no flowers? just wondering :)

Trishd · February 2010

candr09:

i hate flowers. Last time DH bought be flowers, the whole vase got thrown in the trash the day he bought them... he learned his lesson since then.

ANYWAYYY... if you want flowers, buy them for yourself. You don't need a man to do everything for you!

I dont know what kind of "hints" your giving him... but if you really want HIM to buy you flowers, just flat out say "it would really make my day if you bought me a rose.. they're my favorite flower!"

If you do that, and he still won't do it... i'd consider finding another man.

Is your husband looking to divorce you anytime soon? I have a friend who's looking for a nice guy and would appreciate it if you sent your husband her way. Thx!

Mrs.Masie · February 2010

candr09:

i hate flowers. Last time DH bought be flowers, the whole vase got thrown in the trash the day he bought them... he learned his lesson since then.

ANYWAYYY... if you want flowers, buy them for yourself. You don't need a man to do everything for you!

I dont know what kind of "hints" your giving him... but if you really want HIM to buy you flowers, just flat out say "it would really make my day if you bought me a rose.. they're my favorite flower!"

If you do that, and he still won't do it... i'd consider finding another man.

I sincerely and truly feel sorry for your husband. You are a grade A grinchy cvnt.

steen05 · February 2010

How do you "hint" at wanting flowers? Did you tell him. Hey, honey, I really want flowers this year for valentine's day? Or did you say hey, Kroger's has roses on sale for $9, and it would be great to have some fresh roses on the table for dinner tonight?

If he doesn't like to buy them, you may need to take a more direct approach. Or like others said, buy your own flowers.

AbbeyRoad77 · February 2010

magsugar13:
... he's always like "eh". He says that "flowers aren't his thing" or that hes "not into buying flowers".
Next time he wants a BJ....tell him "eh, they just aren't my thing, I'm not into giving BJ's!"

This exactly. I don't agree w/the other PPs. It's not about them being HIS thing, it's your thing, so he should do it for you. That being said, I think some women think their hints are clear, but they might not be. You might have to just come right out and ask for them.

jonesdouglas · February 2010

Flowers are not that important to me, but if they are to you then that's what you need to tell him.

LoriBee · February 2010

If you want flowers say, I would really love it if you bought me flowers for ___ insert when you want them here. I have realized being direct is the best way to get what you want.

LoriBee · February 2010

candr09:

i hate flowers. Last time DH bought be flowers, the whole vase got thrown in the trash the day he bought them... he learned his lesson since then.

ANYWAYYY... if you want flowers, buy them for yourself. You don't need a man to do everything for you!

I dont know what kind of "hints" your giving him... but if you really want HIM to buy you flowers, just flat out say "it would really make my day if you bought me a rose.. they're my favorite flower!"

If you do that, and he still won't do it... i'd consider finding another man.

Really??? How would you like it if you bought him a gift and he chunked it in the trash? If I were him I would never buy you anything again! That is so unappreciative and just an ugly way to act toward the person you love!

massangel · February 2010

but aren't you the same person who posted about the diamond necklace and wrote "You can send me flowers on a random tuesday just because, and i'll be the most greatful person in the world" and now you say the last time he bought you flowers you threw the whole thing in the trash? wow, you must be a real treat to live with.

bigred1500 · February 2010

AbbeyRoad77:
magsugar13:

... he's always like "eh". He says that "flowers aren't his thing" or that hes "not into buying flowers".

Next time he wants a BJ....tell him "eh, they just aren't my thing, I'm not into giving BJ's!"

This exactly. I don't agree w/the other PPs. It's not about them being HIS thing, it's your thing, so he should do it for you. That being said, I think some women think their hints are clear, but they might not be. You might have to just come right out and ask for them.

So why is it ok for you to play the no bj game because it's not your "thing", but it's not OK for a guy who isn't into buying flowers because it's not his "thing"? What's the difference?

I like BJ's. If you're not really into giving them you should still have to because I want it? I wonder for how many of you this holds true in real life. Or maybe it's just up to me to go out and buy one for myself if you're not into giving. Why the double argument here?

magsugar13 · February 2010

I m sorry if you can't comprehend what I meant. I was making a point. If he likes BJ's and wants one once in a while, but they arent really her thing should she just say that? Sorry you are never getting a BJ because hey they just arent my thing.

My point...I'll spell it out for you...

We do things for our partners to make them happy sometimes even if it isnt what we like or would want. It is called making your partner happy, making small sacrafices....etc...

No double arguments at all...you obviously missed my point.

JessAndTrav · February 2010

While it sucks that you want him to buy flowers and he won't, I do think that you should just go out and buy flowers for yourself. Not only will you have something pretty to look at, but if he sees how much you enjoy them, he may take the hint.

I would consider really talking to him about it in the most non-naggy way possible.

Not just about the flowers, but more about how it's the little things like flowers that show that he cares. Communication is key in any relationship.

But really, go buy yourself some pretty flowers. Today I went to the grocery store and bought a bouquet of tulips for $4 and a mixed bouquet with lilies, daisies and wildflowers for $6. They're for a gift for someone, but they were still inexpensive yet really, really pretty.

OMG Guinea Pigs!! · February 2010

magsugar13:
... he's always like "eh". He says that "flowers aren't his thing" or that hes "not into buying flowers".

Next time he wants a BJ....tell him "eh, they just aren't my thing, I'm not into giving BJ's!"

I agree. I wonder what else he's selfish about, and I'd most likely throw this fish back and find someone who will buy me things that are important to me.

For what it's worth, I;m not a big flower fan either, but DH buys me plenty of things he's "not into," including ski equipment that is all pink, fancy chocolates, etc. Gifts aren't about the giver.

chrissykaren · February 2010

Hmm... I was sure DH wasn't going to get me any for Valetine's Day, and he totally stepped up and managed to do it! I know flowers aren't "his" thing, but I love them.

This may sound weird, but have you tried getting a sister or friend to tell? If you don't want to tell him straight to his face, that may be a good approach. Our family is super-close, and we are always hounding each other for gifts/wants/etc. so we don't have to ask the person we are buying for. I send out a birthday list for DH, he never knows what I put on it, and he LOVES the gifts he gets . It is great. Maybe his sister or BF could be like, "SERIOUSLY. Just buy the woman FLOWERS". I know I'd do it for my SIL if my brother was letting her down!

2carbuffs · February 2010

My H is like this too. I would love to get flowers at work just ONE time. Two years ago, he bought me a hanging basket for my bday. To him, that's more practical b/c I can keep it for a long time.

tommyandy · February 2010

Every time he asks if you want anything from the store, say flowers. If that doesn't work, specify the type & color.

no flowers? just wondering :)

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