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Health Insurance Questions
Re: Health Insurance Questions
Just this year my H had some issues with his ankles that needed physical therapy 3 days/week for a minimum of 4 weeks straight, or surgery. It was actually cheaper for us to pay for the physical therapy with their cash discount vs going through his insurance. We also paid the specialist without insurance because it was cheaper since we had to meet his $4,000 deductible first before insurance paid anything. So that visit and testing was half the cost if we paid cash vs billing his insurance, them pay nothing, and us have to pay cash for it anyways.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
HDHP are not only catastrophic plans. They include free preventative services the same as other plans, along with similar prescription plans, vision benefits and yes, emergency and catastrophic care. Also, it makes sense that your employer has metrics for contributing to your HRA, those are employer funds and that gripe is on your job, not HDHP plans. I believe most people with an HDHP have an HSA though, which you can contribute to as well along with your employer. I think the HRA is only permitted to be employer funds. I have had an HDHP with an HSA for over 5 years and my employer contribution has never been based on any conditions.
I think the ACA does have a lot of good components, but it doesn't make health care affordable. It just forced many people into insurance plans making them covered. So you're not paying high health care prices, but you're paying through the nose in premiums.
We need to fix the actual cost of receiving care. It doesn't cost $6 for an asprin. And it annoys me when my wife gets billed for some test at $500, insurance knocks it down to $40, pays $30, and leaves you with $10. How about I just pay $40 and drop my health coverage?
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
@jtmh2012 I'm right there with you. The itemized $35,000 bill for the delivery of DD was laughable. I got there 45 minutes before she was born, had zero meds, and she was healthy. Yet the billing between the 2 of us to insurance was over $35,000. Insane!
I'm kidding but not really. If H were up for it, I would seriously use the Mennonite midwife that's just outside our town. She costs half my deductible.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
I also can confirm the ACA saved me a decent amount of money, for birth control costs alone!
On the political front, its very distressing to me that it looks like they will be repealing the ACA completely, with nothing else in place. The ACA isn't the answer, but don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. It's completely insane they think throwing 18M people off healthcare, all at the same time, is not going to be a nightmare. For everyone. Even for people who have insurance outside the ACA plans. It will have such far reaching effects.
I've always thought universal healthcare, like pretty much every other developed country has, is the answer. It's not a perfect answer either, but at least people's lives and health aren't in the hands of private industry. I sadly realize, in this country, that is a very UO. Everybody wants good, affordable healthcare. But not if that means their taxes will be raised one iota.
Sorry, off on a bit of a tangent. It's awesome to draw the "long straw" when it comes to health. But some people draw the short straw. Or some people are victims of heinous crimes or accidents. As a society, I strongly believe it is our duty to have a safety net for those people. Because, "There but for the Grace of God, go I."
I got the bill for my kids' therapy last week. Each kid sees two therapists for 45 minutes each. The bill (before insurance) is over $600. That's $30,000 per year.
This is where my head is at with the pre-existing stuff.
It shouldn't be handled as all or nothing.
So for me being 5 months pregnant, there is no way I should even be able to look at quitting my job and switching to a low deductible/maxOOP plan for the next 4 months to have baby on, then get onto my H's high deductible plan. The insurance company is being forced to take on a risk that they know they'll be paying out thousands in care for within the next 4 months, because the government is saying they have to, and they can't charge more for that increased risk. How are they supposed to not increase premiums when this is the case?
Look at it as a business. Any other type of insurance is charged based on risk. You have a DUI, you pay more for car insurance. You're a higher risk than the 45 year old that has nothing on their record. The likelihood of the company paying out for a claim with the DUI driver is much higher.
Or life insurance. You have stage 4 cancer and are given 3 months to live. Should you be able to take out $3million in life insurance now? If so, should you be charged the same premium as someone who is perfectly healthy and the same age as you?
Insurance companies can take on the risk because they can charge appropriately for the type of risk they're insuring. That's how it works. Now, health insurance most definitely became a monopoly and needed a change. You would be denied for simple things or charged higher premium because you went to the doctor for a Zpac last year. That's not right.
