My Dh wants to know....

CJVomund · March 2010

I don't find it disrespectful at all. My H gets back from deployment in less that 2 weeks and that will end up being our primary way of not getting pregnant, we don't want to use anything else because we wouldn't really mind if we did end up pregnant.

I will have to agree that his view of it being okay before you all got married and not okay now is a little off to me.

steen05 · March 2010

He pulls out everytime, unless we are trying to get PG. Even when I am on the pill, he pulls out. I don't think it is nasty. He thinks the stuff is nasty and won't touch it, but he always gets a towl for me to clean up with afterwards. After I have cleaned it off we cuddle.

angelswats · March 2010

steen05:
He pulls out everytime, unless we are trying to get PG. Even when I am on the pill, he pulls out. I don't think it is nasty. He thinks the stuff is nasty and won't touch it, but he always gets a towl for me to clean up with afterwards. After I have cleaned it off we cuddle.

yeah, same here .. Its better than leaking after its done.

justlld · March 2010

Ok, I don't get the not wanting to leak thing. Why don't you just use condoms? We're TTC right now, so we're not using them, but I can't wait until they come back.

2carbuffs · March 2010

TarponMonoxide:

For one, disrespected isn't a word. It's something low class in nature and there is no such animal in the English language. The word respect has no past tense.

Disrespect can be a verb & therefore can have a past tense.

2carbuffs · March 2010

DH rarely ever does this, but I don't mind it on occasion & don't feel disrespected. Reassure your H that's fine to do anything both of you enjoy now that you're married.

Tracita · March 2010

Why would he pull out? Just to spuge on you? I don't get that, but whatever floats your boat. And why would it be okay before you're married but not after? Is this some variation of Madonna/whore syndrome?

jonesdouglas · March 2010

Umm....My H ejaculates inside of me. But I definitely don't agree with it being "disrespectful" if he pulls out.

pixiplayer · March 2010

emmypants:
ashleym909:
Awtrey3810:

BBgurl:
I guess I'm a whore who likes to be disrespected
This.
guess im the biggest fvcking whore here
im disrespected (not a word sorry) on my:
stomach, mouth, face, and in me. yesss!
Ashley, I love you.
Oh, and me too.

Ditto. It's fun. DH doesn't like it nearly as much as I do....

Yvette92 · March 2010

I don't mind it and we do it sometime. I'm not a big fan of when he comes on my back since it's harder to clean off. Actually, I get so wet during sex, and when he comes in me it mostly comes all back out, so my legs get pretty messy anyway. I don't mind it on my stomach or legs or mouth. Not a fan of straight on the face... I don't really do that.

SocialWorker2B · March 2010

belovedbride07:
TarponMonoxide:
For one, disrespected isn't a word. It's something low class in nature and there is no such animal in the English language. The word respect has no past tense.
While I agree that disrespect/disrespected is over-used and abused today, and most certainly grating, according to both the OED and Merriam-Webster, it is a word:
http://www.dailywritingtips.com/that-annoying-new-verb-%E2%80%9Cdisrespect%E2%80%9D/ (cites OED; I tried to confirm this on my own but I can't figure out the password to my library account that lets me view the complete version)
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2004/01/word-court/2886/ (cites OED and Merriam-Webster)

I don't agree that the word is overused.

But, I was certainly re-reading the post over and over, not a word? Ummm, yup, it's a word. That's actually one of the funniest things I've read in a while. Not a word. Haha.

SocialWorker2B · March 2010

I do not like it AT ALL. I have had a past boyfriend do it and it was horrible.

MH has never asked, or expressed any interest in doing it, thank goodness because the answer would be a resounding no.

I do feel completely disrespected by it. Uh-oh, I just used a non word. :-)

OP, I find it sickening, however, that YH thinks it is agree to 'disrespect' and treat a girlfriend like a 'whore' but not a wife. You do understand that that means before you got that pretty e-ring, you were essentially a whore to him, right? Wow, in print, that looks even worse than it did in my head.

I think he needs cognitive and sex therapy STAT.

mattandbecka · March 2010

My H finishes on me about 1/2 the time. We're not TTC and I'm on the pill. Now that we're married we use condoms less (they tend to make me irritated) I agree leaking all day/night long is annoying and cleaning it up can be tricky if it's on my back. But really, as long as it's away from my face/hair I'm okay with it and he likes it... like I said we're still not TTC so why not?

Amber68W · March 2010

dirtyred:
As long as it's not on my face I don't care.

This.

yourmom5309 · March 2010

BBgurl:
I guess I'm a whore who likes to be disrespected

Glad I'm not the only one. Honestly, it is hot in the moment. However, I am always amazed that sperm comes out warm but can turn into zero degrees goop within a second. The zero degrees goop - not so hot.

Mycrimsonheart · March 2010

I didn't mind it before and I don't mind it now, it's fun and usually done to mah Tata's and bum!

Just because they do it in porn doesn't mean it makes women whores - it just makes it sexy.

Plus you don't want your husband to be think of you different sexually now. You're still that naughty girl!

hiswifey23 · March 2010

It dont bother me at all. And I dont feel disrespected.

sara7238 · March 2010

I'd say it's only disrespectful if it's something you don't like and you've asked him not to do it. Otherwise, it's all good. I like it when I'm in the mood for it... as long as it's not my face. I don't think the face thing is bad, I just really don't like the feeling of anything running down my face.

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