 7 fertilized embryos I'll feel pretty good.

Good luck! My next step in our infertility journey is a colonoscopy. The prep for that is going to be equally comical and horrifying.

AprilZ81 · October 2016

als1982 said:

LillibetteV said:

@brij2006 the grass is always greener isn't it? I am fine with the occasional "ugh my kid is making me crazy" but the few people I know that always complain about them makes me wonder why they even had kids in the first place!

Luckily from my IUI we know that I responded really well to Clomid (almost too well, if my husband's counts were better they would have canceled it because the risk of multiples would have been too high and I was on the lowest dose possible). From everything I've been reading online I'm on pretty much the lowest dose possible for these drugs too. I'm hoping for at least 10 eggs so that hopefully even if the fresh transfer doesn't take I'll have enough frozen back-ups and I won't have to do the egg retrieval process again. Because it is more shots than I care to ever have to do again lol. If I can get 10 eggs and 7 fertilized embryos I'll feel pretty good.

Good luck! My next step in our infertility journey is a colonoscopy. The prep for that is going to be equally comical and horrifying.

May I ask why you have to have a colonoscopy? I've been through a battery of infertility tests and read about standard testing and I've never heard of a colonoscopy being "standard".

Feel free to not answer if it is too personal, but I found it unusual.

als1982 · October 2016

AprilZ81 said:

als1982 said:

LillibetteV said:

@brij2006 the grass is always greener isn't it? I am fine with the occasional "ugh my kid is making me crazy" but the few people I know that always complain about them makes me wonder why they even had kids in the first place!

Luckily from my IUI we know that I responded really well to Clomid (almost too well, if my husband's counts were better they would have canceled it because the risk of multiples would have been too high and I was on the lowest dose possible). From everything I've been reading online I'm on pretty much the lowest dose possible for these drugs too. I'm hoping for at least 10 eggs so that hopefully even if the fresh transfer doesn't take I'll have enough frozen back-ups and I won't have to do the egg retrieval process again. Because it is more shots than I care to ever have to do again lol. If I can get 10 eggs and 7 fertilized embryos I'll feel pretty good.

Good luck! My next step in our infertility journey is a colonoscopy. The prep for that is going to be equally comical and horrifying.

May I ask why you have to have a colonoscopy? I've been through a battery of infertility tests and read about standard testing and I've never heard of a colonoscopy being "standard".

Feel free to not answer if it is too personal, but I found it unusual.

It's definitely not "standard," but they can only diagnose endometriosis by laproscopy or colonoscopy. They want to make sure my symptoms are endo and not something more ominous.

LillibetteV · October 2016

als1982 said:

AprilZ81 said:

als1982 said:

LillibetteV said:

@brij2006 the grass is always greener isn't it? I am fine with the occasional "ugh my kid is making me crazy" but the few people I know that always complain about them makes me wonder why they even had kids in the first place!

Luckily from my IUI we know that I responded really well to Clomid (almost too well, if my husband's counts were better they would have canceled it because the risk of multiples would have been too high and I was on the lowest dose possible). From everything I've been reading online I'm on pretty much the lowest dose possible for these drugs too. I'm hoping for at least 10 eggs so that hopefully even if the fresh transfer doesn't take I'll have enough frozen back-ups and I won't have to do the egg retrieval process again. Because it is more shots than I care to ever have to do again lol. If I can get 10 eggs and 7 fertilized embryos I'll feel pretty good.

Good luck! My next step in our infertility journey is a colonoscopy. The prep for that is going to be equally comical and horrifying.

May I ask why you have to have a colonoscopy? I've been through a battery of infertility tests and read about standard testing and I've never heard of a colonoscopy being "standard".

Feel free to not answer if it is too personal, but I found it unusual.

It's definitely not "standard," but they can only diagnose endometriosis by laproscopy or colonoscopy. They want to make sure my symptoms are endo and not something more ominous.

are you sure it isn't a "colposcopy"? I had to have one before IVF because I have abnormal paps (to be honest I was super annoyed when they said "good news it's negative!". Ugh. I know. So were the last two. Can we just accept that my normal isn't the same as other people's normal?)

als1982 · October 2016

LillibetteV said:

als1982 said:

AprilZ81 said:

als1982 said:

LillibetteV said:

@brij2006 the grass is always greener isn't it? I am fine with the occasional "ugh my kid is making me crazy" but the few people I know that always complain about them makes me wonder why they even had kids in the first place!

Luckily from my IUI we know that I responded really well to Clomid (almost too well, if my husband's counts were better they would have canceled it because the risk of multiples would have been too high and I was on the lowest dose possible). From everything I've been reading online I'm on pretty much the lowest dose possible for these drugs too. I'm hoping for at least 10 eggs so that hopefully even if the fresh transfer doesn't take I'll have enough frozen back-ups and I won't have to do the egg retrieval process again. Because it is more shots than I care to ever have to do again lol. If I can get 10 eggs and 7 fertilized embryos I'll feel pretty good.

Good luck! My next step in our infertility journey is a colonoscopy. The prep for that is going to be equally comical and horrifying.

May I ask why you have to have a colonoscopy? I've been through a battery of infertility tests and read about standard testing and I've never heard of a colonoscopy being "standard".

Feel free to not answer if it is too personal, but I found it unusual.

It's definitely not "standard," but they can only diagnose endometriosis by laproscopy or colonoscopy. They want to make sure my symptoms are endo and not something more ominous.

are you sure it isn't a "colposcopy"? I had to have one before IVF because I have abnormal paps (to be honest I was super annoyed when they said "good news it's negative!". Ugh. I know. So were the last two. Can we just accept that my normal isn't the same as other people's normal?)

No, it's a colonoscopy. Like they scope my GI tract.

LillibetteV · October 2016

als1982 said:

LillibetteV said:

als1982 said:

AprilZ81 said:

als1982 said:

LillibetteV said:

@brij2006 the grass is always greener isn't it? I am fine with the occasional "ugh my kid is making me crazy" but the few people I know that always complain about them makes me wonder why they even had kids in the first place!

Luckily from my IUI we know that I responded really well to Clomid (almost too well, if my husband's counts were better they would have canceled it because the risk of multiples would have been too high and I was on the lowest dose possible). From everything I've been reading online I'm on pretty much the lowest dose possible for these drugs too. I'm hoping for at least 10 eggs so that hopefully even if the fresh transfer doesn't take I'll have enough frozen back-ups and I won't have to do the egg retrieval process again. Because it is more shots than I care to ever have to do again lol. If I can get 10 eggs and 7 fertilized embryos I'll feel pretty good.

Good luck! My next step in our infertility journey is a colonoscopy. The prep for that is going to be equally comical and horrifying.

May I ask why you have to have a colonoscopy? I've been through a battery of infertility tests and read about standard testing and I've never heard of a colonoscopy being "standard".

Feel free to not answer if it is too personal, but I found it unusual.

It's definitely not "standard," but they can only diagnose endometriosis by laproscopy or colonoscopy. They want to make sure my symptoms are endo and not something more ominous.

are you sure it isn't a "colposcopy"? I had to have one before IVF because I have abnormal paps (to be honest I was super annoyed when they said "good news it's negative!". Ugh. I know. So were the last two. Can we just accept that my normal isn't the same as other people's normal?)

No, it's a colonoscopy. Like they scope my GI tract.

Crazy! Learn something new every day. That definitely sounds unpleasant. Good luck!

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