But it seems to be that we went from one extreme to the other and neither extremes are/were working.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
Secondly, calling pregnancy a pre-existing condition has a disparate impact on over 50% of the population. It's discrimination.
The last time I was unemployed, which was before the ACA, I called eight different insurance companies. BEGGING for someone...just to sell me a catastrophic plan, with my pre-existing condition totally excluded. Just so, if something crazy happened and I broke my leg or my appendix needed to be removed, I wouldn't face bankruptcy or being in debt for the rest of my life.
EVERY.SINGLE.ONE.SAID.NO. My pre-existing condition barred me from buying any type of medical insurance.
Never mind that, in my entire life, I've only spent one night in a hospital for anything. And that was 23 years ago. Oops! I guess I spent a few days in the hospital when I was first born also, smh.
And you all would be amazed how many people don't initially believe me when I tell them that. During all the ACA debate before it passed, I explained that a lot. Everyone assumed I meant "it was just a really expensive plan" and I'd have to explain 2-3x, "No, no. I couldn't buy any insurance, at any price."
Not saying it's right, but unfortunately that's what it has turned to.
If we wanted to turn to non-profit, then health sharing programs may be the best direction to go. But many of those have stipulations for smoking, drinking, and don't cover an already established pregnancy. They also don't have an unlimited lifetime maximum. Many max out at $100,000 in health care annually.
There were actually quite a few non-profits who opened up during the start of ACA. In hopes that they would get part of the forced insurance market and be able to offer lower premiums with higher quality service. Majority of those have stopped offering insurance.
I know in Illinois alone, they are down to only 5 companies offering insurance through the marketplace and additional ones outside the marketplace. So 7 companies total. It's actually forced the health insurance industry to become even more monopolized because now people are forced to purchase the insurance or they pay penalties, there aren't many options, and the premiums are increasing astronomically.
Here's what the average increases were in premiums from 2016 to 2017 on the 7 company options in the state of Illinois.
- Lowest-Cost Broze Plan = 44% Increase
- Lowest-Cost Silver Plan = 45% increase
- Second-Lowest cost Silver Plan = 43% increase
- Lowest-cost Gold plan = 55% increase
Craziness!
I seriously have no clue what the answer is to the healthcare issue, but obviously there are more issues than just the insurance side of things or else ACA would have worked and everyone's premiums would have balanced out because you had both the healthy and the unhealthy all insured to even out the risk.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
When you force a business to provide more services and take on more risk it only makes sense that the rates go up. Businesses are in it to make money (and we can debate whether insurance companies should be for-profit or not at a later date) and they aren't going to accept a lower profit margin and lower return for investors just because the government says they have to provide coverage for everyone and cover XZY procedures.
Insurance companies just muck things up. If you go into your doctor's office and ask how much the visit/procedure/prescription will be they look at you like you have three dozen heads. They don't know and that is largely because they bill insurance companies differently, then there are the negotiated rates and discounts and then your copay/coinsurance... It is crazy. We should be able to go in and know that an office visit is X dollars and this surgery will be Y dollars. They shouldn't get to determine what tests are covered. If my doctor says that I need a test and I agree then that should be the end of it. I shouldn't have to wait for approval to see if it will be covered or not.
I honestly think most of us would be better off paying for our own preventative care and having a catastrophic plan in place for hospital stays and major illnesses. When you add up the premiums, deductibles, copays and how much the average person actually uses their insurance I think it would be a better solution.
Insurance was never meant to cover every little thing like people expect it to now. It was originally a catastrophic plan and I wish it would go back to that.
I'd also like to point out that everyone (general "everyone") assumes if they repeal the ACA or take out some of the clauses, insurance rates are going to drastically drop. Says who?
As we've pointed out, medical insurance companies are a for-profit business. In an oligopoly industry. They'll charge whatever the market will bear. And they've already seen it bear a lot.
