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Re: Could you live in a sexless marriage?
Your issue isn't living in a sexless marriage. Your issue is living in a marriage without romance, affection, cuddling, intimacy, holding, and expressions of love.
I could not be in a marriage with a man who didn't want to cuddle with me or show me affection. But if we, for whatever reason, had to go without sex, but the affection was there, I think I could do it.
It sounds like there are a lot of issues with the marriage. I think the bipolar condition might have something to do with it. He really needs to get his meds checked and have a counselor help him. You might benefit from couples counseling since it sounds like you are struggling with the way he is treating you.
Tell him flat out that you feel unloved.
My DH doesn't put out in the sex department very often, but he sure doesn't shy away from kissing and cuddling. If I didn't get those, we'd have to just be friends.
I couldn't even live in a textless marriage.
I think you got a lot of good advice here. I think the lack of sex drive, plus the like of being social, are pointing to deeper problems with your DH's bipolar issues. I hope talking to his doctors, plus maybe counseling, help crack the code.
plus-size issue sounds like a lot of crap and do NOT let it get you down -- you shake that size 18 booty and keep working on being the healthiest person you can be!
We had another bad night last night sexless no but its a struggle. Were looking a marrage counceling as we speak. See if your insurance will cover it if not see if theres another route to go on getting help so you two can get passed this.
BTW has this been an issue from the beginning?
Man, what an a$$! I'm sorry your living with this situation. My DH had made a similiar comment to me about my weight and the fact that I wasn't sexy to him anymore many months ago. At first, I accepted that and thought the no sex was my fault - but with the help of these girls I realize that it was wrong of him to say that. He, now, does too. But - throughout all that he at least would shower with me. In fact, he jumps at it anytime I offer! He also realizes him being on meds was a big part of our not having sex. Things have gradually changed for us - we sometimes go back to no sex - like now - but I think that's just because our lives have gotten so busy lately.
Best of luck to you and I hope things get better for you.