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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Friday Confessions
I confess that I'm really freaked out about our taxes. We were set for a HUGE tax return until I entered my 1098-T, which reflects my masters tuition and my subsequent full scholarships (-I have a tuition waiver through work). Upon entering the form, we went from getting a massive tax return to owing a couple hundred dollars. I am currently in the process of confirming that my scholarships should not be taxed and investigating whether I need to declare my 1098-T at all.
I want my money!
I confess that we were supposed to fly down to North Carolina to view apartments, interview, and work on the move there, but because of the storm, we might have to cancel. There's no sense in making the trip if we'll be stuck in our hotel for 3 days. I confess that I see the sense in it, but it makes me so upset! I feel like I already have one foot out the door and have almost no tolerance for anything my boss does or anything that even threatens to be a hindrance. I feel so childish for being impatient, but I really can't help myself.
Okay, I guess that was more of a vent than a confession...
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I confess that I've been slacking on homework and cleaning this week just because...instead, I've been online house-hunting, researching hobby interests, searching vacations, and tonight will probably add playing Plants vs Zombies above the more important things.
I have a superbowl party in less than 2 weeks, I guess I better get on it.
I confess that I am tired of looking for a job and have no motivation to do so any more. Its not that I don't want to go back to work, its just that after you're handed out months of rejection you kind of don't want to deal with that again. So now I am half ass looking and I feel guilty about it.
I confess to not liking a girl at work so much, that if she's offered a full time position before me, I may start a petition and let my boss know why I should get it first. I confess to being tired of worrying about it.
I confess to having just added dairy back in to my diet ( I went a year as a strict vegan) and I can't stop eating cheese. Lunch today may be an hosest to god hot fudge sundae.
I confess to sitting here goofing off, instead of going to the gym, while knowing that the Big Bike Ride is in 72 days, and if I'm going to make it, I have to get off my sundae craving ass.
I confess that I am THIIIIIIIIIIS close to telling one of my coworkers off. She thinks we are BFFs, we are the only young women in our office, if it were under any other circumstance we would SO not be friends. She spams my facebook wall (like EVERY time DH or I post anything she comments...), thinks she knows everything about everything, tries to give me relationship advice (she has never been in an LTR, let alone married), moved to the same neighborhood as DH and I and tries to hang out all the time...and this week I have just had enough. Everything about her (from the way she sniffles every 5 seconds to the way she walks) makes me want to punch her in the face.
That was a vent-y confession...I apologize.
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I confess that everyone in my office went to a "special presentation/lunch" and I could not go because it was decided yesterday that everyone could go and it would be time paid. I am the only one in the whole office who actually does anything and because of that, I am booked up a week in advance (appointments to see students). The Secretary just left and told the student hires "Kristina is in charge...HAHAHAHAHAHAH"....I hate her....and is it really that funny if I was in charge? But whatever....I'll just surf the internet and take a n extra long lunch because "I'm in charge"....
I confess that this has been one craptastic week.....I've been to the doctor 4 different times for ultrasounds, blood work etc. I am actually glad they found something wrong with my ovaries/thyroid because I am miserable (well physically). I have to get an "uptake scan" of my neck/thyroid next tuesday and am nervous about the whole "injecting radioactive dye" into my system....and laying on a table hooked up to an IV all day. I just want them to fix me already.
I finally confess that regardless of what my mother in law does, she just irritates the crap out of me. She told her whole church about my "health" situation and they formed a prayer group for me??????? WTF! I get the nice gesture but one....I am not dying....two....I really don't want everyone to know my business (you guys are different)....and three....it's like we can't tell her anything because she makes everything a HUGE deal.... She wrote me this whole email informing about all of what she did and it's like she's expecting me to thank her. I don't know how to respond. I appreciate the thoughts and prayers but don't appreciate her telling everyone MY business...but whatever.
I need a drink!
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I confess that this cold weather and snow is making me the most miserable person.. not only am I terrible for others to be around but I don't even want to hang out with myself!! I just hate winter! Moving here from Florida was a big change for me and I am happy I did for a while but now I am ready to go somewhere warm... DH and I are hoping to move to Cali after I graduate but that doesn't fix my problem right now. Its like I NEED SUNSHINE! I am so much happier and productive when its warm... What can I do to make winter days better and make it through the next 3 months??
I confess that I have been very disciplined about going to the gym since the beginning of January since I quit going after the wedding I am not really wanting to lose weight just tone up my legs and stomach area. I have been running lifting weights etc. but what do you ladies do to get your stomach tight and toned? Plus DH birthday was Wed night and we went out to the Melting Pot for dinner between the Chocolate Fontini I had and the orgasmic chocolate dessert I probably cancelled out all the work I've done so far... oh well it was worth it!!!