Sorry, this is a more broad topic. But a hot button issue that has developed for me over the last 1-2 years is how little our government protects us from oligopolies and monopolies. There is nothing better than the free market. But where it can't or doesn't exist, the government should be keeping a close eye to protect the American people. Maybe I'm wrong, but I feel like they historically used to do that, but now its just rubber stamped. I'm thinking specifically of utility companies (both energy and water), cable companies, and medical insurance. But I'm sure there are lots of other examples.
There's also the lifetime max to worry about as well.
I actually was charged a higher premium before the ACA because in 2009, I had a plate and screws put in my arm to fix a fracture, so I was deemed "higher risk". And I can confirm that my premiums had steady increases every year. Some years not as much, other years as much as $50/month.
ETA: we have no problem paying higher premiums if that means we get to keep insurance and can continue to get quality care.
About half the country hated Obama. That's their right, and I get it, but it doesn't mean that taking an immediate blowtorch to his policies is a great idea.
If I ruled the world, I'd like to see single payer, though I don't think it can happen politically in the US in my lifetime. This should not be a for-profit business. I should not have to wonder if my providers' recommendations to me are based on what is best or what pays out better. Until then, though, keeping the removal of preexisting conditions is everything. It's, in my opinion, one of the most important issues our country faces, period. Don't we want people to be able to work and contribute to the best of their abilities? Without that stipulation in MA, my friend with chronic brain cancer would have been stuck in the retail job he had when he was diagnosed, instead of getting his masters, entering the PR field, becoming a homeowner, and contributing to the economy. We all benefit from better health care by the creation of a more robust economy and society and a lower drain on our resources from other social programs. I'm willing to pay for that out of my tax dollars, 100%.
The ACA has not been a total failure, but it has been a total failure in some states. It sounds like Illinois may be one of them. In RI, there are several options of reasonable, affordable plans that we could afford. I can't say we could afford them on one income, because we couldn't afford much in our lives on one income and haven't set things up that way. I don't know what the fix for the problems among states is. It's well above my pay grade, and I'm assuming has to do with regulatory stuff.
There is a huge difference between someone with an ongoing condition (diabetes, pregnancy, cancer) and someone who broke an arm or had an appendectomy 20 years ago. Health insurance companies tend to look at any little thing and call you high risk to get out of insuring you and that isn't fair.
My mom had a lump in her breast that was just fluid and the doctors said she was all clear. When she went to get private insurance she was given a crazy high rate because she had a "pre-existing condition" which it totally asinine.
I've also had to go in to have 2 mammograms and 2 ultrasounds, for lumps that were just fluid related because of the time of the month I was at when I was at my doctor for my annual. They weren't even there in the 2nd round of testing. But now that you mention it, I worry that would also put me into a "higher risk" category. Nevermind there is ZERO history of breast cancer anywhere in my family and I'm not even 35 yet.
I talked about this in my post a few weeks ago. My job is pretty insecure at the moment, so I'd been scouting out the ACA plans. Absolutely horrific for Louisiana. But it was actually the folks on this board, talking about the ACA plans in their states, that gave me the idea to check out Mississippi plans.
Unbelievable!!!! Their plans were 10x better. They're much better than even the insurance I have right now on my employer's group plan. They're lowest Bronze plan had a $1750 deductible and my subsidized cost was cheaper.
So I had asked you all if I could buy a plan in another state and got the bad news that I can't. Why? WHY? There is just no point to that. To parlay off my (above) post, it is just another example of the government not protecting us from oligopolies. And, in fact, PURPOSELY going out of their way to limit our choices.
Opening up the ACA across state lines would be a huge, obvious stride into making healthcare more affordable for a lot of people. It would certainly be a world of difference for me. After all, isn't the word "affordable" part of the ACA acronym
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To the second bolded, big sigh. I almost wish I hadn't read that. I don't expect the average American to be up on ALL the latest events. I know the slang "Obamacare" is heard more often than the ACA, especially by anti-Obama people. But I still don't understand how anyone could miss that. Especially for people specifically on an ACA plan. Please come out from under your rock and show a modicum of intelligence. Because, if they don't know Obamacare is the same as the ACA, than they're just opposed to something they know nothing about, except it has Obama's name on it.