Long Story.
MIL taught DH some really horrible financial habits when he was growing up. Basically, if you like something on a shelf, get it and don't worry about the money. I've worked really hard to teach him that's not how it works and I wasn't going to be with him if he wanted to live like that. He completely understands that he cannot make random useless purchases on his debit card (overdrawing his account) and hasn't done anything like that in about 2 years.
The main thing I'm still working on is convincing him that other people are not going to buy that stuff for him either, if he wants it he has to save his money to buy it himself.
He really wanted a new computer and I told him that this is a good chance for him to learn to save. I'm not going to put any money into it and if he wants it he has to save his own money. He agreed but didn't save any money at all in the past year. His mother asked why he still didn't have a computer (basically why didn't I buy him one?) and he told her what was going on. She decided I'm stupid and she knows everything so she bought him the computer he wanted.
This makes me sad, I'm sorry
Keep looking and something great will turn up! I know it!
Hang in there buddy! It's important that they get to the bottom of this so you can get better. I'm thinking of you! (and I won't form a prayer group at church, I promise
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Have some
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Ummm...I'd totally be upset with DH over this. Yes, him mom was wrong in buying him the computer, but he was wrong for 1) explaining everything in a way that put the burden on you, and 2) accepting it. Just my opinion. Why didn't he tell her it's none of her business?
Thanks dvshaw! I am sure it will work out, I have just been discouraged lately.
Kristina - T & P for you and your health situation! I hope they figure out the problem soon so you can get to feeling better!!
I'm mad at him too. He doesn't understand what's wrong with her doing that. He doesn't get that this is an important thing for him to learn.
When she first mentioned it he told her he didn't need one right now and he was perfectly fine using mine since he only used it for email anyway. Then she mentioned buying it for him and he told her no, he would get one when he needed it. She kept pestering him about it saying even if he didn't need it she still wanted to get it for him.
After she bugged him enough asking why not he told her that we had made a deal that he would save to buy it himself because he had a hard time saving his money and needed practice. She said that was stupid and hung up. Then she showed up while he was working (he sells computers) and asked one of his coworkers which one he had been looking at and she bought it.
I have discussed with her before how the things she has taught him have affected our relationship and she thinks that's rediculous because she has caused her husband thousands in debt and her marriage is fine.
Wow... that's pretty ballsy of you to have that conversation with her. I can't imagine how she would take that other than "you raised your son wrong." I wouldn't be surprised if this whole buying a computer thing was more about her demonstrating her spite towards you than her spoiling her son.
Has your FIL said anything about the purchase of this new computer?
It was a long time ago when I talked to her about it. She heard me tell him that something was too expensive and got on my case about it saying that if he wanted it then he should get it. I told her that he didn't even have that much money in his bank account. I don't think I actually blamed it on her but I told her that he did things like that a lot causing me to get stuck with ALL our bills. She pretty much expressed that I should always pay all the bills and then he won't overdraft his account. Her husband pays their bills so that she can just spend money.
FIL doesn't care about any of it. He's completely whipped. He's a truck driver and makes tons of money. He can afford to almost keep up with his wife's spending so he lets her do it. If he does have an opinion about it the most he would do is say he didn't mean anything by it.
I confess that I'm super mad at my MIL. I posted on FB yesterday that we are trying to decide if we are going to use my maiden name as our kids middle names (like mine is) so that our kids have something from my side as well or we are going to name them after people using their middle name. Just in a condensed not so rambling form.
A bunch of people responded joking about how I could name them after their name and so on.... then my MIL responsed my DH's whole name is the the 1st DH's last name grandson and yada yada "keep that in mind". If you knew her, you'd know that was a threat. It pissed my DH & I off instantly. They are trying to force us into naming our child a "J" middle name for every boy we have. We originally wanted to use my maiden name or name our first and second boys after my Uncle and grandfather. My DH is all for this because he's closer to my family then his own. I'm still so pissed that she'd have the balls to say anything that I could scream! My DH responded right away that we will name him or her what we want and we aren't going to use anyones opinions. I further poured gas on the fire by writing the babys name will be what the MOTHER & FATHER name them.
ARGH.... thanks for letting me vent!
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I confess that I am impressed that you have a Christmas shower curtain!
I can tell you the radioactive tests aren't as bad as they sounds...the freaked the crap out of me...actually I think I was more afraid of the dye testing than I was of my first radiation tx. If you need anyone to talk to I am here, I battled (and won) thyriod cancer this past year and have IF so I can relate to what you are feeling.